still TTC your first baby? want some glastonbury luck?

Thanks for the support on the OPK - I've really been worrying. And feel free to talk to us about the miscarriage. People have no right to sweep it under the carpet. That was your precious baby and you deserve the chance to talk about as much as you like. Am always here if you want someone to listen.
Great that you are moving to London - you'll love it. Have been here four years now so if you want to know anything - shopping, restuarants or anything at all really - just ask. It's a bit of a huge scary place at first till you settle in but you will. I moved here on my tod and met dh three months later - thank goodness. Was quite lonely at first even though I had lots of mates. Do you have a job set up down here? Sorry if you've already told us that and I've forgotten - so much to keep track of on here!

Toomuch I love that we are as mad as each other! Really hoping we get preggers at the same time then we can worry sick about everything together!
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Hi treenie! Hols are fab! Sorry you didn't get a surge - sounds like they may not always work.. I've been testing at 3 every day - should I be testing twice a day?

Gilly - I'm in spain an sorry to say that the weather is glorious!!

Bit worried that I'm drinking too much if I did get pregnant but on the basis that I don't reckon it will happen - I'm trying not to worry too much..

Treenie - me and you sound very like minded -total stress head control freaks

Toomuch! Glad to hear you're having a nice hol my dear! We've missed you here! Don't worry about the Ov test kits - take back everything I said about them cause the buggers haven't shown up a ruddy thing for me this month. Just shag like mad and you'll get there!
Am on CD21 and finding all this waiting impossible! Want to close my eyes and wake up next Friday so I can test! Argh! hate the fact that I am so mental!
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Fi - sorry to hear you're feeling rough!

Treenie - I'm the same as you! Every day bding and getting a bit control freak about it..

Mistket - sorry you're af has arrived

Gilly - when do you aim to move by? Will you and dh have lots of time together then? That woul be fab!!

Pinkelephant and bellabear - keep coming back it's great hearing your good news!

Bb - I'd lie to the dr to get treatment - I wouldn't feel guilty!!

Nomore - big growls at your nasty nurse!

Ready - big wave!!

Hello everyone else!!

Hi girls!! Having a fab time on holiday! Cd9 no surge on ovulation tests yet but bding like mad!!

I can just about access the site whilst the number of posts is still low but once it gets bigger I may not be able to..

Hello everyone! I'm with you on feeling jealous - everyone seems to be either pregnant or with a baby - I'm totally jealous!! On miscarriage - my mate lost twins recently and as hard as it is to talk about it I try and talk about her babies with her as much as she wants as it's too big a thing to pretend like it didn't happen -but she has found lots of people refuse to mention it - people are weird - they are more bothered about not feeling uncomfortable themselves rather than the poor person who has just lost a baby that they've been carrying for months!! Anyway rant over!!

Hope you are all well an bding like mad

Hoping the glastonbury running works for us all

Can I ask another question? How often are you bding?! We've been doing it every day for the past week to make sure we don't miss the right time. Going to keep doing that unitl we test next Friday. What do you think? I reckon get as many swimmers up there as poss!
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Beaten you there... although not surprised due to lack of action this month.

Have started diet though, so feeling a bit more positive, even though yesterday didn't quite go to plan (mainly due to lack of sleep as dh faffed about until he came to bed at 12.30 and then started to read (soon put a stop to that) then ds woke at 4.45 and then ended up coming back to bed with us, fidgeting, kicking, sticking fingers where they shouldn't be (mainly my nose and mouth) and pulling my hair) - what a lot you've all got to look forward to!).

Fi - surgery sounds crap if you can't make appointment in advance for that sort of thing - although on the other extreme, can sometimes wait several weeks before get an appointment with the required nurse/doctor at a convenient time.

Treenie I hope you don't have to wait as long as we did if you're getting this wound up already! I hope so anyway. But don't get too down if it doesn't work very soon, it doesn't mean that it won't in the end.

Poor fi and gilly!
Sorry to hear you are both feeling crap.
Feeling a bit shit myself. Convinced my body is malfunctioning and that I'm not ovulating. Dh says I need to get a grip!
All this waiting and wondering is driving me around th twist! I like order and control but this is one thing I can't predict. Does anyone else feel that way?
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Good for you fi - very proud of you and I know you're not a baby - sorry!

BB there is nothing you have missed - don't blame yourself. Speak to the doc and take it from there - it could be your dh maybe?
You are trying your best and that has to count, maybe nature just needs a wee helping hand.

I was out at a work dinner last night with a woman who is 47, has had five miscarriages with her own eggs and two with donor egg - has one donor egg left and then she has to give up - now that is scary!
Felt so sorry for her and really glad that I was getting on with it.
Still feeling very fed up that I didn't get a positive on the OPK tests but trying not to worry about it.
Did get some sharp pain on my left side last night and then a crampy pain? Is this ov pains do you think?
Do any of you get them and how do they feel? As much detail as poss please and I'm trying to figure out if I just had wind or not?! But according to all the ov calenders I should be ov yesterday (ish) so really hoping.
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BB - how insensitive! I sometimes wonder if we're all the same species. I had a bit of the same after my 1st mc - not as bad - workmate got pregnant and lots of talk of names, how you're feeling etc etc etc. At that job only 1 person said anything when I came back after mc - and that was one of my male colleagues - I felt everyone else just wanted to ignore what had happened. Whilst I can imagine that they might have felt awkward, apparent indifference was not what I needed at the time (neither was several colleagues getting pregnant with no problem, so I know exactly where you're coming from).

Good luck with the Doctor anyway - I don't think its unreasonable to stretch the time a bit (as long as they don't have a record of you still being on pill or something) - it will probably be more like 12 months by the time you actually get to see someone anyway (in my experience).

Nomore - hope doctor's appointment on Thurs positive and that you can see that something is progressing. Keep trying anyway (its fun practising, and, you never know, like me, it just might happen naturally just in time)

I think insane jealousy is justified - and here is a good place to have a rant about it.

However, I am proof that, even when things don't go to plan, it is still possible - so hang in there everyone!

Gilly - hi there honey, how are you too? I'm really well thanks. OK heres an update but for the sake of sounding unsympathetic to everyone on here I'll whisper quietly to you....I'm now 11wks and have my 12wks scan next week - feeling a bit ropey and nauseous but generally really good.

Whats happened to Ready - is she still around?

Can I just butt in and say if anyone is debating using OTK - try First Response and do them for a full 7days around ovulation....absolutely marvellous and they helped me to get pregnant. They came highly recommended by my sister who has managed to have 3children....so give it a go!!!

Fi

I know how you feel about the smear thing but you have to promise me you will go. I hate it and I've had some rotten experiences.

I had an old school friend who passed away because of cervical cancer and i've had cells lazered, sorry if thats to much info.

I tell you in my next life I am coming back as a man, I can feel my pelvis aching just talking about all this.

Fi

I know how you feel about the smear thing but you have to promise me you will go. I hate it and I've had some rotten experiences.

I had an old school friend who passed away because of cervical cancer and i've had cells lazered, sorry if thats to much info.

I tell you in my next life I am coming back as a man, I can feel my pelvis aching just talking about all this.

I was insanely jealous when my business partner announced she was pregnant. I mentioned that I had been ttc for 7 months. I cannot believe what she said to me. Something along the lines of DH and I must not really want a baby or be in the right place. I could have cried there and then. She has no idea what it is like as she caught after one lucky BD session. But I got all this off my chest in the Hut of Gloom so Im in a better place now but I still cannot get my head around why someone would say that to you.

Anyway I have just booked my first appt with doctor next Tuesday. I am going to lie and say we have been trying for 12 months. I have been checking my temp, ov sticks and cervical mucus. I've started to change my diet and I exercise. I don't smoke. Is there anything fundamental I have missed?

Thanks Mistlethursh - so nice to know I'm not the only one. Feel guilty that I'm not just happy for her. Must be so hard for you seeing your friends pregnant. It will happen and when it does it will feel even more amazing because you've been through so much. Hugs to you too my dear.

I've not been jumping up after bding to make sure some gets up there. Have been swinging around with the help of dh and putting my legs against the headboard to help gravity along.

Have also decided to give up on the ov tests as still haven't had my positive and it's stressing me out - just going to do it every day and hope for the best!
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