waiting to TTC January- anyone else?

Can I join you guys? I'll be TTC #2 from December. Going to come off the pill at the end of this packet and hopefully period returns to normal over November. I've been broody all year but my DH wasn't ready for another. Main reasons for waiting til Dec now are to avoid August born baby and it would help us out more financially as DS would be closer to getting 30 hours childcare free. I'm finding it quite a struggle with the wait - seeing as I actually wanted to start ttc ages ago. I'm telling myself that just another month or 2 to wait is nothing but the impatience keeps creeping in. My heart (or ovaries) says sod it lets just try now but my head says just wait a bit longer.

Hi everyone, new poster here

Waiting until after Christmas - have been broody for a while but my husband and I decided to make the most of this year before starting to try.

Reason for waiting these last couple of months is that I'm also a teacher and should we be lucky enough to conceive quickly, I would prefer for mat leave not to overlap with my summer holidays! Once we start trying we won't worry about the dates after that - whatever happens happens. :) I am 32 and husband is 33.

Excited that it's finally almost here. Good luck to everyone!

Well I wobbled a bit this week and had a day of ‘maybe we should wait a bit longer’ till we had a condom slip when I’m ovulating and realised this really is the right time. Hopefully I’m not pregnant just now as that would be a bit of a pain, but I now know we’d both be really happy if I were and that fills me with a lot more confidence.

Hello, may I join too?

I am turning 38 in November (!) and got married last December. We decided to wait to TTC for a year while I started a new job and we settled into married life. So the plan is to remove my Nuvaring in mid-Dec after we get back from holidays and TTC starting January.

My company has just revamped its maternity leave policy to 5 months full pay - from SMP - so that's good news. Just to need to make sure I am in the qualifying period.

I have been lurking for a little bit and really looking forward to joining in the chat smile

@shefliesonherownwings the whole 'Are summer borns disadvantaged at school' is quite a controversial topic I think. I work as an infant teacher and you can normally spot the summer borns as they seem younger - boys can find it harder particularly as schooling becomes more formal. Of course though not all summer born children do find it harder and many catch up/go on to achieve well. A plus is that they get to have a lovely sunny birthday away from school and assume for parents of summer borns childcare is cheaper as they can go to school earlier. I think I will still be TTC from December as will probably take a few months and if is does happen straight away/baby comes earlier and ends up being a summer born will probably just be over the moon that it has safely arrived :)

Can I join? My dh and I are waiting until after Xmas the ttc our second. We have had a couple of bad losses this year and I had an appointment yesterday where they said there is no medical reason why we can’t try again. Want a Christmas with Brie and alcohol first though 😊

@Shefliesonherownwings baby's born in summer start school after there 4th birthday, anything after September start and then turn 5th quickly after, it can make a huge difference.... for me though I want my DD to be 3 before baby arrives. My friend had a DD in August there is almost exactly 2 years between our DC but only 1 school year between them...

Can i ask why some want to avoid a summer baby? Genuine question, I am interested in the reasons. We're going to be ttc#1, DH and I both 35. We just moved in the summer and are having loads of work done to the house but this should be done by the end of year which is why we're waiting. Plus hubbys sister is getting married just after Christmas so want to enjoy that!

Yep we were quite suprised?! I mentioned it but they just said the scans are so accurate that it couldnt really be wrong! Could at the earliest have been the first day post AF but that is still a few days out and would have been at a very strange point in cycle to have conceived.. guess we will never know! I had been using ovulation tests as well but never got a positive result. Hoping for a more chilled approach to hopefully conceiving DC2 as I definitely stressed myself out a bit worrying about it not happening and stuff the first time around!

@sw2102 that's the same for me I was due 16th has AF 14th December apparently when I conceived ! Really confused me and DH

Hello all, please can I join? We will be TTC #2 end of December/January. We have a little boy who will turn 2 next month. I will be having an ELCS after a EMCS if all goes to plan. I will be on 5mg of folic acid once we start trying (prescription) then baby aspirin if all is well from 12 weeks.

Like a few of you I need to get my diet and general health into better check in the next month or so. I lost all my baby weight then promptly put just over a stone on earlier this year 

Yes I still dont understand how my DDs conception date was supposedly 10th Dec (AF). Due date was the 18th Sept. Actually came a week late in the end too. Waiting in theory/ideally till Jan for DC2 but maybe not... we shall see! interesting reading everyones reasons..mine has a lot to do with school too as I am a teacher..telling myself that if it was to happen sooner or baby was early that every thing would be fine though!

I also know I will more than likely be induced due to GD! So need to wait those extra 2 weeks😂

With DD I think I conceived New Years eve but hospital told me mid December (not possible as I had AF those dates) she was due 16th September, so ladies anytime after Christmas Day should be fine 🤪

@Shefliesonherownwings when I got pregnant with DD (jan 2016) they booked me in for a flu jab but I'd already had one because of work (nhs) so I think I might get one next month as will probably have to get one anyway (or be advised to)

@becca3210 I hate cheese 😂 with DD we bought everything and so much expensive crap! DH said I can't have what I want this time as long as we don't buy anything till at least 30 weeks!, I won't be getting loads though it just goes to the charity shop in the end and it's a waste !

Is anyone considering a flu jab this winter? I get a free voucher for a jab with my work, I've never had the flu jab before but am wondering if I should get one in case we get really lucky and get a BFP in January or February and then i'm covered. What do others think?

Yeh there’s never a perfect time. I just don’t want to wait anymore, there will always be a reason to wait if you look for one.

I know I’m ovulating in the next couple of days had it’s so tempting to go ‘ah fuck it!’ But I think I’ll order some lovely unpasteurised cheese instead to keep me going

Welcome everyone who has joined :) Here's to a cheese binging Christmas everybody!

@PyjamasForever that's so exciting! Have a lovely wedding.

@IsTheRainEverComingBack good luck with wedding plans. It is tricky isn't it factoring money as well. I need to definitely start saving come the new year. Husband will be going self-employed from the Spring so perhaps not the most sensible year for me to be TTC but at the same time am thinking is there ever a perfect time? Could take ages to happen etc. etc. !

Pyjamas I know what you mean, so tempted to start now. We’re getting married June 2020 so trying to fit in a baby before that! If I’m not pregnant by end of April at the latest we’ll stop and wait until after wedding to try again, as I don’t want to be pregnant for the wedding. But need to keep saving for now and maternity leave before September would be difficult. This is a very finely tuned planned, what could possibly go wrong 😂

We are waiting till after Christmas to! Think I'll
be here youngest here at 23 ?! Getting implant removed in Dec! Hope we all came back in a couple of months with BFP!!

Oh happy wedding week @pyjamas! How exciting. Hope you have the most wonderful day.

(and yes, I can’t pretend the Christmas cheeseboard wasn’t a tiny factor in TTC timing!)

I'm 31, already have one human child (and numerous cat babies), have a fairly sensible job and feel nowhere near grown up @rain. Not sure I'll ever feel like a grown up.

2 days until I get married. It's tempting to start TTC straight away but I need to remember u pasteurised cheese at Christmas and how a baby from October onwards would be much more sensible from a work/fiancé point of view.

I know what you mean, rain. Having spent so long being told it would be the end of days if I got pregnant it’s odd getting your head around the idea of it being a good thing!

Just posted a thread as having a dilemma about a hen.... have been invited to one in September (SIL!) and not sure how to handle it since we agreed we wouldn’t say anything to family. Eek!

Good luck making all the twins ladies

I’m 30, will be 31 by January. Finally feeling grown up!

Ooh joining for the journey...going to order pre vitamins now!