waiting to TTC January- anyone else?

We are both struggling this month with the decision to wait....so possibly going to start ttc in December instead! As that still should be a September baby...which is something my OH is keen on as he doesn't want a summer baby if we can plan it! So my fertile period should be around mid December!

How are you getting on @becca3210

How is everyone doing? Now know that fertile period will probably be around end of December so will be starting then. Starting to feel real a bit now. Had to add something to an amazon order to get to the free delivery amount so got some of those digital ovulation sticks. Now wondering as it’s first cycle if should be a bit more relaxed about it all but also think would be helpful to know exactly when am ovulating. Hmm!

Where was this thread yesterday when I was to-ing and fro-ing over trying now or trying in December/January!
Pros of waiting
I am a teacher so a September baby would mean 6 weeks off followed by mat leave instead of just mat leave which would be less money than normal summer pay.
Waiting would give us a grace period incase our building work goes over time or over budget, I would be due later so more months wages and no screaming baby on a building site grand designs style.
I am very overweight even having a couple of months to seriously try to lose weight and to get the vitamin and zinc thing going would be beneficial
Cons of waiting
I am 34 and not getting younger
Best friend is due in may and it would be nice to overlap as much as possible
I want a baby!
Still can't decide but if I do wait I feel like this thread will help.

Hi all, can I join the exciting wait? DH and I have decided to start trying for our first baby in the new year. We’ve had a busy year with our wedding and new house and had originally thought we would wait a bit longer and enjoy married life but the broodiness has hit! I also have PCOS so I’m realistic in that it could take quite a long time so it may be better to start trying sooner rather than later. I’m going to try to stay relaxed and not put too much pressure on it but knowing my stressy tendencies I’ll be obsessively temping by month two! Can’t wait to see in Christmas with lots of pate and soft cheese and then join you all on the journey in January.

@IsTheRainEverComingBack how exciting! Everything crossed for you.

Good luck @istherainevercomingback got all my fingers crossed for you!

I tried convincing my OH to start now but he says he wants to wait til Jan! But I have the same thoughts as you as we are also planning a 2020 wedding and I want to be able to loose a bit of the weight and not have a tiny baby!

Thanks Becca I think I’m just a wildly undecided person in all aspects, now I’ve settled on a decision I just want to get moving. Have flipped my Natural Cycles to Plan a Pregnancy, fingers crossed!

Ah that's exciting! Good luck @IsTheRainEverComingBack :)

We’ve caved. We’re going to start TTC this month! We also want to squeeze in a baby before a 2020 wedding so can only try until April to avoid a tiny baby at the wedding. Thought to hell with it, let’s just get on with it.

Can I join the wait too? We are both 27, recently engaged but want to have a baby before we get married in 2020 (hopefully! Although nothing booked yet). Waiting for a few reasons, one was to sort our finances out and reportage, and second was my OH would rather not have a summer baby. So waiting til Jan!! Not been on the pill for over a year but have irregular periods, currently using the pull out method as if it happens it happens.

Hi Everyoneee :)
Im 27, have a DD who is 2 Dec/Christmas Eve.
Starting uni in Sept 2020 so realistically only want to start trying again after the new year as I want my maternity leave to fall right and for me to go straight to uni not have to go back to work and also for my DD 30 hours free to kick in. Advised DH we have a timeframe of Jan to May - but as we all know that doesn't happen when its TTC.
Nervous for TTC as I feel we have a timescale it wont happen!!
Havent been on any contraception since June roughly having 30/31 day cycles. Currently ovulating now so looking at the end of December/jan to start! :)
xx

I know @frostywalks - no pressure, ay?! 🙈😂 I was born just after Christmas and I actually quite like it all being lumped in together but I don’t really enjoy birthdays so I think I’m a bit weird any way!

@Hazandduck I really don't want a december baby so won't be TTC after feb either ! Only get 2 goes 😂 my niece is a December baby and her birthday is so stressful being near Christmas !!

Ps I’m turning 30 in December and would like my second baby before 31 ideally!

Hi all!
I’m currently in the ‘massively broody but being forced to wait’ camp. A close friend is getting married late July so we really, really can’t get pregnant this month and risk missing his wedding!

We have a DD turning one in a few weeks, and want a smallish gap, however, I’m breastfeeding and my periods haven’t returned so I think I am going to have to stop in order for us to TTC :( I can just tell I’m not fertile at the moment (one of those who always knows when I’m ovulating.)

One thing to bear in mind, if anyone out there loves Christmas I found it really hard last year with a newborn at Christmas, so we have decided if it’s not happened by January to stop trying in February and a March to avoid clashes with DD’s birthday and Christmas. I would love a September baby, gives you a few months to recover and baby will hopefully be a bit more settled by December. I know you can’t really control these things but one can hope! I wouldn’t mind an August baby, my niece who is 5 struggled for the first few months at school but now has an advanced reading age and is as bright as a button. I think this is because her mum put extra time and attention in to help her catch up, so it isn’t the end of the world to have a summer baby, and having summer parties is a big plus! Good luck to everyone TTC. I’m excited already

pastaallday with my DS I stopped my pill and periods returned immediately for me. I was on combined pill rigevidon. I also fell pregnant on 2nd cycle. Fingers crossed it's as quick this time around too.

Hello, we are also waiting until end of Dec to start TTC. Im imagining from Xmas day onwards! Mainly as I would prefer to not have a summer born baby but I know there things likely don't go to plan! But it's our first and so we shall see. Im waiting on my period to return @boodles101 how long did you periods take to return when you first m stopped pill? I'm in about day 42 ish since I stopped my pill so hoping by Dec they'd have sorted out but now less hopeful!

Can totally relate to the heart versus head thinking/wanting different things! We were tempted the other night to ‘have a try’ after a friend’s wedding but glad now that we didn’t! Husband not keen on vitamins but just ordered a load of nuts/seeds other zinc filled things! I am also going to try and do some more exercise try and watch my diet etc though with birthday and Christmas coming won’t keep on the straight and narrow all the time!

Yes it’ll be my first. Probably won’t need any monitoring but as I’m going for something else (the pelvic floor) I thought I’d mention as there’s context.

@IsTheRainEverComingBack that's really good, well done! I need to get back into running as I find I end up eating better as well. Good idea to have a dr appointment before TTC. Will this be your first? I have one child who is 2 next month. My asthma didn't require any additional monitoring but definitely worth investigating as everyone's different.

I will need 5mg folic acid as I had placental abruption with my first during labour. Will also be on baby aspirin after 12 weeks.

Oh dear! I lost 5lbs but then this week has gone a bit wrong and a daren’t weigh myself. I’ve signed back up for the gym though and feeling motivated to get in there, I’m better with a clear goal in mind.

What reason do you need 5mg for? I had a look and I don’t think I need the increased amount, but will be mentioning TTC to the doctor in a couple of weeks as I’m asthmatic (mildly) and have pelvic floor issues.

@IsTheRainEverComingBack yes, I will need to be on 5mg of folic acid so when I go for my super exciting smear test in November I will book in to get a prescription for that. Like you I would like to shift a stone however I've said that for six months now and have lost the grand total of 2 pounds, ooops!!

Yeh there’s really only so much control we can ever have! Life is what happens when we’re making other plans and all that.

Has anyone got any plans for getting baby making healthy? We’re starting the vitamins today but I really want to try and lose a stone and get exercising at least 3 times a week, especially lots of lower body stuff to help my poor pelvic floor muscles!

Yes it would make sense but I've worked out some dates and i wouldn't be ttc til the end of December anyway. That's obviously assuming if my period returns to normal straight away! My first was overdue and I know that doesn't mean 2nd baby would be the same but telling myself December is helping to keep my impatience at bay! It might not work out to that anyway so will just play it by ear once we get to then! A baby is still a baby at the end of the day so I'm won't exactly be too disappointed if it arrived early.

Welcome! If you want to avoid August baby wouldn’t it be better to wait till January? Assuming baby can come two weeks before or after due date?