Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

@Realitysucks nope there’s no sedation they just tell you to take 2 paracetamol beforehand then send you away with a 5 day course of antibiotics. The procedure is just done in a normal consultation room with an ultrasound and they warned me when the pain would start to be fair and it lasted about 10 seconds (was really bad though!). Afterwards I had painful cramps for a couple of hours then was totally fine the next day.

I’m doing ok - thank you for asking. Been struggling with MS which got to the point I just couldn’t function any more because it was stopping me sleeping so now on anti sickness tablets which are helping a lot 😊 I’m assuming that the fact that I’m feeling so utterly shocking is a good sign that everything is ok. Im really missing my private IVF clinic - the nhs midwives have been utterly useless so far - just found out today (when I started chasing because ive heard nothing) that my 12 week scan which should be due next week was booked in for a January when I’d be 16 weeks! When i complained to the ultrasound department they tried to accuse me of not knowing my dates - so I informed them it was an IVF pregnancy and dating scans had already been done - turned out the6 hadn’t even read the booking form which detailed all that - just booked me in for January because they were busy! Then they promised to sort it and ring me back and I’ve not heard a thing since 😔

Wishing...really sorry to hear of your mc. my heart goes out to you xx

@WishingonaStar77 sending you the biggest of hugs ❤️ 5 is incredibly hard on you...Has any light been shed on why via tests?? I really hope your next little bean is your rainbow bub ❤️❤️❤️ I met a lady who had her little girl after 11 miscarriages..I have no idea where she got the mental strength from to keep going...

Somewhere in there is a good egg, I'm sure xxx

@wishingonastar77 tmIm so sorry, that is so difficult. Big hugs to you both 😞

@Crittertamer all ok with you? I’ve been away a bit as all just got a bit too much and had to focus on work. Did they sedate you ? They are just saying to drop a couple of paraeatamol and ibuprofen so I presume I’m awake! 😬

@Russkipsy thank you. It does suck massively. Fingers firmly crossed for your little eggbert.. hope it divides beautifully for your egg transfer..

@CritterTamer thanks yes we are. I'm very emotional at the moment and have snapped at him a little but he's being very patient. Must keep remembering hes hurting too.

My sister on the other hand keeps telling me how common chemicals are and she has probably had loads (she's not even trying) and blighted ovums are very common too. Not helpful.. 😔

Are 5 miscarriages common?? Wouldn't have thought so 😭

Hope you're little beans are snuggling away nicely 😍 xx

@Wishingonastar77 - I’m so sorry to read this, that’s very sad. Hope you and DH are taking care of each other xxx

@Realitysucks - I had the scratch done on this cycle. I obviously can’t say whether that was the reason it was successful or not because so many other things were different too, but I would definitely have it again. Be warned though - it’s extremely painful (doesnt last long though!)

Thank you ladies!
@WishingonaStar77 , I'm sorry to read your news! This sucks and just not fair! Look after yourself! Our time will come and we will have our little rainbow babies!

Hi Ladies, just checking in for a sad update.. just had a scan at 6 weeks and the sac is empty and much smaller than expected. Not even a good shaped sac either and too small even for 5 weeks.
I actually got a 3+ on CB digital last week which would have put me at 5+ weeks.

She couldn't rule out an eptopic which is scaring the crap out of me!! Not sure what to do next apart from call the RMC unitl in the morning. I'm taking Cyclogest so don't want to hold up a natural MC.

Gutted as this will be failure number 5 😥
I took another CB test just now but had really weak urine after over drinking for the scan. It went to 2-3 so I'm hoping that means it's starting to fail and not eptopic.. surely even with weak wee I should be maintaining a 3+ after 5 days from then I first got it?

I guess I'm just praying now it's not eptopic and failing naturally..

Down the snake I go back to square 1 😢 xxx

@Cleo I can totally relate. We were due within weeks of each other. Hope you're having an evening for you and allowing yourself time to remember your little one.
Meanwhile over here I am approx 5dpo, starving and nauseous in equal measure so clearly in line for a bfp this cycle 🙄 oh Ive grown to hate the tww! Remember the days when it was exciting and filled with potential and hope?

Hi all,

I’ve been off for a week or so and struggling to catch up! Hi to everyone new and I’m sorry for those with AF and losses 😞 So no LH surge for me last cycle and AF came yesterday so I took to the gin 🤬 work busy and stressful but all set for ICSI in jan. if anyone has had this, has anyone had infusion and scratch? Mine is booked for 19 Jan. All on the basis of Af starting the right time end of December. It’s also become apparent I’m on a 24 day cycle 😞 so getting shorter!

That's a lovely msg Snowie!

Welcome @mahotsukai and
@lii222. Sorry to hear of your mmc’s. I also had 2 before DS who was 3rd time lucky. They were about 8 wks each time.

Welcome @CamdenTownie

good luck @Presh12345

@karryk.. my deepest sympathies to you. Like Orchid I lost my mum 2.5 years ago. It's so heart breaking but does get easier with time. I Just try to focus on the happy times.

I'm sorry if I missed anyone out. I went to the gp about my palpitations and bad AF and he said as I had hormone tests done in May It wouldn't have changed in that time.. he said my FSH was 25 and my LH was 3. They only worry if they are in the hundreds! I love him! Considering I'm 46 that's pretty good but then if m/c rate is 80% I'm terrified too!

Hi Orchid,

It will likely be towards the end of next week.

How are you doing?

Thinking of your little embryo Russ. It totally only takes one and the doctors prognosis is good!!

Sorry to hear the stories about losing loved ones. It breaks my heart. Take time and take care of yourself, sending lots of love.

I am in the middle of stims for my ivf cycle. Feel ok but trying not to think too much about it as it's out of my control. Just trying to live a healthy life now and focus on good nutrition and getting plenty of water, though it's hard when you're so busy with work and also have a 1 yr old to look after.

Miscarriages/loses are really hard to deal with especially when the time comes around with the due date. I was so naive about this before i started trying for a baby and had no idea about the miscarriage rate increasing with age - although it makes sense to me now! Maybe I should have started trying sooner, although i think 8 months into a relationship is still quite soon. If i hadnt had my loses - 2 mc and 2 CP i would have a whole brood of babies at home by now!! Nevermind, we have to deal with the hand that we are dealt and focus on what we have/are doing now. I have to remember that i am already lucky to have a wonderful family and life. Just hope i can maybe add just one more!

Have a lovely day ladies xx

@Russkispy I’m sure you still have every chance of it working, try to stay positive.
Oh Cleo, that is definitely a sad day.... definitely have wine, and chocolate is good too.

On another matter, we have had no heating or hot water since we got back from Edinburgh on Sunday, I haven’t had a shower since Monday and I am feeling just a little bit stinky.

@Chatbash72 and @Rose68 , yes ha k you for your support! I keep saying this fight is not over yet and I k ow it only take me one! Let's hope this is my ONE! My doc even said this only one would result in pregnancy! Let's bloody hope so! But I'll be discussing plan B as I love having a good plan! It gives me comfort and hope and the rest!

Fingers crossed presh, and russkispy - it only takes one, lets hope that one is it!

Sorry to those that won't be giving birth at concerts

As for me, it would have been my due date today had my earlier pregnancy survived. Sad day. Will be having much wine instead.

@Chatbash I now won’t be giving birth at the take that concert in late May or going skiing while 6-7 months pregnant

@Russkispy you only need one. My sister did ivf and only got one embryo, she thought it was all over. But then it worked and she got pregnant with identical twin girls. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the end of the story.... she had them at 27 weeks and only one made it, but she is now a very healthy and happy 8 year old.

Welcome @CamdenTownie.. perfect time to get busy 😘
@karryk I'm so sorry for you loss.. 💕 fingers crossed the line gets darker..
ooh fab @Russkispy go little egg get dividing 💕
@whyhaveidonethis I had a mid cycle bleed in the summer and a bfp but was nothing.. out bodies are strange beasts..
good luck @Presh12345
Sending baby dust to all.. af is knocking on the door.. and it's our anniversary! Well dtd last night so his tubes are clear for after the bitch has gone.. I guess on the plus side unlikely to be giving birth at the pink concert.. but would have owned that headline.. 🤣

Good luck @Presh12345 ! Everything crossed for you!
Thank you @Orchid222 . This fight is not over yet!

Not great news here, only 1 survived after fertilisation and nothing to freeze. This only 1 is dividing in cells and my doctor has good prognosis for it. I can only pray now! Will be discussing plan B after ET. Im just hoping and praying it survives till Saturday transfer!

So sorry to hear some of these stories. 😓
I went for iui#2 this morning. All went as planned. He said everything looked even better than last attempt. Let's see. I can't help feel negative that there's no way I could be so lucky. But then I know I have to stay positive.