TTC FIRST BABY - THREAD NO.8

Even though I'm not trying this month, I'm coming up to day 20 with no ovulation!

Also found out my surgery date is delayed until possibly after Christmas.

Bit of a bummer.

Only thing I'm concerned about is the first doctor told me I could keep trying with my hydrosalpinx. I had a near positive opk on day 14 and we were still trying. If that was ovulation and I did get pregnant, the hydrosalpinx would increase my chance of miscarriage.

I know I'm overthinking this. From reading up, if it came to it I could have the tube drained via ultrasound and needle if I were pregnant. Also because the problem was probably caused by surgery rather than the infection itself, the fluid may be less harmful.

It's a headfuck is this!

@DuchessofPemberley unfortunately it's very unlikely to mean anything else other than af coming. 🙁

Sorry you're in the same boat @Bettythecat it's rubbish isn't it. What cycle are you on now?

@FlapJackered I have also had a drop this morning- down to 36.17 from 36.59 yesterday and af due tomorrow so seems like I am also out. Really sucks.

Sorry to hear that FlapJackered it’s never easy when it happens. Is there any chance the dip doesn’t mean end of the cycle? I haven’t looked into temping yet so I’m not sure.

I have the Clearblue Digital Monitor, which is stupidly expensive and the sticks are ridiculous too, and out of the last five months tracking it only caught ovulation three times, the other two it registered no peak.

I thought it was just me having an awkward cycle, but if other people are having issues maybe it’s a problem with Clearblue? I was thinking of getting internet cheapies to check, but you shouldn’t need to do that when you’re spending so much in the first place...

As predicted - Temp drop this morning 😭
God it hurts so much every time. I really thought I might have been in with a shot this cycle.
Oh well, wine it is. 🍷

@sophiepie sending you all the love in the world xxx

@SophiePie I am so sorry to hear you are going through this. There’s nothing worse and on top of it knowing you can’t do anything. Sending you lots of hugs 💕💕💕

@Crossfitgirl you’re very welcome! Haven’t spotted the stretches on there yet- will have to take a look! Yes I think £42 is really good for the whole year if you use it and I definitely do use it a lot more than the other ones I have tried 😊

@Sullywifey - late response to you here but I am trying desperately not to symptom spot. Was doing it last two months and convinced every twinget and feeling was a “sign”. I’ve had the same slightly itchy nipples as last time (or maybe my bra is just itching 😂) and definitely has some light cramping over the weekend but probably nothing I would notice unless I was obsessing (which I definitely am 🤦‍♀️). Will take your advice and start jotting it down though.

@SophiePie I’m so sorry to hear your news. Take each hour as it comes and we will all keep hoping it’s nothing to be worried about 😘

@katbecool I just think the CB wasn't sensitive enough to detect my surge - I always started testing on cd7 but then just never got a positive. Find the ICs far better to be honest but just have to do loads of them! I have a whole CB digital and 20 unused sticks in my bathroom drawer! Lol!

Haven't done them the past 2 months now anyway, as temping is going well.

Anyway @katbecool I would DTD tomorrow maybe in the morning, then possibly the day after just for good measure- even if there is a bit less, at least if ov comes 48 hours after the positive there's no harm in another go.

In other news, my bit of bleeding this morning has gone right back to spotting again, so I'm still waiting for full flow AF to come. She has done this before - tricked me into thinking she's here, then fucking off again for a day and giving me false hope again, then returning heavier than ever the next day! Not falling for it this time Bitch!

@Crossfitgirl that was the experiment. My original reader got low yesterday (less than 24 hrs before this morning), again low this morning, and peak just now. So it should've already known my "base levels" from yesterday. The new reader showed Low. So you possibly use a theory that it hasn't learned my levels yet, but that doesn't explain why my old one didn't work this morning, and then worked now with the same levels (internet cheapie was same this morning as it was now, maybe a touch lighter but still very positive).
I wonder if you had the same issue with CB as me where it didn't detect the surge because of some faulty internal logic.

With that unexpected peak, do you think we should dtd tonight or tomorrow if we just dtd last night (thankfully)? I'm not expecting to ovulate tonight and I can tell every day sex doesn't produce as much (sorry tmi) man juices.

Oh no @Sophiepie, thinking of you and sending you big hugs, I can't imagine what you're going through. We are all here to support you if you need it. Let us know how you get on tomorrow.

@delilah7 how are you lovely? Can you send us all some positivity? It's definitely a tough day on here today, so much sad news and new cycles starting.

@katbecool I have read the same as what @flapjackered said about the clearblues that it has to get your "baseline" levels first then detects the surge from there by looking at the increase in 2 different hormones. I may have read it on their website possibly. Let us know how your little experiment goes. I have given up on the CBs as it didn't even detect my surge last time I used it despite getting a positive on the ICs.

@bettythecat I have downloaded calm. It's amazing... I have a 7 day trial but if I like it It's £42 For the year, which is naff all in the grand scheme of things. I will likely keep it. Love the stretches and bedtime stories! Thanks for the recommendation :-)

So finally got to poas, the new CB reader recorded a low fertility but my old one now got peak, same wee sample. Although it looks no different than the one from this morning when it read low. Really makes me wonder what kind of logic it uses. I think I'm done with CB, too expensive and more unreliable than internet cheapies.
Top - result from just now.
Bottom - result from this morning. It's just as dark.

I'm pretty disappointed in CB.

@SophiePie ohh, so hoping everything will be OK.

@SophiePie I'm so sorry you are going through that x

@SophiePie I'm so sorry hun, I hope it turns out not to be. We are all thinking of you. 💐

@SophiePie 😩💔oh no. Sending you all the luck and best thoughts xxxx

@SophiePie oh hun! I'm keeping you in my thoughts and wishing you all the best for tomorrow... xx

@Delilah7 we miss you too lovely lady! How are you doing? Xx

@SophiePie oh I’m so sorry. I’ve been there myself and I know how awful it is. They will be amazing at the EPU with you. Just try to look after yourself and keep good people around you. Thinking of you x

Bad news today, I think. Bleeding, passing clots and getting cramps. I think I'm miscarrying the baby. Got an appointment tomorrow morning at an EPU for a scan but I think it will confirm the worst. This is so devastating but nothing I can do but wait

@Delilah7 Ah how are you getting on? All going really well I hope :)

Going to test this Clear Blue theory whether or not it needs to "get to know you" and detect lows before it detects peak. I have my old reader that has been showing lows, and a new one that I've never used. Now I just need to wait to actually want to poas, can't squeeze even a drop out 😂

Sorry to hear some of you having a tough time just now. AF just about away for me so off out for dinner tonight with a friend. Tonight starts the relaxing for Christmas plan!
Time to eat drink and be merry!! And here's to hopefully a bfp on Xmas morning!

I miss you all!!!!!