still TTC your first baby? want some glastonbury luck?

Treenie I know exactly what you mean. I have felt insanely jealous that other people are pregnant when I'm not - didn't help having to wait so long after 1st mc before being 'allowed' to start trying again... Similar situation now with NCT group starting to get 2nd lot - 'didn't think that I'd be the first' - well actually you weren't but I had a mc in the autumn and would have been giving birth by now but havn't told you about it (didn't say that of course, but that's what I felt). Every 2nd woman going down the road seems to be pregnant too, or have vsmall baby. How broody am I!!!

Fi- thanks for the running, lets hope it helps some of us.... Re needles etc, a good friend has a phobia about them, but managed - she had to turn up for an appointment about an hour early and get some numbing cream (extra strength) put on, then lie down and put on walkman for actual proceedure. If she managed to get through it, I'm sure you will as you sould a lot more hardy. Can't imagine her in a muddy field! No wellies for one thing.

Maximising chances: I have a friend who is now a consultant (in the field). The advice that she gave people coming to her clinic was to ensure that bdg every 2 - 3 days for critical 10 days (ie before and after you're expecting relevant day to be). Also had suggested not to get up immediately afterwards, although that probably common sense. Apparently she had people turning up to her clinic only managing once a month but still wondering why they were not pregnant.

How many loads of washing Fi? I had a housemate some years ago who got back and had to dry tent on washing line after hosing it down... And that wasn't quite as wet a year.

Ok now I feel like a big meany for calling you a baby! But just would so hate the thought of something bad happening to you that is so preventable. I know it's horrible - the test and treatment I had were dreadful, but I knew it was worth it. And most of the nurses I'v met are really nice so maybe you were just unlucky. At least have a think about it. x

Sorry Fi but I am mad at you! Had dodgy smears in the past and if I hadn't got them check out who knows what might have happened. Not worth the risk. Go to the docs today and stop being a big baby! I know that is harsh but it really is for your own good. I know a woman who got cervical cancer and was left infertile. Hope that makes you see why it really is worth it. Imagine how terrible that would be.
Take your mum or friend with you for moral support and you can hold their hand, but don't put it off any longer!
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fi - i totally understand, am not mad at you!! but when you get pg you do know there will be loads of people poking around down there don't you?

The other nurses are lovely, I had two gentle ones the last two times I've been in, so the rough one caught me unawares! At least she was only doing bloods, not a smear as the first (nice) one was!

Hi BB, the nurse was a bit rough when taking blood last week but I'm ok about it now. (I was feeling a bit emotional I think!)

It depends largely on your gp as to what they are willing to do for you after so long of trying. Some say 12 months before testing, my doc said 8 months+ if you're healthy and have no reason not to be getting pg and know what days to bd on, others say healthy couples under 35 should try for 18 months before tests. Guess it probably comes down to money at the end of the day! Is your gp a nice sympathetic person? Could you go for a chat about ttc and ask what you could be doing to maximise your chances? That way at least you'll be on his/her radar when 12 months is up and he/she will know that you have been targetting your bd and doing whatever else is suggested.

Have you read up about all the things your gp might suggest you do/take and about the tests? I firmly believe knowledge is power. And if it help 8-10 months was about the time I felt lowest about ttc.

hth((hugs))
nomore x

And BB, could I have missed my surge completely then? And yes def lie to your doc - you pay your taxes don't you therefore you deserve treatment. I don't think it's fair that they make you wait a year. Haven't you been trying for almost that long anyway? Really feel for you. Can't imagine how shit it must be to feel like this month after month. Big hug.
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Ok just had an email from my friend in Oz who is 6 months pregnant. Lots of pics of her with big bump (and huge boobs!), looking so happy. Now don't get me wrong, I am thrilled for her, but also very jealous and feeling even more fed up. I know I have no right as have just started trying but feeling crap never the less.

Hi Treenie it is not recommended that you test your morning wee. Your afternoon/evening wee is better and make sure you do not drink too much because it can dilute your hormones.

Hi Fi glad you had a great time. It is really hard not to get obsessed, Im trying to relax.

Hi Nomore at least you will know what is going on with your hormones. I hope they are nicer with you this time. Weren't they a bit off with you last time or did I dream that?

Im thinking about telling the doc a little white lie because he will not see you until you have been trying for 12 months.

Content is good nomore. Really glad to hear you are feeling calm and ready to deal with the docs. It is so much better to find out what the issue is than keep wondering and worrying. Good for you.
Had a look at that website and it really helped - though now think I have missed the surge altogether. No matter though as we've be bding like mad! Poor dh will have no sperm left at this rate.
Fi I totally know what you mean about it taking over. I have gone from being very casual about the whole thing to being completely obbsessed! We have to try to stay calm. And thanks for the hug! you are so sweet!
Also I have been getting crampy like twinges for the past week. But think it's my bowels - been eating way to much fruit!
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hi fi x-posted

that's clever I answered your q too!

Do you have to wait 4 hrs before testing then? crikey!

I'm good, got doc's appt on thurs to discuss blood test results and am expecting af on fri/sat. Feel quite content at the mo actually. (I know content seems a funny word, but I don't feel stressed, sad or happy, just a calm content feeling that it's being sorted at last)

Thanks nomore. I've been using them in the morning because I can't not pee for four hours during the day! That's a requirement. Will have a look at the website. How are you anyway?
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Treenie - I have never used OPK but think you need to use mid-afternoon pee and not everyone gets +ives on them anyway. Someone who has used them might be able to give you more advice or look on this website

Hi Fi!
Thanks for all the running around - you are a doll! Let's hope it worked.
Nomore is right - you have to wait! I know it's hard but worth it.
Nomore you know a lot about all this ttc malarky, should I be worried that I still haven't had a positive result on a ov test kit and it's now day 21? Not seeing any of the other signs either.
Does anyone have any advice? Just picking on you nomore cause you are around!
I've been feeling a bit fed up the past few days because it seems like my body won't do what I want it to. Was at a party at the weekend with my friend who is nearly 4 months now and I'm feeling v jealous. Dh says I must calm down.
Nomore and fi you must be excited about Friday - have everything crossed for you!
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ps I'm due this Fri too, we must be cycle buddies

Hi fi, welcome back! I did look out for someone in fairy wings running round a stone in the background of the tv footatge of glasto, but didn't see you.

Right

WAIT til AF is a couple of days late to be sure you'll get a BFP and not a BFN. You could get BFN even if you are pg as hcg levels might not be high enough, so don't set yourself up for dissapointment (esp if it's not a 'real' BFN)

Good luck (with the waiting and the BFP!)