TTC after MC - tried to join the other thread but its so big, it wouldn't load on my computer

Hello

I had MC last July and was so I really couldn't think about trying again for at least 4-5 months. It is now about 6 months and I haven't conceived. It is so draining and I definately think you do loose that innocence I would worry so much more than I did first time round. Everyone around me seems to fall pregnant at the drop of a hat and I feel like I'm the only one who is going through this. It is good to hear your stories. Makes me realise that I'm not the only one

Angua - thank you for your kind words. I thought you should know that both my DD's were conceived after a MC. The first time it took me a year before I tried again, the second time a couple of months. Whilst PG I was anxious but I had to tell myself that anxiety was not good for me or the baby and that I was doing the best I could by not worrying. I still did a little but the hardest part was in the run up to TTC, once the decision was made to try again I was really telling myself that I was prepared to risk MC again. I felt more in control and that helped a little IYSWIM. The midwives were also very good, I think they tend to look out for you more when you have had a recent MC. All the best, I hope to hear good news soon

Hi Angua. I could/should maybe be here with you. I had a missed mc in January and started not-trying-not to conceive straight away the first month, iyswim! I then spent a few very desperate months ttc and got to the stage where I was just so utterley devastated that I couldn't handle it anymore. So this month I have actually not tried at all. We didn't have sex anywhere near suspected ov, and my period arrived with no stress and guessing, and wondering and double-bluffing like it has every other month. It has been SOOOOO nice to have a "month off" that I wonder if I should have physically NOT tried for a while straight away after the mc. I'm actually going to give myself at least another month of properly NOT ttc, and maybe more. I think I had got myself to the stage where I didn't even know if I really wanted to carry on ttc, or if I was just doing it to overcome my loss, or to prove a point, or for what reason!
Anyway, I've just really wittered on, and don't even really know what (if any!) point I was trying to make!!
Congrats on your decision to start ttc again, and your readiness to be in this place, and good luck!!!

Hi,

I've just had MC No.3,four days ago, and I don't know if I can face TTC again. I have 2 healthy DD's but feel that there is room for 1 more - I'm scared of losing another one but even more scared of feeling that I've missed out on completing our family.

Hello-

had miscarriage at 5 weeks last week. Didn't even have time to have pregnancy confirmed by doctor. As we have been tryin for a while and on Clomid as have PCOS, I'm keen to start again asap. But now find everything worrying, even hoping that I'll conceive makes me think I'll jinx the whole thing!

I know and that makes it worse. I tried hypnotherapy to help me relax and ate really healthy stuff- wanted to feel I was doing something positive.

I know how you feel, I had 2 mc before I had DS. I was scared about trying again after mc's but glad I did- worried constantly though.