Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

😞 @Russkispy

I’m so sorry Russkispy, sending you a big hug. xxx

Sorry to hear that russkispy

Just took the test and it's BFN. It's crap of course. But the fight is not over till I get there. Whatever it takes! Next IUI next month. In the meantime will get going with my acupuncture and reflexology and all supplements I've been taking for a while now.

Thanks Critter, yeah it's a good deal. I guess I'm saving £400 rather than £200 so more free (so to speak!)
Let's see if I get the courage to sort it tomorrow.... eek!!

@Cleozeta - I would say that the £400 package sounds very good - the HSG was £295 on its own for me, and my clinic insists on it before progressing with IVF treatment. For comparison my initial consult, including SA and scan with AFC was £150, then to progress further AMH test (£80) and HSG (£295) were mandatory, plus another £200 for the blood tests for HIV, hep C, etc.

Evening everyone, sorry to have been off the radar for so long - have been on holiday for a week, rubbish wifi. Hello to all the new ladies, Dab, Evug, Carmen, Jenbot, Lulu, Pelican, Rose, Star and Sweetpea. Massive congrats Funky, Critter and Rose, fingers crossed Wishing.

Alibaba: 42, dds 8 & 6, ttc 2 years
Amelial: 41, ds10, ds8 and dd7, ttc #4
Angel: 42, 3 dds, angel boy Ollie
Apple: 42, mmc, tfmr, chemical, mc, ttc#1 three years
AtrocityNeedles: 44, ttc#1
AuntyGeek: 43, ttc#1
BlessedAgain: 41, ttc #3, 1 mmc (Sept 2017), 3 cps since April
Booseys: 46, ds, ttc 2.5-3 years
Chat: 45, 5dc, 3 mc, 1 cp
Chendy: 40, poss thinking about ttc#3
Claire: 44
Clara: 45, ttc #3
Cleo: 41, dc 5 & 7, mmc May, ttc 15 months
Cookie: 40, ttc#1, 3 months
Critter: 40, ttc#1, doing IVF, BFP 19/10/18!!!
Crivit - 44, ttc#1
DabofRouge: 44, mc 2017
Dicky: 40, ttc#3
Dinah - 44, dc 2(?), mc March, ttc since May
Dora: 44, dd 4, 1 mmc, 1 Patau's, 2 cp, ttc#2
Eloisa: 45, dc 4, ttc 2 years
Emma: 41, ttc#1, mc in May
Emmalou: 42, dc 17, 10, 6
Evug1234: 40, ttc#3
Faith: 43, dd 3.5, 2 mc, ttc 2 years, BFP!!!
Ficidy: 42, dc 5 & 2 (IVF)
Floof: 40, ttc#1 4 months, BFP 15/09/18!!!
Funky: 41, 2 ds, 1 abnormality loss, ttc#3, BFP 13/10/18!!!
Helbelle: 42, mmc at 40, dd 14 months, BFP!!!
Hmmm: 41, 1dc, ttc 1 month
Hobbes: 41, ds 5, ttc 3.5 years, ectopic, IVF, cp, 2 mcs
Iusedtobecarmen: 48, 3dc, mc
Jenbot78: 40, dd 16 months, IVF, cp, ttc#2, Hashimotos
Karigan: 40.5, ttc since Jan, 1 mc
Karryk: 41, 1 dd, 2 mmc, post c-section scarring, ttc#2
Lapsed: 43, ttc #1
Letsdothis: 43, ttc #1
Leezo: 39, ttc #1, 1 mc, 1 cp,
LittleMimosa: 42, dc 5 & 7, ttc 18 months
LuluJakey1: 39, ds 3.9, dd 18 months
Lumpy76: 42, 8 dc, 2mmc
MakeAWhish: 39, ttc #3 1 month
Marty: 41, 1 dc, 2 mcs, ttc a year, BFP 09/09/18!!!
Matts: 48, dc 11 & 6, 2 mcs, 4 cps
Mellongoose: 42, dd 3.5, ttc 2 years, BFP 19/09/18!!!
Minime: 41, ttc #1 for 23 mths, 1 cp and 1 mc in march
Mondaycando: 44, ds 8 & 7
Nor: 44, ds 3, Patau's loss, ttc #2
Orchid: 41, dc 2.5, ttc >1 year, mc June
Panky: 41, 1 mc, ttc#3
Pelican1980: 39
PetraRabbit: 43, dc 13 months, mmc March
PollyIndia: 43, ds, ttc 18 months
Presh: 40, ttc#1, mmc 2017, Graves disease
Raffylou: 40, ds 2, 1 mc, 1cp
Rose68: 43, ds 9 and 6, ttc#3, BFP 19/10/18!!!
Russkispy: 42, IUI, dd 14 months, 1mmc, ttc#2
Shiny: 40, dd 3, tfmr 2017, mc April
Snowie3: 42, tttc #2, 1 mc
Sparrow: 43(?), ds 1.5, doing IVF
StarShapedWindow: 39, dc 10 and 6, ttc#3
StepAway: 42, dd 1, 3mcs, dd2 13 weeks
Sweetpea0318: 39, dd 3, ttc#2 13 months, mc March
Sylvanian: 40, 2 dc, 1mc, ttc#3
Taxgirl: 43, ds 2 (?), 4 mc, ttc #2
Teacup: 39, 3 dc, 2 mc, 1 mmc, ruptured ectopic
Weasle: 42, dc 7 & 5, 2 mcs 2017, cp in March
Wimsywon: 43, dc 24
Wishingbaby: 43, ttc #1 (?)
WishingonaStar77: 41, ttc #1, 3mc (last in July), waiting...
User1471543239: 44, 1mc, 1 dd 22/09/18!!!

Up to 70 now, nine BFPs in the last few months! That's a nearly 13% success rate! Summer clearly improved egg quality.

Thanks Critter & Rose. Just had look at 2 local (ish) clinics, one of them had some great deals for young people doing IVF and they do initial tests but only really spoke of the youngs. The other one, which is a bit of a faff to get to (we don't drive) mentioned over 40's quite regularly, and are doing a half price deal on 2 types on initial tests & consultant package. Looks like its that place then!
So the next question is - do I go for the basic package - AMH, SA, scan & consultation for £200 or the comprehensive package - the above plus further screenings (no mention of what) HSG and a more indepth consultation for £400.
So, I don't mind paying more for the extra tests bit it seems the pricey thing in this us the HSG, but would I need that if I had a pregnancy at the beginning of the year so likely have no blockages? Or is it useful to have anyway?

We went along to a free open evening at the clinic near us, at which they offered a deal for initial tests and consultation. The tests include AMH blood test, baseline scan (I assume this is uterus and ovaries) and semen analysis. That would have been £325 including consultation. x

Not sure where the extra @ came from there!

@Thanks @Cleozeta. Most clinics will offer an initial consultation package which includes basics like AFC, SA, ultrasound of uterus, etc. and advice on options after discussing your history. They will then likely ask you to get an AMH test and HSG done if you are interested in pursuing treatment.

Critter sounds promising that things are progressing nicely!

Rose - sounds like a silly question, but what did you book? A consultation? Or tests? Not sure where to start!

Cleo - I booked an appointment at a clinic last week, so hopefully the same will happen for you if you book an appointment!

Critter - sorry to hear the OHSS is still there, I hope it doesn’t cause you any problems, but WOW to getting a scan in 2 weeks time!

@Weasledee I don’t know - trying not to think about it too much! From the bit of googling I did on beta HCG levels at 9dp5dt, it would seem that 597 is highly indicative of twins, but of course everyone and every pregnancy is different! Also there’s obviously no guarantee that if there are two embryos both (or either!) will continue to develop so I guess I’ll just have to wait two weeks for the scan. As usual the docs are being very tight lipped - they never give anything away unless they are absolutely sure!

Exciting stuff Critter!! So, what we thinking.... 1 or 2.....? 

Just back from my OHSS scan - ugh, it’s still there. I thought it was getting better because I’d been in a bit less pain but apparently that’s just because of all the water I’m drinking. Ovaries are still very large and there’s masses of fluid floating around in my abdomen/pelvis. There is slightly less around my stomach and diaphragm though (which I could tell because I’ve been able to breathe better) so doc is happy that things should move in the right direction and hopefully not get worse. Annoyingly I have to keep doIng the extremely painful daily injections of blood thinner for 2 more weeks 😒

The silver lining to all this is that the fact that the OHSS is still there means the pregnancy is still progressing and first scan is booked for two weeks today 😁

@Cleozeta - I say go for it, but be prepared for it to not necessarily work first time!

Haha yes I was tempted to do that with mine star. But I could have sworn thete was something there, so I did the holding it under the light thing, shoved it in the drawer (because I knew if it went in the bin I'd only have to dig it out again) then came back to it with the magnifying glass. And the blip I saw on it was confirmed as a sodding indent. Grrr.
As for season. I'd take any.
Deffo going to clinic now. Better get saving.

Rose’s treatment of the BFN sounds much more civilised than mine!

Petra, an August baby would be gorgeous, all the walks with the pram and sitting out with the baby in the garden. My DS is dyslexic so school is a bit trickier for him than most other, hence wishing he’d been born later. Sorry you had a MMC, maybe if you don’t manage an August baby you’ll get an October snuggly, wrapped in woolies one! BTW if I have a girl we’ve picked Petra as her name.

Cleo- if I get a BFN I call it some unsavoury names, snap it in half and banish it to the bin.

@Cleozeta, I haven’t, but I have taken tests apart and studied them at every angle possible in good light by the window. x

Cleo......not yet...but give me a week or so...ha

Star...I'm the opposite. My DC was a June date and I desperately want to conceive in the next 2 cycles so I can have an August baby as a sibling. To have only just over 2 years between them but be 3 school years apart (if I got a September 2019 baby) would be a shame socially...in terms of their friends all getting on, going to big school/uni at more similar times....etc. I'd be requesting a csection again so I'm always calculating how many more cycles I could fit in before hitting that September date with no leeway to force it into August!!! I also think my current DC will benefit lots from going to school earlier but obviously they are all different. I would have loved an October baby (my mmc due date is this week waaaaaah) fir the lovely cosy bonnets and woollies and snuggly clothes. A newborn in a t-shirt is much less appealing. I do think of names too, but I like the subject of names anyway!

Be honest - has anyone else ever examined a BFN under a magnifying glass to get a hope of even a hint of a line?

Lucky you to get a September born! My poor DS is mid July. Yes, age is an issue for me this time around. I may not be able to get pregnant at all let alone pick which season suits us best! Having said that, I have one in winter, one in summer and I lost one that would have been born in September so an autumn baby would be nice.