still TTC your first baby? want some glastonbury luck?

Feel a bit of a fraud now - nurse wasn't that bad, she was just a bit abrupt with me, didn't make 'small talk' and was just a bit short. The first nurse I saw (3 weeks ago) was friendly, chatty and kind. This lady was much more business like. When I asked her about the results she just said "oh in a week" so I said "ok, next Thurs then" and she said "or even later" Does she not realise I'm quite keen to KNOW? Harumph!Sorry I'm being a bit self-indulgent at the moment.

da iawn gd! good luck with the carpet, i hate doing that.

just sitting here thinking. im currently working my way through a bottle of vino (will try to stop at 1/2 bottle). is anyone stopping drinking as per recent guidelines?
nmm im sorry the nurse was rough with you. sometimes im ashamed to say im a nurse

The blood tests are step 1 of the infertility testing, they take bloods on day 1 and day 21 to compare hormones (progesterone, FSH and LH) and check you're ov'ing. They also look for things like thyroid and I'm being checked for anaemia too as I have been anaemic in the past.
Can't comment as to how you'll feel at 30+ weeks pg (and expect it's different for each person) but didn't you say you're going to see family? Surely they'll look after you?

Why are people so ruddy insensitive nomore? Do they never have problems or issues or wish the world would treat them a wee bit better? I'm a great on for doing unto others what you want yourself iyswim?
I mean your boss can be let off for being a wanker, but nurses should blooming well know better.
We at least your loo is sparkling! I take such pleasure from these things so I totally get the fun of being a domestic goddess.
I am still freaking out about flying but have called the airline and they say 36 weeks with docs note to say all is cool.
It's not so much the 'will they let me on the plane' I'm worried about as the travelling. Have no idea what it's like to be 30 weeks pregnant so don't know how shit I will feel. And who wants to be stuck in a foreign country if they feel terrible. I think this is a 'wait and see' situation so I'm trying not to get my knickers in a twist.
By the way, not sure I understand what the blood tests do/are for? Sounds like a pain though. You need a cupa and a hug from dh - always does the trick for me.
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That's ok treenie, I was only winding you up!
I'm so-so, actually feeling a bit down today. Had my day 21 blood test today although the nurse wasn't very gentle with me (physically or emotionally) then I went to work and my boss had a go at me but I finished at 1 so have been at home being a domestic goddess this afternoon. Think I attacked the bathroom with a bit of extra oomph as a result, so not all bad!!
Re flying - I think it's 3rd trimester the airlines don't want you to fly, but I think it's more to do with avoiding you going into labour mid-air! You could always have a look at the website of the airline you are flying with.
How's everyone else? It was very quiet on here last night, was there something good on tv that I missed?

Oh poor nomore! I didn't mean I didn't want to say hello - just got you mixed up with scorpio and didn't want her to think I was ignoring her - iyswim?!
How are you then my dear? How has been your day?
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at treenie

Sorry meant to say hello Scorpio, not Nomore as she isn't here at the mo.
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Not sure about the little bump Mistlethrush - my mum is a size 8 and I was 9lbs 8oz. She was like the backend of bus according to her!
So I might well be the same. She did tell me that she was back in her jeans three weeks after I was born though so I'm clinging on to that and hoping I'm that lucky!
I think with the excercise you have to give ds to dh and say 'I'm off for a swim/walk/whatever - you take him!' That's what dads are for afterall!

Does anyone else have an opionion on the flying thing? Quite worried about it now cause I can't bear the thought o letting dh down when he hardly ever sees his family.

Poor WP - hope you feel better soon. Keeping thinking of the bambino - that will keep you going.

Hi Ready and Nomore, what's new with you two?
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hi ready hows the ttc going? mines still the same

So this is where you all are

I have been SOOOO busy lately, which is really good as I have no time to sit and ponder all the symptoms.

How's everyone doing? This thread has moved so quick and I can't possibly keep up with you all. If there has been any exciting BFP news someone let me know

wow, so much info from everyone. not sure ill keep up.
mt- im from merthyr tydfil, in between cardiff and brecon. havent lived there for 6 years, so much wish to go back.
treenie- not sure about the flying, i think all airlines differ. something in my head says 32/40. double check on that though. currently live in thames ditton which i supose is sw london. where are you?
thanks for explaining cd thing. im cd 13. so very busy at the mo. even though im feeling rough due to sore throat/fever. needs must eh.
back to do some work.
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Treenie - excercise would be fantastic. I love swimming. Problem is, with 2.3ds round neck / throwing himself off the side etc (no arm bands), having good energetic swim rather difficult. DH doesn't 'do' swimming pools as the chlorine brings on his asthma, so no help there. Pre ds I did get to the 1000m in about 23 mins, but that's rather a long way off now. Similarly yoga and other options. I did do yoga in pregnancy and it was great btw.

I do get to walk dog 4 days pw - main walk. Trouble is that even this is no longer fast unless ds asleep in pushchair which is rare now. Normally he walks (or runs) most of the way so what was a 45min brisk walk is now a 1.40 - 2.30hr dawdle.

Very envious that you've got nothing to lose - you'll probably be one of those people with a nice small, manageable bump (unlike me - felt like a whale - ds was 10lbs 5oz and a week early, thank goodness he wasn't late!)

Mistlethrush I'm more than happy to encourage you to get fit. Good for you!
Have you thought about yoga? I swear by it. Keeps you toned and excellent for flexibility etc. Also you do work up a sweat (myth that it's all relaxing) and it does burn fat. I also swim for 30 mins most days - swimming is so much more fun than running and just as effective I find.
Can't do the weight loss thing with you cause I don't really want to loose any, but more than happy to cheer you on and help you work out an excercise plan/find classes in your area. You can do it and MN can help!
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Treenie - I'd be more cautious! The worst thing I did was buy maternity jacket in a sale for work for later on - then had mc and the jacket stayed in the cupboard and skulked for next 2yrs - was very useful in the end, but not great when feeling crap and sorry for oneself after mc.

But that's just me - even found myself 6 mths pregnant finding out of date test kit and thinking that I must have got it wrong and couldn't be pregnant afterall... perhaps that's just due to previous history.

But yes, I agree that being positive is good, although getting hopes up too high might not help - as the chances are that it won't happen this month (that's medical facts isn't it? unless you're a 14yo...)

At least its fun trying

Treenie - I don't care what the guidance says on flying (except that, clearly you shouldn't when too far anyway) - you may not want to do it when it comes to it anyway. I know that when I had m/c which resulted in molar pregnancy (that seems a long time ago now, thankfully) I obsessed about what I could have done differently - should I have done that long journey complete with double bass that I had to lug in and out of the car several times... was that 1/2 glass of wine that I had before I went off it completely (that was my first sign, and it happened at least a week before I would have known any other way) the thing that made it not work... could I have done anything better etc etc etc. I suppose that we'd then been trying for so long and the pregnancy came as such a relief that to do anything that might potentially, even in the slightest or in my imagination, jeopardise anything would have been out of the question. Sorry, that appears to have been rather a long rant. That's just how I felt. However, you might be one of those laid back people that takes things much more in their stride. Hopefully this will be the case, particularly if you don't have to wait too long.

WP - go to Wales every year - mid Wales. Enjoy it every time. Which part were you originally from? I had a marvellous HV - very friendly, very reassuring and not meddling. Didn't like mw though - don't know what'll happen if do get pregnant again as have lost all confidence in her. Do you know whether you have any say in who gets to do checks etc?

Toomuch - chatting helps (which is partly why I'm here) - I can have a good rant here occasionally and then its not too bad! Anyway, just glad that its not another mp as would probably still be being treated (although they would have caught it a lot more quickly this time - last time kept on going back to the Doctor's but being told that it would sort itself out, until I saw a locum who actually listened and did proper exam (tmi - sorry!)). Unfortunately DH also rather overweight, so also need to slim him down so that more activity more likely!

So are we on then? Starting Monday anyone? Please, can we avoid starting and ideal weights otherwise I'll have to go and buy buns to console myself, but if we can have support and encouragement and poss even competition for loss that might be helpful? (although I might be at an advantage there as it sounds as though I have more to lose than most of you!)

Sorry, that was rather long all in all. Not feeling like working this morning!

Also Toomuch I love your positive attitude. You have no reason to think you won't get preggers this month so why not be excited? You are young, healthy and lots of people do fall the first time they try. There is no point in fearing the worst until you have a reason too. Be excited, look at baby clothes, scan the internet for cool preggy gear and enjoy this exciting time. I know we shouldn't get our hopes up too much for fear of having them dashed, but lets think about that if we aren't where we want to be next month - for now lets enjoy the moment!
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ps You must use the ov sticks! Really increase your chance of getting it right. Start next week so you don't miss it - and BD like mad of course too!

Oh my god! A health visitor! I can't contain my excitment WP! A real live medically person on our thread! You do realise that I'm now going to quiz you constantly don't you?! And I can guarentee Toomuch will do the same!

Can I start by asking if I can fly to South Africa at 29 weeks and back home at 30 weeks? Please be honest with me cause if it's not a good idea I'd rather know. Even though the flights are booked for christmas and dh is desperate to see his family!
That's how preggers I'd be if we hit the jackpot this weekend. What do you reckon?

I love Surrey by the way. We live not far from there (SW London) and are always going for lovely country walks around Godlming and Hazelmere - wrong spelling I know.
Have never been to wales which is a terrible confession I know - but I hear it is divine - lots of stunning scenery.

Also what CD are you on? I'm on CD 17, which means 17 days since the first day of my last period - just to fill you in on the lingo - takes a while to get used to it!

Anyway, delighted to have you with us WP!
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Hi Welshprincess!! Nice to see someone else in their first month of trying.. I feel like a total novice - always asking silly questions..

Treenie - hi treenie! Hope you've recovered after being pounced on ! I'm CD4 today (thanks for remembering )and starting to get really excited! I go on holiday for 2 weeks on Saturday so regardless of the fact that I've just come of the pill and have no idea what my cycle is like or even if I'll ovulate - I've convinced myself that I may get pregnant this month! After all the pep talks I've given myself about realising it could take years and not getting too excitable I'm totally obsessed! I reckon that once I've BD'ed whilst not on the pill I'll totally convince myself that every twinge is baby related.. I really don't know how you ladies have managed..

Mistlethrush - sorry - I hadn't seen any of your history - hope I didn't upset you by asking.. Do you think DH will come around soon? Men don't really feel the biological clock the way we do do they

PM - we're on holiday at the same time and I'm hoping to be on my 2ww when I get back too

Nomore - you're very clever with links and name changes and stuff - I'm going to have to learn all that!

Re Weight - I'm with you all on that one - I hate my belly at the moment - keep thinking that I should really hold off TTC until I lose some weight and tone up

also im 30. as is dh.
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thanks for the welcome. treenie, im nosy too so im glad to oblige. got married in march, to lovely dh. live in surrey but from wales orginally.
like others here not happy with my weight, close to 12 st too. hey ho!
i suppose one thing i wont be telling people in rl(when i finally sprog out) is that im a health visitor ( spawn of the devil in some eyes i know). i think im a nice one though.
in work at the mo so cant talk much, got baby clinic to do. all those lovely babies....

Welcome WP! Tell us a bit more about you - what age are you etc. We are a wee bit nosy here - well I am anyway!
Mistlethrush - sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. I don't really know what to say accept try not to get too bogged down in it all - I know that's a lot of shit really cause you can't help but worry, but whatever you do don't give up hope. And force DH to do his share! I know that's easier said than done but you can't struggle on like this.

Well my 'wait till I have first proper AF' thing went right out the window this morning! Was pounced on - too much info I know! So now looks like I'm trying this month. DH is mega keen and can't see the point in waiting any longer - which I didn't either at 7.30! Oh well, here we go!
Am on CD 17 and according to the babyhopes ov calculator that means I'm fertile over the weekend - have 35 day cycle I think. Or could I be fertile now too? Does anyone know?
I know you'll all tell me I'm mad but suddenly feel like something is going on inside me! Know it's all totally in my head but really weird!
Feeling very freaked out all of a sudden.
Was chatting to my yoga instrutor yesterday morning (wondering how far along I would need to be to start preggy yoga) and she told me it took her a year so not to expect too much too soon, but I can't help it!

Toomuch how are you feeling about it all. CD 3 for you today isn't it?

9st!!! I last saw that when I was at school! 12st would be a good start.

Also fed up with belly (and hips and bum etc etc etc) - determined to start major campaign on Monday - anyone with me? Manged to lose a stone last autumn then m/c and fall out from that and put it all back on and havn't managed to get in the right frame of mind to get it all (or at least some if it) back off again. Need some help - any one else in the same boat?

Toomuch - its because after my m/c in the autumn I had 2 months of complete panic that I was getting another molar pregnancy and the associated 'how on earth are we going to be able to cope with a manic 2+ ds and chemo that completely knocks me out etc' - that and the financial burden - just being on maternity leave 'cost' us over £7k (only 6 months) - then there'd be the additional nursery fees, schooling etc etc etc... So dh not very keen on the idea of No2 at the moment, so not cooperating. Trouble is I'm 38, so not got much realistic time left.

Kensgirl - yes, could try all that, but usually too knackered! Somehow its always me that gets up in the night to deal with ds - got 3.5 hrs sleep Tues night because of the storm and bad dreams...

For anyone that can't think why I'm on this thread when have ds already, followed Kensgirl, then found that I seem to have a lot in common with you - took 6 yrs to end up with ds - hope it doesn't take you all so long. Now 1yr and 1mc into trying for no2.