Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

Welcome @Iusedtobecarmen yup whilst af still comes you're still in the game... and big congratulations @Funkypuzzle.. not much to report here af finished so back at enjoying the contraceptive free bonking.. another article in the times ( patient has it ) about sperm being good in spring and autumn.. cooler for testicles and lots of daylight... so happy days ladies... xxx

Thanks I'm feeling inspired by all of you.
I just wish late period would hurry and come so i can restart properly!

Hunger pangs I mean

Floofsquidge that is very reassuring. I will buy a digital test later for peace of mind. Hope you feeling ok and you are progressing nicely.

Those who have been on the thread may recall that I was convinced I was pregnant last cycle. I had marked nausea and hunger pangs from about 8dpo. I got a BFN at 12 dpo and was totally confused. I got my AF on time in the end but it was very heavy. I was at work when I could feel my cervix dilate on day 2. I bled clots through my dress, cardie and then thru to the seat of my car. Luckily I was wearing black! I don’t know whether I had a chemical or if maybe progesterone levels were very high as I still had some in my system from Mirena?

Anyway here I am again.
I have a complicated and worrying background in that I had a positive Harmony test 2 1/2 years ago and ended up getting a termination at 13 weeks. That is why this time I chose to take high dose folate. I read there is some promising research about high dose folate protecting DNA in early conception. But now I have to wait it out until 9 or 10 weeks when I can get the test again. That is assuming I do not miscarry before then.
I am having night time hunger pains and mild waves of nausea so hoping this is a sticky one.

Cleo - I had already ordered it when I first spoke to him about it. I don’t think there is any harm in talking to your acupuncturist, they should be a bit more clued up on these things than us.
I don’t know much about temperature rises, I’m trying to avoid going that route cause I know it will only give me something else to stress over.... saying that... I have been randomly taking my temperature at completely different times of the day with our normal ear thermometer, I realise this is a silly thing to do

@Funkypuzzle congratulations!

Boots own was one of the (four!) tests I took and was def much lighter than the others at two days past period due date. I read that the boots own tests aren't as sensitive with a higher level of hcg needed.

Thanks ladies it really is so good being on here. We totally get each other and that means a lot xx

@Funkypuzzle. I can see that line nice and clearly! Brilliant Congratulations! x

Congrats funky! Yay

Welcome Iusedtobe

Sorry af came mattsmamma, fingers crossed for next cycle

Rose did your accupunctuist recommend the dhea? Do you think I should tell mine I'm thinking of taking it?

Mimosa what are you doing to balance your hormones?

A bit concerned about mine at the moment as I am certain I ovulated 2 days ago, but temps have not gone up yet. I've noticed over the last few cycles that my temps have become very slow rising, I think it may indicate progesterone problems or an imbalance with hormones. Last cycle it eventually rose super high but just started slow, not like the sharp rise I used to get after ov.

Wow! Congratulations @Funkypuzzle!
I can definitely see the line!
xx

Yay Funky!! Congrats! I just love love love a bfp on here. It looks clear as Day to me:)

Welcome Iusedtobe. Good for you ttc at 48. Why the hell not. Regular periods = fertile lady.

Mattsmama - sending a big hug. I know exactly how you feel. CD1 is awful.

Cleo - not quite but next month we’ll be ttc again. My cycles do seem to be ok again. I’m doing lots to balance the hormones. Glad you like Inconceivable. It’s v inspiring isn’t it.

The photos are all rubbish but you will have to take my word for it 🙃

It’s a cheap test so difficult to get photo. hope this one is clearer.

Just seen you can’t even see the line in the photo but it is definitely there. Hope this one is clearer

So today I got a BFP!!😱😱
Boots own brand. Line is visible but much fainter than control 15dpo.
I don’t know if faint line means I’m at risk of a chemical.
I’ll go buy another brand later.

I’m 42. 2nd cycle post Mirena removal. TTC #3.
Taking 600mg co enzyme a, 25mcg VIT D and 5mg folic acid.

I am utterly shocked and frightened as well. 🤭🤭😯😯

Welcome @Iusedtobecarmen, I am taking royal jelly & bee propolis plus a few other things.
@Mattsmama - sorry about AF, it’s so hard isn’t it. x
Not much to report here, I’m still not feeling well, but my Acupuncturist doesn’t think it’s to do with the dhea. I have only been taking 25mgs, but I might increase that back up to 50mgs. I usually get pmt 10 days before AF is due, no sign of that yet this month, but that’s probably cause I don’t feel well.

Iusedtobecarmen - welcome
. I’m oldest I think 49

Maybe test in a couple of days if af not arrived? Fingers crossed for you!

Meanwhile for AF has made an arrival . Very mixed feelings here this morning - really don’t know what to do for the best anymore

Hello everyone else

Oh can I add. I really don't think I'm pregnant and the tests are wrong. All the times I actually have been pregnant the tests have been positive on the actual day period was due.

Hi
Can I join.
I'm 48(oldest one surely). 3 dc already
Last one I had when I was 39.
I had an early mc 6 wks about 5 yrs ago(wasn't ttc at the time so surprise).
Since then half ttc as I really want number 4
But not really trying. Only trying in sense that we don't use contraception. Know my cycle well and virtually every month we don't end up even trying at the right time due to work patterns and various other things always in the way. So I cant say ive tried for X anount of time as i havent.
I really need to get going!know chances are slim.
I take folic acid,vit d,co q10,vit c and I've just started royal jelly. Any other suggestions?
I did take Dhea for a while but when i ran out I didn't buy any More, as I had a 'funny' period. I sort of bled mid cycle. I could only put it down to that. However. I am thinking restarting.
I normally have a cycle about 28/29 days. Always been the same. Never changed. Occasionally D27 or 30.
Ovulate(according to OPK) every month.
Now this month something's gone wrong!!period due 8th. So 5 days late. I have done 3 of tests on the off chance(did have sex around ovulation) but they are neg. I feel awful. Bloated soo much
Don't know if it's related to being late or just trapped wind!! Got PMT type symtoms

I'm panicking this is the start of the menopause. Please help!!

Thanks @BooseysMom. Really kind. I honestly hope you get to prove them all wrong!!!!

Thanks BOOSEYS xx

SNOWIE - you are spot on. Totally agree also about men! Nobody bats an eyelid when a man in his fifties and far beyond beyond announces they are going to be a Dad but it’s a totally different story for a woman .

AF still not arrived which keeps giving me hope but I’ve been crampy on and off for a few days now so pretty sure it’s on it’s way!

Lets - those are results of a spring chicken! I am dreading finding out my fsh as I know it will be bad, I just hope it's gone down a little bit from last time.

Loved reading the 49 year old pregnancy thread! Gives us hope. I have just finished reading Inconceivable, she seemed very similar to me, 42 with high FSH (although I am 41) she was told no hope with those stats, but took it upon herself to change things with diet, yoga and various other holistic things and it worked. I've taken some ideas from her and hope it can work for me too. Sod the miserable negative ninny's. We can do this.

Snowie - thanks for the info on dhea.
I think its totally fine to ovulate late and will not mame much difference. Sounds like you timed it fine if you dtd on peak day anyway. And have the wine! Drink till it's pink is the saying!

Mellon..sorry meant to say your DH's DB!!

Let's...thanks

Matts..sorry to hear you're having a low day. Here's a virtual hug! Good luck too x

Well said Snowie! ..I think nature just has its own way of knowing when it's right . I mean I was taking FA every day for years then when I had 2 mcs I thought fcuk this and gave up taking it ..you can guess what happened!! .. I conceived at 40 and had a very low risk of abnormalities result and I wasn't on FA or any other vit's!! I guess I was just lucky. Now I'm back on the FA being that much older.
As for wine, well I was drinking a glass a night steadily thru the first 12 weeks which I wouldn't have done if I'd known I was preg but I had no idea! One night I had a load more than 1 glass as it was a leaving do and DS turned out perfect. So I'm sure a glass won't hurt tonight Snowie. Cheers! X

Sorry about AF everyone. Such a let down isnt it.

For those starting DHEA i started it during the month and have been on it for around 3 months now this time. My FS recommended the micronised version. Not sure why.. here's the link:

www.dhea-uk.com/home.php

But as i said if i take the 75mg per day i tend to get side effects such as greasy hair and insomnia particularly if i take one dose late in the day. So i tend to interchange between 50mg and 75mg a day.

So i ovulated CD19/20 this month which is really late for me. Im normally CD14/15 but im wondering if the thyroid medicine Im on now or the DHEA has affected this? Does anyone know if this is too late for ovulation? It therefore means that i only dtd 3 days before and on the day of +ve OPK since i was so confused by cycle and thought i wasn't ovulating. Do you think I've messed it up?

Urgh always so stressful this. Although i am sure my friend said her FS told her to dtd every 3 days when ttc. So i hope I'm covered..

My feel is that if we are biologically ready to carry a child then it can happen anytime/any age. Anyone who is judgemental on that are just affected by societal norms the past few decades due to birth control for example in my opinion. Before that people were giving birth at any age i believe. Also the advancement of medicine has helped too in terms of screening etc. What gets me too is that people rarely comment on the mans age if they are older. Which is bizarre to me since women on average live longer than men! I think it really depends on who you talk to as well and those which have an opinion on having a baby later in life, i do not want to talk to. Although it's not always easy!! Thankfully where i am it is quite normal so people are not judgemental. As i said my sister is 46 having her first and she is breezing through her pregnancy with no question! If we are fertile til the menopause then there is always a chance/way! And of not, there are also other options.

Im now on the tww and wondering whether to have that glass of wine i wanted later or go on that run..

Sorry Prolactin 298 mU/L