Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

Posted before attaching lol

Sorry that last post had the same pic of smaller baby attached twice - this one is the larger twin.

Hi all. For those who were interested in an update, 12 week scan today was lovely I'm actually 11+6 today but babies are measuring 12+4 and 12+2. They're too big to properly focus on both in one image now so have attached pics of the two sacs together and each baby separately for those who wanted to see 😊
Good luck to those stimming and having ECs this week - I am proof that it can work! Xxx

So thought I’d take some vitamin b as I had a bit of a weird cycle last month with a totally 1 day only ‘period’ followed by a 14 cycle. To be honest I’m kind of wondering if ‘something’ happened but guess I’ll never know.

Anyway point to this post: don’t take vitamin b in the evening as it keeps you awake. Who knew!

Sorry to read your post Karryk :(

Thanks minosa - I think we have it covered. Giving up om cbfm for this cycle as still only getting high's. Going with the 2 very dark +opk's instead. And had a very small temp rise this morning. Cd20, so quite late this month. Hopefully DH will still be able to 'perform' at the SA on Friday!

I also did accupuncture yesterday and got myself a new batch of extra delicious herbs. They seem to get yummier every time.

Not sure too much on BMI when TTC apart from they recommend to be in that middle bracket. Have you tried avocadoes? They contain lots of healthy fat, so good for weight gain, plus they contain loads of vit B6 which helps raise progesterone too.

Im sorry Karryk. Try to rest and I'm sure you will start to feel a bit better. My last miscarriage at 7 weeks felt like a normal period but lasted longer. There was little pain, the only unpleasant thing was that when i passed the sac i was out with a friend in the park! (Sorry if too much information) I had no idea when/how it would happen but luckily it wasnt painful and i could deal with it.

It's so bizarre what we have to deal with and no one knows what's going on most of the time!

Littlemimosa i have wondered about weight as well since my BMI is similar to yours. I am now dealing with it by adding more protein to my diet (or trying to) hoping it might help to gain and I've heard it is good for fertility? I find it hard to enjoy food when I'm stressing about infertility and so often make really bad food choices.

I had my last scan yesterday and egg collection is for Friday. I would have hoped for 1 or 2 more follicles but nevermind as we are doing our best. Fingers crossed they find some eggs. I find my sleep really difficult when I'm thinking about it all the time. Which means I'm exhausted during the day.

Hope you are getting on ok Orchid with your cycle?

Anyhow, have a nice day ladies!!

Karry I’m so sorry to read your update. Sending another big hug your way. All hope is not lost. You can do it again x

Rose - I understand your emotions I really do. It’s so stressful and I feel so guilty for wanting another when I’ve already got two children. But the desire pushes me to keep going. I’ve found a way to juggle being a decent mum to them and looking after myself enough to keep going and keep strong. It helps that I quit my super stressful job and swapped it for a much easier one with less hours. Means I’ve got time to go to acupuncture, do lots of yoga and make healthy meals. If nothing else I’m healthier than ever lol.

Cleo - no idea on temps as you know. How many times have you dtd up to now? Do you think you’ve got it covered?

AFM - acupuncture today was relaxing and lovely. CD7 todsy snd so far (fingers tightly crossed) no hot flashes. Checked my bmi today and am 19.2 which is in the normal range but right at the low end of normal. Been reading some stuff which suggests that 20-25 is optimal for fertility so am still trying to eat a bit more. Will try anything around about now! Any thoughts on weight and ttc?

@Rose68

That sounds just like me...hardly any symptoms at all, just tiredness. The bleeding is just like a period so far. It might be early days yet but I was expecting more - I had a cp a few years ago and that was awful..deep stabbing cramps and lots of heavy bleeding.

I found when it was getting on top of me (before dd) that I just had to let go for a bit and focus on myself, mainly in terms of physical and mental healing. The rest, I left to the universe ✨ I'll do the same again...and try to focus on all the good things in my life in the meantime. I hope 2019 is a wonderful year for all of us ❤️

On another matter I am taking 3 things with 400mg of folic acid in them. So 1200mg of folic acid a day... does anyone know if it’s okay to take that much? Thank you x

I’m so sorry @karryk. I had a natural mc at about 6 weeks, so a similar time to you. I had no pregnancy symptoms at all, and as far as I remember it was just like having a period, maybe slightly heavier. I did have a scan after to confirm that everything had gone. It’s still very upsetting though, sending you loads of love and hugs xxx

As for me I’m considering chucking in the towel... it’s all just far too stressful, I’m not achieving anything else in my life and I’m being a totally rubbish Mummy to the DC I do have. However..... wouldn’t it be so wonderful if it did happen... maybe I’m not ready to walk away just yet....

@Karryk - so sorry to read this sad news..

Karry hope it all goes as smoothly as it can. I found the main event with pain etc was done over about 12-24 hours, then bleeding like a period for a week or so.
Take time for yourself and rest

@Evug1234 @Kintan @Taxgirl1 @Cleozeta thank you ladies I was around 6.5 weeks along...

There's not too much discomfort but I've taken a paracetamol just to buffer. I think because I'm still in the early stages of grieving mum I'm just not in the zone to feel much...bit numb really. Which in turn makes me feel guilty 🙈 argh!

Anyway...many days of self-pampering ahead and I'm going to stuff my face over Christmas just because I can ❤️

Thanks taxgirl. I don't think I missed the surge as 2 days in a row have been very strong positive (my opk app read 153% and 169%) but yet the cbfm in the middle of those read high, but the sticks look peak. Anyway, I do often have a slow rise these days so not going worry yet. I was hoping not to have to dtd tonight as we have DH's SA on Friday so needed to save up the swimmers!!

@cleozeta I also read that it takes the majority of women more than 2 days after ovulation to see a temperature rise. So if a positive opk means that you will ovulate 12-36 hours later then you have to wait 2 days to see temp rise you still have time to see a shift in temperature...

@cleozeta thank you. I had a small (0.35) temperature rise. I'm supposed to start taking meds from ovulation but I'd rather try to establish whether I have actually ovulated first... Can't help with your confusion. Only that the pos are very unreliable but it's the best thing we have. Could you have missed your surge do you think?

@karryk I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. With 3 of my mcs i bled for about 5 days and hormones etc went back to normal straight away (they were back to back so very normal). They were between 6 and 7.5 weeks. With the last mmc (twins at 10 weeks) I bled but have had two bleeds since (which clearly werent periods). I have just had a period I think so it's taken my body about 3.5 months to get back to normal or at least I think I'm back to normal.

@karryk so sorry you are going through this. Sending you lots of strength. I had a natural m/c at 9 weeks and I bleed for about 7 days days and got a negative pregnancy test 10 days after the bleeding started. Look after yourself x

Well I'm really bloomin confused today (what's new) Have just had 2 days of seriously strong positive opk's on Sunday and Monday, but no peak on cbfm and no temp rise yet...

So sorry to hear that karry
How far along are you? That will determine how long its likely to take.

So sorry @karryk...... but I am sure you will get there soon..... take care of yourself

Woke up to what looks similar to the start of period bleeding...I think this one is definitely over 😔 going to see the gp anyway... Can anyone tell me roughly how long it takes? I had fairly swift erpcs for my first two but I don't want anymore poking around up there if I can help it (scar tissue risks) so I'm going to sit it out....

Where's that drawing board, I'm going back to it

Xx

Karry - sorry to hear you are spotting. As others have said, it could go either way, but hopefully in youd case all fine. Fingers crossed for you.

Critter - would love to see your scan!