TTC after MC - tried to join the other thread but its so big, it wouldn't load on my computer

Thanks littlesquirt. I agree, quite nerdy but a whole new world out there of cervical mucous and temperature taking! Where does the thermometer go! - sorry just joking. Sounds like a whole load of fun, must admit though to tmi on the cm bit. Might give it a try though. Not sure whether to do it this month due to situation but might start next month. Has anyone bought a monitor gadget thingemy bob - it might be less fun than checking your mucous but a little less messy - am open to your experiences!

Thanks

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Hi smiles. Sorry about your MC

I'm going to sound like a right nerd but I found this website and it will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know about fertility (possibly a bit too much actually!). All you need to subscribe and they send you all the lessons. You don't have to do them all if you don't want to, you can just read about the stuff that interests you. There is also a mini-quiz at the end of each lesson which you can take to see whether you paid enough attention! But again, you don't have to do that either.

Good luck TTC! xxx

Hi
I had a mc last week and have had a scan today to say everything is back in place blah blah blah. Anyway, I hope someone might be able to give me a brief run down on the whole ttc thing again - I know about the birds and the bees obviously just not the making the most of the fertile times (this pg/mc was an accident but it made both of us realise we do want to have another child - having a break for a bit and will then try). Anyway I need to get back in touch with my cycle etc but have never tried to pinpoint ovulation, never used an ovulation kit - where does one start with this???

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Kazza, I just had a MMC (and an ERPC last Monday) and I could totally identify with your post from 20/06 -I had and have exactly the same questions as you. I have decided to start TTC again immediately too. Have you had any luck yet? I have heard from some people that there is a peak fertility time just after a MC but I am not sure whether it is true or not. Ax

Crossing mine too- it might make all the difference!

Thanks Ladies. back to the waiting game......for ov.....for af, for ov, for af, for ov........!! BUt hoping that concentrating on that will help me get over the m/c. maybe I'm mad and should get over it before ttc again. who knows, there's no right/wrong answer, and reading your posts its like we all have to get though it our own way, but this thread is such a great support!

Keepign everything crossed for you my1stbaby.

Sorry you are feeling so down Angua-don't worry too much about Toxoplasmosis. As far as I know, you just can't clean out litter tray for 9 months- no hardship there!

Kazza- hello. Sorry t hear about your mc. Thinking of you.

No news here. Getting lots of twinges...is this usual? Was booked for TVS on 28th because of PCOS and never had the chance to cancel it before mc, so figure I'll go and they can double check that I am "all cleaned out" as MIL so tactfully put it!

Kazza: So sorry to hear about your m/c. Big hugs. I hope you are relatively ok. I also had a m/c at 12wks. My GP says to count cd1 as the first day of period after m/c. AF came for me 6wks after m/c. The day that AF came was cd1 of 1st cycle after m/c. It's a bit more difficult to pinpoint cd1 immediately after m/c. GP suggested to count day of m/c as cd1 even though this wouldn't be a proper cycle and to expect AF between 4-6 wks after m/c. HTH.

hello Ladies, can i join you? I had m/c last week thinking i was 11 weeks but scan showed baby died at 8. its early days but the thought of ttc again soon is what's getting me through all this. i have a question: when do you start your next cycle? ie when is cd1? is it the first day after you stop bleeding or is it the first day you start to bleed in the m/c??

Good luck to you all, and sorry i haven't read through absolutely all the threads, but i do know, AnquaVonUberwald, regarding cats, i really don't think you should worry. If you've been around cats for a long time, the chances are you'll already have picked up toxoplasmosis at some point in the past. just avoid cleaning out the litter tray when ttc and when pg. we have cats and it was not a problem when i was pg with ds, and they're outdoor cats.

Sorry for long post and i hope someone can answer my question! thanks

poppy: I'm using one that has 2 decimal points. I think as long as it's 2 decimal points and the battery is new'ish, it should be reliable. My problem is not with thermometer but the inconsistent waking time. Have imsomnia and sometimes can't manage 3hrs continuous sleep. But I still keep on charting because I think it's the trend that's important not the absolute value. I might be wrong as not an expert on temp charting as it's only 3rd cycle charting.

flos: it's ok about the age thing. I too intended to start a family in my early 30s but unfortunately got realy ill and had to be on nasty drugs for years which means no ttc. My illness only stabilised in the last 18mths or so which is why we are able to ttc. Sometimes gets so angry when thought about all the time wasted. Really wished someone told me about freezing my eggs before treatment. Anyway, it's too late to be upset about that now. I just want to look forward and hope for a BFP soon.

With you there Poppy75!

Forgot to mention that if I hear one more person say 'if you forget about it it will happen',or 'a watched kettle never boils' I'll scream

Thanks everyone,
It definately is getting easier, but I just get days when it seems so unfair. I used to be so relaxed about having babies/conceiving and now I hate the fact that I have it constantly in the back of my mind. I think about 80% of the people I work with are pregnant (probably only about 50%) and they all seem to have just come off the pill and bang there it is. Sorry to moan but it has been one of those weeks. On a positive note it is so good to hear from those who have graduated fromthis thread. I bought a thermometer today so I can have some idea of when I Ov. Is it reliable???

Tragic! Have heard it from literally everyone I have spoken with. I know they are only trying to make me feel better, but they don't know what it's like suddenly being this anxious about everything. I also get fed up with the number of people who tell me "You are still young, you've got plenty of time..." I am aware that I am only 30, but I've known since I was 25 that I'd have difficulty conceiving. We planned to have kids early, now, not in ten years. Don't get me wrong, my1st, am not being age-ist, just anal about planning.....now not only do I have the difficulty conceiving, I also have the panic, the utter panic about everything I do and eat and think, in case it has some bearing on ttc. Nobody who hasn't been throught this understands.

Am truly keeping everything crossed for you both my1st and Angua, that the wait isn't too much longer for you both. If you've been through this, you deserve extra luck!

Oh floss that's EXACTLY how I feel. I almost screamed at my GP when she said that to me after I m/c'd. Even DH said that when I broke down last cycle when AF came. I couldn't believe it . I am so so worried that I'll never get pregnant again. Also in my 40s now, so time is running out. and at the same time. It's really difficult to be objective and calm when it's something that I want so desperately. Life is so unfair sometimes....but like I said earlier I try to take it one day at a time. Can't really think too far ahead or I'll be too stressed out.

Here- here myfirstbaby. We have to stick together, as we are the only ones who really know what the others are going through. I'm sick to death of people saying about mc "Well, there is a positive, at least now you know you can get pregnant." They don't seem to get that I don't want to be positive right now. And as it has taken 18 months and three rounds of Clomid to get to this point, they don't seem to realise that my fear is that it will take another 18 moths to get pg again. And that's if I get rnd to the idea of trying again. Grr. Sorry.

Poppy: you are not alone. I had a m/c in Feb after trying for 8mth. It was so heartbreaking. I didn't think I will ever get over it but...I've come to accept that my baby was no more and it's time to move on. We have been ttc the last 2mths but I think my body is still in la la land as my cycles are all over the place. I guess my body is trying to tell me that I'm not quite ready yet. I think once you experience m/c it's very difficult not to fear it happening again. I try not to think that far ahead, if I do I'll be too scared to try again. Stay with us here for a bit, perhaps we'll be able to help each other along .

Whoops I meant to add that it was now 6 months of trying without conceiving