Over 40 ttc - winter baby dust for me!

I have been wondering if we should try to do a new list of everyone on here.... rather than one person updating the previous list, we could start a totally new one... one person could start with their details and the next person copy and paste and add themselves in alphabetical order etc....

Yeah our cycles always mess us around when we have something planned too. I have a hycosy test on 31st Jan. Had planned it so it would be done after AF but before ov. So of course it's a shorter cycle this time meaning ov will have already happened by 31st and we won't be able to try next cycle

@Cleozeta and Rose68 yes maybe just late ovulation. A bit gutted nothing is picking it up though. Have spoken to clinic and they have moved my saline infusion and scratch to 23rd now instead of 16th jan. I’ve got to ring them Monday and update them on AF 😬

Sounds like you need to just hold out a little longer, once you get past 14dpo then you can consider it odd. It's probably just a longer cycle. Mine vary a bit too. This time it will be shorter than my usual 27 days based on when ovulation happened

@Reality if you ovulated on 22 Dec I wouldn’t expect your period to be due yet, unless (as Cleo says) you have a very short LP?
You are 10 dpo now, which is still too early for most pregnancy tests, but might be picked up on a frer x

@Cleozeta it depends how good the clear blue fertility moniter is?!? I’ve been having 26/25 day cycles since September. Started using opk in November cycle. The first month I didn’t get a peak smiley. December I got two one on 20th and one on 21st, then got a high on 22nd and back to low from then on. It stopped asking me for tests once my period was due. Today I’m 13 days since first peak smiley. We dtd the Sunday before and then that evening 4 days later on first smiley day. Just been to GP he was useless! Basically says 50/50 chance I’m pregnant, not unusual for hpt not to pick it up yet and to wait till next Wednesday ( If period doesn’t come) for a blood test. 😡 by then I’ll be 12 days late 😬

Karigan - try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy. My one regret about my 10 week pregnancy early last year was that I spent the whole time stressimg about what could go wrong and distancing myself from it so it would hurt less, that when it did it was no less upsetting apart from it felt less like it happened and I was less positive about any future prospect. I vowed that if I were lucky enough to get pregnant again I would do it differently mext time. Be more relaxed and take things as they come. Freaking out will not change the outcome, just spoil the time you have

Reality - Is it possible you ovulated later than you thought? That can happen for various reasons. Also it sounds like if your AF had arrived when you thought it would then your LP would be really short, is that normal for you?

Thank you. I’m doing my best! Still keep reading statistics though!

Hope your cold is better now.

Happy new year ✨ sorry slightly late as I had a bad cold and a rather grumpy start to 2019 wishing everyone lots and lots of baby dust. Great news about Gordon Ramsay's wife, Tana. Hopefully this pregnancy is a happy and healthy one for her 🙏🏼

Heading back to work today and actually quite looking forward to it.

@Karigan195 I know it's easy for me to say, but try to stay positive unless life gives you a reason to feel otherwise ❤️ if it's a strong bean, it'll grow and make itself right at home! sending lots of sticky bean vibes your way 😊

Have a good day all xxx

@littleminosa my gut is telling me Not to get my hopes up. I just don’t understand it to be honest. A small peice of me wants to belive it’s a really late implantation but in reality I don’t want to get my hopes up. Every time I think AF will start it doesn’t. Either that or it’s an early menopause, now that really would put a spanner in the works 🤦‍♀️ Im on day 13 possible 12 since I ovulated. Am going to go to GP today and ask for a blood test. Poor DH is starting to look worried, even caught him reading up on stuff last night. He is getting anxious about it 😞

Welcome @Debbiedooit I'm 46 and having been trying for number 6 for 2.5 years now, had a mc 3 yrs ago this jan at 9 weeks.. I have 4 gorgeous friends who know I am trying for another but a very unsupportive family on both mine and my hubbies side. I have given up drinking I. The last 12 months and at a family party ( thankfully only once every 12 months) I got " are you pregnant " then today brother in law kept asking me if I was.. grrrrrrr idiot. Hubby had birthday today and was another idiot but is still very much into trying for another.. we are enjoying contraceptive free sex as af still reg as clockwork.. this is an awesome non judgmental group with sooooo much support and baby dust... so whilst you are still ov there is still a chance, look at rachel Weiss !! And fab news about tana Ramsey after her miscarriage 2 years ago..

Hi ,I'm not sure if yr name sorry,my cycles are text book 28 days,I'm still ovulating exactly in the middle ,boobs are swollen and sore and due my period on 8th January xx

That’s very strange then to be so late but getting negatives Reality.
What is your gut telling you?

@littliminosa based on past 4 cycles I’ve been prettty regular with 26, 25,25 and 25 day cycles. This month I’m on day 29 so far.

Happy new year to all my lovely fertility friends. I too hope 2019 is a year we get even more BFPs than last year!

Debbie - welcome. You won’t find any judgement here, just support. I think it’s awesome you’re ttc. How are your cycles?

Katey - amazing to hear of your egg freezing. That must have been a difficult time of your life. I’m happy to hear you’re now with ‘Mr Right’ and ttc.

Reality - how odd that AF is awol. Are you actually late?

Just off to relish the story about Ramsey’s wife.....:)

Just read this! Yay 😀

www.joyscribe.com/gordon-ramsay-and-his-wife-tana-announce-theyre-expecting-a-baby/

@BooseysMom it’s ok lol just realised I turn 41 in 19 days 😬😬😬😱 Double run was good but felt exhausted. Thanks for the good wishes just want to get on with it now. Still no sign of AF though so who knows what’s going on this month !

@Realitysucks.. ooh sorry didn't mean to make you feel old! At 46 I'm bound to be older than you! Didn't have DS til 41 and just shocked how quickly my fitness has disappeared. Oh and I can't run or swim to save my life ..when I run my pelvic floor seems to fall out with every step ever since I had a 3rd degree tear and episiotomy 5 yrs ago. I do my pelvic floor but obv not enough! Hope the run went well today..and wishing you every success with ivf x

@KateyA...That's alot to go through..sorry to hear that. Hopefully you feel stronger now x

@Debbiedooit...welcome! I echoe Katey. I have experienced no judgement here. This thread is pretty unique x

@Debbiedooit no judgement here just support. Everyone is travelling their own unique journey.

I think women and fertility at/ over 40 still seems an issue for some I have no idea why. My experience is a bit different but I definitely felt the pressure leading up to being 40 and being single and childless. I remember the scorn from even close friends when I expressed how sad I felt and their need for me just to accept my spinster childless fate. Happily now I’m 40 in a wonderful relationship and trying for a baby and so my emotions are now more ‘acceptable’ to share without others feeling as uncomfortable. But people are odd and their scorn is usually to do with them not you xxx

Hi ,I've had some awful comments,feel a bit crap now but hey ho ,I would have deleted if I had known how to xx

Hi karigan,I've had some awful comments,I was actually about to delete it but couldn't work out how to xx

@KateyA I think you are right to try naturally first, you still have some time and it could well happen within 6 months. xxx

Welcome @Debbiedooit, you are in the right place. xxx

@ Realitysucks I hope you get your positive very soon and that your IVF team are nice too. Mine were lovely aside from one grumpy horrid nurse.

@Debbie welcome- I’m a total newbie to this board too xx

@Realitysucks
I’m not very good on all the names but If you mean the test to see what your egg reserve is like then apparently I’m on the low side of normal. The doctor said I was best to try naturally first and that was her advice before I had the freeze (but obviously it wasn’t an option at the time) that was only 6 months ago so I’m presuming it’s still the best option. We’ve just started this month and fingers crossed it happens soon.