Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

Taxgirl - your rhr is nice and raised so I reckon it's likely you are either just about ovulate or you are having a slow rise this cycle. Hopefully tomorrow will look clearer

Oh definitely Critter!

Hi @Weasledee. Haven't complained as I wouldn't know who to complain to! Complained to the ultrasound department and was basically told tough luck. GP surgery says the midwives are nothing to do with them.

Scan is on Wednesday so if you want to see it I'll put the picture up here when I get back 😊

@littlemimosa I know what you mean about the pregnancy announcements. I just found out another one of my NCT group is pregnant with their 2nd. So that's everyone in that group pregnant apart from me now :( I just wish I knew if it was going to happen for me or not. If I knew it wouldn't then I could move on and come to terms with only being parents to our lovely little son!
@CritterTamer congratulations on reaching 12 weeks :)
Hope everyone else is doing as well as they can be, and I'm sending out good vibes for those currently undergoing IVF! x

Hi critter! Wow that's awful! Have you complained? That's really terrible service that you can't have the screenings done?! Have you got a recent scan pic? I'd love to see it 🙂

Hi ladies
Hope you're all doing OK today! I've been offline for a few days as my ipad packed up but DB has now bought me a new one so catching up with everything now - such a busy thread with so much going on! I just wanted to say good luck to all those going IVF cycles at the moment - I know how hard it is! My fingers are crossed for all of you 🤞

I'm almost 12 weeks now and having a scan on Wednesday - unfortunately having to pay for a private one at my IVF clinic as my midwives/hospital have been an utter shambles and booked my 12 week scan in for 16 weeks. After a week of arguing with them they're now moving it forward to Xmas eve which is the absolute earliest they can fit me in, but that will still be 14 weeks and they've told me I won't be offered any antenatal screening (such as it is for twin pregnancies in this area) as it's too late! I really miss my private clinic!

@Orchid222 thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️ fingers and toes crossed. Yes, it wasn't the best time to be pregnant in that sense..it's hard to focus on myself without feeling guilty.... Whatever happens though, I'm determined to make 2019 the start of looking after myself again. I'm having a reiki session on Thursday which I'm quite looking forward to 😊 xxx

@Rose68 indeed....if there's anything I've learned from my experience with pregnancy so far it's that nothing means anything until it means something! I've had spotting that ended up in mmc whereas the big bleed was a successful pregnancy. It's all so random. I just hate this period of limbo in-between. I may take your advice and try to see the gp in the morning - if they can get me a referral to the epu before the private place at least I can start to deal with whatever the situation is...? Biggest hugs - feeling a bit lonely at the moment so thank you for taking the time to send some comfort 😊❤️ xx

@karryk I had spotting with the mmc I have just had, but there are so many stories on line where it’s fine. It would be much cheaper to go to the epu, and there shouldn’t be any reason why they wouldn’t see you quickly. I had to get a referral for mine too, but I got a same day doctors so I got the referral straight away. Let us know how you get on. xxx

@Rose68 thanks they can see me on Friday morning so I'll just have to sit tight until then . I had a heavy bleed at 5wks with dd1 and was convinced we'd lost her only for bean to be jumping about at the follow up. Strangely, spotting scares me more - both mmc started like that 😣 anyway there's nothing I can do now so here's hoping...

I did think about going to a nearby EPU but they are referral only so by the time I got one of those it'll be towards the end of the week anyway. Plus the woman I just spoke to at the local unit was horribly brusque...I don't understand why they employ people with no tact or sensitivity in these departments (or any to be honest!).

@Cleozeta thanks for the input - makes sense given everything (and I'm literally only just starting OPKs this month).

I reckon I'm not pregnant - 5 tests of varying degrees of reliability have told me so (as bad a habit as my smoking was) so this month it's data gathering and recreation DTD rather than procreational.

I'll make sure I follow the instructions clearly this month and see if I am ovulating at all. If not, plan B.

Many thanks!

@karryk spotting can be fine, but I think it’s a good idea to get the scan as soon as poss. I think you are over 6 weeks now so they should be able to tell if it’s viable. FX for you.

@Candy43 Welcome! Sounds like you have a great plan, and that’s kind of how I felt when I was trying to talk DH into ttc. I hope it works out for you without the stress that most of us on here now feel.

@Taxgirl1 I have never done the whole temperature / charting thing, so I can’t really help. I do know that when I concieved both my boys I didn’t get a positive opk, but clearly I had still ovulated. For me the charting would just be something else to obsess and stress over.

@Presh12345 it sounds promising x

I've started spotting.... The symptom I didn't want will see if they can see me sooner...I'd just booked for next week...big sigh 🙄

Cleo, here you go. Doesn't look very promising. I was taking progesterone last cycle - I had a solid smiley face on day 10. Now on day 14...

Mimosa I also know what that feels like. I met up with my NCT group yesterday - 2 of them are pregnant and I have my suspicions about another of them. I'm struggling today.

Taxgirl - can you post your chart? If I were you I'd keep doing opk's as you may get another surge. Also keep temping as it may just be a slow rise (I have that sometimes) unfortunately things do change in our 40's and it's not always so predictable anymore.

Snowie and orchid - good luck with your scans

Karry - good luck with your private scan

Presh - fingers crossed for you!

Mimosa - it's so heartbreaking isn't it. When will it be us?

Welcome candy

Morning sorry to intrude. I’ve been reading some threads mostly because I’ve been looking at the chances of getting pregnant at 42 and stumbled across this one.

My husband and I aren’t trying as such. We don’t want the stress etc. Usually we use a natural method of birth control as I have a medical condition that reacts to hormonal ones but this month we moved from being careful at ‘unsafe’ times to not being careful as a baby would be a welcome but not expected addition to our family.

So guess I’m just going to have to wait and see what happens.

So really just wanted to say hi rather than loitering. Also I did work out that 10% of the women where I work had their kids after 40 🤔

Presh I would’ve thought the same ie that fertilization would take a week or more after? Sorry not much help.

Taxgirl I’m useless when it comes to temping so I’m afraid I can’t help on that one either.

Another 3rd pregnancy announcement on FB this morning. My heart is breaking again.

Hello ladies, Sorry I've been away from this for a few days. Trying to catch up. As ever so much going on. Sorry if I haven't mentioned you. karryk - very sorry to hear your sad news.

I need advice please. It looks as though I haven't ovulated this month. I had all the symptoms - ewcm and positive opk but no temperature surge. Why is that? Is it normal? Not sure whether it's just my age or related to the MMC. I started to miscarry at the end of August but my hcg was still elevated at the beginning of November (I had bloods). Can anyone help please? I'm feeling a little desperate! My pelvic floor doesn't feel as great as it would normally - I notice a difference before my period and I'm beginning to wonder whether I'm now peri.... Feeling blue 😩

Good luck Snowie and Orchid 🤞

@presh I have no idea I'm afraid as I haven't been through iui. I thought it took 7-12 days for implantation to occur after ovulation but don't know whether that's helpful.

@russ great news. Lovely to hear.

A question. If I had iui last Wednesday and I triggered on Monday night is it possible that the egg would have been fertilised immediately on Wednesday morning.?? Today I have had waves of nausea, horrendous. Had a faint line on a test yesterday but reckon that's the end of the trigger.
I was on same progesterone tablets and suppositories last time.but didn't have this sickness.

Morning, ladies 😊 wishing everyone a nice week, whatever you're up to 👍🏼

Besides feeling knackered still no symptoms so I'm going to book in for a private scan. 😕