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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Chooklass · 09/10/2018 06:30

Yammers thread 9!

Yammer rules:

A safe place for those of you who have been trying to conceive for 6+ months and even yams aren’t helping. Come and have a good ol’ bitch and a moan without judgement. Please read the rules before posting!

The Yam Commandments are as follows;

  • Thou shalt not arrive one day and post BFP next day
  • Thou shalt not give advice to others when TTC for one month only
  • Thou shalt not participate in one-up-manship and realise TTC is shit for everyone in different ways
  • Thou shall allow posters to be fucked off with the world and everything in it at regular points in the month
  • Thou shalt not be offended by strong language
  • Thou shalt not tell everyone to eat yams
  • Thou shall accept being called a muppet for testing at 7dpo at 9pm at night
  • Thou shalt not symptom spot during the two week wait and must be prepared for a telling off if you do so.

-Thou shalt not post pictures of positive pregnancy tests. We will be delighted to hear about it but no photos, please and thank you

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Owlpatrol · 21/01/2019 19:08

Like it, what about Yampon's not allowed? 😂

BGDino · 21/01/2019 13:47

We're going to need a new thread soon! Anybody got any good ideas for a title? So far the only thing I've managed to come up with is "Yammed If You Do; Yammed If You Don't" Hmm

Owlpatrol · 21/01/2019 07:06

Oh that sounds good @BGDino sometimes just having some sort of a plan makes it seem a bit better as there is a focus. Thanks for explaining the cervix thing, as id never heard that before

Me and dp decided to start saving for a holiday this year and pregnant or not it gives us something to focus on. And if I end up pregnant and can't fly well at least we've started saving! I think that's what was holding me back a lot last year. I've also bought a journal (sorry if that sounds twee) to help me focus on goals which aren't baby related

BGDino · 21/01/2019 02:56

Also a little update, I’m feeling much better, don’t know if it’s the new psych meds or the fact that we have a certain plan and timeline going forward (probably both). Spoke to my lovely boss today and I’ll be returning to work in the second week of February, gradually.

@JustLikeTheySaid crossing everything I have that you get to have your bloods done xxx

BGDino · 21/01/2019 02:53

@Owlpatrol you can scan for it but it was my first pregnancy so I had no prior history and I also had no risk factors to tell my obstetrician that it was something we needed to worry about. He was completely shocked when they phoned to tell him I’d lost the baby as he’d seen me a week earlier and there were no signs of anything being wrong. Obviously it will be totally different with the second pregnancy if we get one, he’ll be watching me like a hawk.

Owlpatrol · 20/01/2019 17:32

Ahh ok @BGDino is it something they scan for or did you already know?

Oh doll @JustLikeTheySaid how annoyong keeping everything crossed fp doesn't turn up

BGDino · 20/01/2019 16:32

@Owlpatrol cervical incompetence is where your cervix starts dilating too early. If you know it’s happening you can put a stitch in it to try and hold it closed until later in the pregnancy, or be given progesterone, or both.

JustLikeTheySaid · 20/01/2019 13:44

Negative on a cheapie test just now. Have got some first responses ones but I now have all the usual pre FP cramps so doubt I will bother. Hopefully FP will come Wednesday so I can have my Day 3 bloods done on Friday otherwise I will have to wait until next month which will be mega annoying :(

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Chooklass · 20/01/2019 10:11

first time

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Chooklass · 20/01/2019 10:10

@BGDino I spot from around 6dpo to FP which might be a sign of low progesterone, so consultant said I could try supplements. She basically said she don’t think it will work though! UK docs seem really reluctant to believe in low progesterone for some reason! It’s the last thing to try before IVF ... got everything crossed as prog supplements recently worked first for my cousin after 4 years TTC. Scared of getting my hopes up x

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Owlpatrol · 19/01/2019 20:27

That's good news @BGDino but what does a failed cervix mean? Sorry if that sounds harsh/stupid Flowers

Cycle day 12 here however felt ovulation yesterday!!! So quickly dtd today as first time this cycle so fx I might be in this cycle. Humph been a busy stressful week at work so who knows. Not been using opks which has surprisingly taking the pressure off. Do been amazingly affectionate this week like running me baths! Let's see eh

@JustLikeTheySaid who knows who knows keeping fx here

@impatientmammy how you doing Star? Xx

JustLikeTheySaid · 19/01/2019 08:26

That's great news @BGDino

9DPO here (although I think 10DPO). May test tomorrow but may not bother.

Very few symptoms to spot. I seem to have two different types of cycles - ones where I get a load of cramping in the TWW and ones without any. This is one without any... so who knows. I had loads of what I suppose should be sticky but felt almost more wet/creamy discharge for a few days but that's all stopped now.

Who knows! I don't know if I am brave enough to test and see a negative again. Think I will just wait until FP arrives :(

BGDino · 19/01/2019 08:25

@Chooklass what does the progesterone do?

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Chooklass · 18/01/2019 17:00

Hey Yammers, Been lying low recently but just checking in and catching up with the thread. FP due in a few days but have had a weirdly symptomless cycle and don't think I ovulated, so not holding out much/ any hope! Good news is I finally got my consultant and GP to communicate and sort out the progesterone supplement prescription so I've got those for next three cycles. Just to take between ov and FP. Excited to be trying something new but don't want to get my hopes up.

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cupcakesandglitter · 18/01/2019 15:52

@impatientmammy hope you're getting your BD on! Xx

@BGDino oh that's brilliant, I'm glad you've got a better answer and you've got a month to relax and do everything!! Make the most of it, enjoy the wine (have a drink for me too!!) x

impatientmammy · 18/01/2019 13:32

Awww @BGDino that's really good news hopefully not being in limbo will help you feel a bit more you. How you feeling about everything? Xx

BGDino · 18/01/2019 08:10

@impatientmammy I'm from Australia - I live in Sydney but was born in London so both Aussie and Brit!

I heard from my obstetrician today. He got the preliminary autopsy report and thinks he has 90% of the available information, and the most likely cause of losing my son was my cervix failing, though my presentation doesn't match 100%.

More importantly, he said that after I've seen the endocrinologist (my blood tests turned up an abnormal sugar test) I can try for another pregnancy. My appointment with the endocrinologist is Feb 11 (first I could get) and the first available appointment with the fertility specialist is Feb 14, so that's worked out as well as it could I think.

I guess for the next 4 weeks I have to a) get out of this depression relapse and b) eat and drink all the things I can't while trying to get/being pregnant ;)

impatientmammy · 17/01/2019 23:32

Thank you ladies. I got a static smiley on Wednesday morning so we've been BDing and much as possible I still have EWCM this evening so we're in with a chance 🤞
How's things going @JustLikeTheySaid I think we all symptom spot. Sometimes you just want something so much it's impossible to put it to the back of your mind.
Where are you @BGDino. I don't know very much about the politics of them all to be honest. I'm glad the psychiatrist is appearing to be understanding. X

BGDino · 16/01/2019 12:12

Hello everyone, thinking of everyone in the UK as your politicians play out #Brexit.

Not much to report here, except to say I've been to see my psychiatrist today and I'm starting a new medication - lamotrigine - to try and improve the depression. She agrees that the uncertainty about how long I have to wait before TTC again won't do anything good for my mood.

@impatientmammy crossing my crossables for you xxx

JustLikeTheySaid · 16/01/2019 11:26

Don't know how easy it will be to get my DH to go for the sperm check @owlpatrol but so far he seems okay about it...

I haven't even picked up the bloody forms yet so I'm the problem! I need to wait for this next period to come (I'm 7DPO today) and then I can go from there. Day 3 and Day 21 I think she said.

Am very annoyed with myself for symptom spotting this month when I know it won't have happened! Can't help it though. It is all just such a mindfuck.

@impatientmammy I'm glad the flashing faces are still holding out. Must be weird to want the solid to hold off for a bit, usually we are desperate for it to come!

impatientmammy · 15/01/2019 22:04

How you feeling today @JustLikeTheySaid ? I hope you get the answers your hoping for

I'm still on flashing smileys today and my other half's home tomorrow so we're in with a chance 🤞 last months BFP is keeping me hopeful. I forgot to buy grapefruit juice so will get some tomorow. If I get the chance. Can it work in a day? I drank it for about a week before last month.
I really hope your doing ok ladies and it's quiet cause your all so busy rather than the horrid hopelessness January seems to be bringing x

Owlpatrol · 15/01/2019 21:52

Yeah I've always thought it's always nice to feel we are doing something @JustLikeTheySaid on that note dp still not rang doctor!! Still waiting for fp to end!

JustLikeTheySaid · 14/01/2019 17:08

Just agreed with my GP that we will start fertility tests. She's left the forms at reception.

This is good obviously... But it is gutting too. At least we might get some answers?

Owlpatrol · 13/01/2019 22:00

@impatientmammy @BGDino thabks ladies had a lovely Sunday chilling, clearing out and eating roast dinner! I need some positivity this week as it's gonna be a manic week at work and I just need something to give me divine inspiration!

impatientmammy · 13/01/2019 21:38

Awww ladies Januaries not been very kind to the yammers so far. I'm pleased your DH has finally agreed @Owlpatrol hope they get him in quick.
I'm on my second day of flashing smileys and other half isn't home till Wednesday so fingers crossed the egg holds on because I'm totally in denial and I don't think I'm gunna cope well with another fat chance of getting pregnant without having an affair type of month. X

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