Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

When you both say vit b, do you mean b complex or b6?

Congrats to you too!

Congratulations @Karigan195 !

On my successful cycle I'd been taking a lot of vit b. I'd been feeling run down and vit b along with more fresh air and exercise is the only thing that lifts my mood (I've tried lots of things!).

Also, we missed dtd on what I thought was my ov date so I believe I'd been ov earlier in my cycle than I thought.

Thanks for the good thoughts. I will update after scan next Thursday. You all deserve lovely BFPs and I hope they come soon.

The irony is that we were half avoiding as I had surgery a few months back 🙄.

The only supplements I was taking were magnesium and vit b as without them my cycles go hey wire and I get random bleeding.

we’ve been being a little careful around the ‘unsafe’ time of the month as I’m not medically signed off yet. About 3 weeks ago however we got a little carried away. I can only presume that the relaxing and ignoring it did it.

The only other possible is that it was a hell of an orgasm that night as he was determined to make me come twice (sorry embarrassing). I did read somewhere that the woman coming helps conception but I don’t know. In all honesty it’s a bit of a surprise after a year of trying and getting nowhere

This one feels pretty good and strong so far. Getting cramping that suggests little bean is making him or herself at home in there and outgrown my bras already!

Congrats @mellongooose and @Karigan195 wishing you both very happy and healthy pregnancies

Big hugs @Orchid222 ❤️

Just had another bb this evening 😐 dh's cousin and his wife are expecting their third in July....which is when my latest bean would've been born. Can't lie, this one did sting a bit 😳 but anyhow, maybe I'll be having a winter baby this time - think positive, positive, positive 😬 aaaaand back to the Ferrero Rocher box I go 🤪

Xx

Hi Karigan- fantastic news! Tell us more, what did you do differently? Supplements? Why did you stop trying and did you just have unprotected sex without actually ‘trying’?!

Orchid - you’re not out yet. But if it is genuinely a bfn, like Critter says the first cycle often fails and they tweak everything to get it more right for you thereafter. Big hug from me.

Mellon - such great news. That gives me so much hope. Good luck for the 20 week scan. Come back and update us please.

Yay!! Congrats karigan! Fantastic news x

Hi I stopped coming on mumsnet. We also stopped trying for a baby. Half the reason I stopped coming on here.

Popped back for good news.

Just had this.

Don't get down too soon orchid, it's not over yet. Hold out a little hope until actual testing day or AF. You never know.
Did you pay for a one off cycle this time? They often say it's more likely to work 2nd time as they adjust meds etc to your personal requirements after learning what you need from 1st time, which is why a lot of places offer packages of 2 or 3 cycles. I think if this cycle doesn't work it could be worth trying a second if you can.

Thank you mellon, you do give us hope! Fingers crossed your 20 week scan goes perfectly. Keep us updated!
Did you do anything different on your bfp cycle? What suppliments were you taking?

Morning ladies. I've been following you all without dipping in too much. You all gave such wonderful support and advice. I had been ttc no.2 for over 2 years. I'm 42. I got my BFP back in September.

I'm now 19 weeks and so far so good. I'm keen to encourage you to keep the faith without shoving yet another pregnancy in your face. But I'm watching and willing you all healthy pregnancies. I'm afraid I don't have experience of the ivf process but I know only too well the feeling of others being pregnant around me....when is it my turn?

I'm certainly not out of the woods yet. I'm being pretty cautious with this pregnancy. 20 wk scan next week is the next milestone.

Sending you all love and plenty of baby dust. Willing lots of BFPs on here for 2019 x

@littlemimosa you are so right... while we still ov there is still a chance and a Christmas blow out of booze and nice food is not going to do any thing but relax us and that's probably the most important ingredient to conceive..
sending lots of love xxx

@littlemimosa ha! Sounds like you're eating all the right stuff...it's hard to think of healthy foods...I was a skinny little thing in my 20s and I tried having double lunches for a while to try and put weight on - ate lots of rice and macaroni cheese needless to say I'm in no danger of being skinny at the moment...at least, not the middle part of my body 🙄 lol x

Thanks Cleo - I do eat a decent amount of meat and fish everyday but will try to add in some extra protein snacks. I wonder what’s in a protein shake....

Protein mimosa! Anything protein is great for oestrogen, general ttc and also healthy weight gain

Cross posts Karry! I love your food bender comment😂 I’ve eaten plenty too but how do I put weight on without eating loads of crap?? I’m getting there but it’s not as easy as it sounds. Things I’m trying, peanut butter on toast on top on my normal breakfast, avocado on everything, butter and olive oil on everything, extra nuts and raisins, oatcakes and hummus snacks, cream in soups, boiled egg snacks. Anyone got any ideas?

So sorry everyone is feeling blue. There’s something about this time of year I think that makes you re-assess everything plus emotions are heightened.
It’s not over though yet ladies. Whilst there are still eggs being released we are still in with a chance. Age is just a number! C’mon we can do it (tries desperately to inject some positivity!).
Despite all that I do DO understand. There’s no more painful a feeling than desperately wanting a baby in your arms and not being able to have it. No matter if it’s your first, second, third or more you’re trying for. It breaks your heart.

AFM I think I’m succeeding in putting a bit of weight on, hurrah. Xmas makes it easier of course. Am hoping it’ll improve my hormones as you need fat to make hormones especially oestrogen which I’m lacking. Due AF in a few days, think I’m 10dpo so probably another 5/6 days to go. Oh and I started the dhea. Only doing 30mg per day to start with then after AF I’ll increase the dosage to 50/60. Praying it helps.

Evening ladies 😊 popping in after a three-day food bender I think I actually look like a roast potato now

Biggest hugs and love to everyone feeling at a low ebb at the mo. There have been a few bub announcements here too - a lady on my team at work has a lovely bump...funnily enough she was due when I had my first mc and I recall staring at her with a bizarre fascination as I tried to figure out why she could carry a successful pregnancy and I couldn't. An old school buddy has also just posted on ig that she's about to give birth at any point... I'm taking the positive in that she's 7-8 months older than me so there's still much hope. In fact, I'm full of hope for everyone - may 2019 be our year ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@Whatcanihave...i'm v sorry to hear of your mc and now this. Sadly it sounds all too familiar with the NHS. One dept not talking to another. Wishing you a happier New Year xx

Hi everyone. Merry Christmas. Sorry to read quite a few of you are back to square one again this month. Same here. Have just finished af after mc so going to try again around new year. Just received phone call after work today to ask why I didn’t attend my scan (would have been just under 14 weeks) so told them I had mc last month and hospital were aware. They couldn’t apologise enough but I am so annoyed at the whole experience I have had that I am going to complain about the treatment I’ve received if only to make them realise that they need to get their records up to date more quickly once told, even if they don’t bother to properly check for miscarriage in the first place! Anyway, I am still feeling hopeful for next time and have my fingers crossed for all of you lovely ladies who welcomed and consoled me in the first place x

@Petra I know how you feel, even though I already have 2, I think we all feel the same no matter how many DC we are lucky enough to have. I am from a family of 4 children, and I always planned / wanted to have 3. But DH only wanted 2, so we compromised on 2, and now I am gutted and trying so so hard not to be resentful, and unfortunately I am not always successful.
I have 2 BILs, neither are interested in spending Xmas day with their families, they always want to spend it with ours. My DH is better, we rotate one year my family, the next his. I do worry wonder if our boys will want to spend Xmas with us once they are grown up.

@Presh12345 - you will have a better chance with IVF - around 15, maybe 20% as opposed to 5 - 10% max with IUI at our age. Of course it's much more invasive so you both have to be 100% certain that's what you want to do before you start!

Why is your husband blaming himself? It's no one's fault, just (really shitty) luck and biology. Xxx

Hi All, hope you've had a lovely Christmas. Just had news that one of my friends is pregnant with #2, the same person who never wanted children. Gutted. Iui#2 failed on 17th December. Home for Christmas, back to iui#3 when I get back home again. Would straight to ivf be better? Even then, it isn't guaranteed. Feel so sad. Husband blaming himself.