Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

@Littlemimosa im sure im approaching perimenopause too due to the changes in my cycles, mainly since i had the miscarriage. My cycles have been knocked off completely where theyd been a regular 26/27 days. In the last 6 months theyve come at 24 days to 33 days. Ive had ovulation symptoms from cd5 and some stronger symptoms cd16. Other symptoms include v little cm around the fertile period and mood dips. Im on pregnacare/seven seas but gave taken to adding a Vit B complex to the mix to see if it'll help.
Thoroughly cheesed off of it all. Read a post on FB from some news site about ivf not being offered to women beyond 34 in some areas even though it should be given til 42 on nhs. Some of the public posts that followed were so encouraging 🙄...basically some were stating that from 34 women should give up, its natures way of preventing older parents etc etc... wanted to write a big Sod Off (only not so politely) on the post!

Welcome caz

Mimosa maybe it might be worth you doing a cd3 test, just to see where you are with it all? I'm sure the TCM will help balance things out a bit. Also remember that perimenopause can last for up to 10 years, and I have managed to conceive twice now and am deffo in peri. It's not the end yet.

Welcome Caz. You’re in the right place!

Cleo - glad you’re staying positive despite everything. Am just about to guzzle down my second ‘yummy’ tea of the day.... so I was happy to hear how positive you are about it. It’s flippin disgusting. I have to hold my nose to drink it lol

So ladies, I’m coming to terms with the fact that I’m in peri menopause. I’ve been doing lots of reading around the subject and realise now that the early ovulation I experience as well as the equally annoying not ovulating for ages cycles are the oestrogen fluctuations we get in peri. When I ovulate early my body goes crazy with too much oestrogen causing an egg to release early, then on the (becoming more frequent) cycles I don’t ovulate until say day 30-40 the oestrogen is low. Apparently it’s these wild fluctuations that are typical of peri. Hence more and more irregular periods. I realize it’s normal but it’s truly depressing when you want a baby

Anyone else experiencing earlier and later ovulation?

Am just hoping the Chinese medicine and acupuncture can help to balance things out for just a little while longer.

Hi hope it’s ok to join this..I’m not quite 40 but just turned 39. I have two children already (10 and 12) but ttc with my new partner who hasn’t got any kids yet. Scary thought to go back to it after 10 years eek. I came off the mini pill mid July and periods have been a bit irregular since but last Month was back to 28 day cycle so hoping itlll stay this way now so I know where I am!

Thanks everyone. Its good to be able to talk / winge to people who get it.

On to cd2 today and off to get my fsh test. Wish me luck - I think I'll need it!

Congratulations cookie.... great news.... fingers crossed for you

So sorry Cleo.....but like you said atleast you know that egg is meeting the sperm....so cheer up and get going for the next cycle

So sorry @cleozeta thats so sad to hear xx

@Cleozeta I’m sorry to hear you’ve started bleeding. It’s really tough x

Cleo, so sorry to read your news xx

Thank you, yes super crap but trying to remain positive. Wine tonight.

Minime - hopefully just a one off odd cycle, unusual to be in perimenopause with ok mood though! Why are these things always so stressful?!

Sorry Cleo. Oh how crap for you! But next time...

Ohhhh @Cleozeta so sorry, big hugs

Floof that was my experience of a chemical too-positive followed by cramping and bleeding within24 hours. So sorry to read your update Cleo. Its so hard to remain upbeat but like youve said earlier you have conceived and hopefully you will be as fortunate as Floof next cycle.
Im cd 3 here and have had weird flow, in that its barely touched the pads (tmi apologises) Im now fearing perimenopause as its lighter, fewer cramps and moods ok. A dream of an af but a worry too. Ive put on some (a lot) of weight in recent months which could be the cause too I guess. Need to sort my life out and regain focus.

Thanks mimosa, yep its so bloody hard, yet I bet if we were 16 it would be easy. Mother nature is screwed up. Get with the times lady.

I've not got a clue whats in the tea, but it clearly works, so bring it on.

Oh Cleo I’m so sorry you’re bleeding. Why is this so hard indeed. Sending a big hug.
I’d go for the blood test anyway.

Floof glad to hear things are going well for you.

Has anyone actually asked what is actually in the yummy tea?? I tried to ask and he murmured something about mushrooms and goji.... any thoughts on what we are guzzling down?

Rose I've got my accupuncture on Tuesday so will probably need to be tomorrow, but I'll tell them the situation.

Cookie - fingers crossed it is different for you this time.

Floof thats great that you managed to conceive straight away the following cycle, so it obviously didn't screw up your hormones. Gives me hope! So pleased for you that things are looking good this time

@Cleozeta so sorry. My chemical in August was the same day I got my first ever positive pg test when I was 2 days late, so elation to agony in just a few hours. The bleed and cramping were the same as a normal period but with clumpy clots, and lasted same amount of time. I then ovulated 2 weeks later in line with my normal ov time, and that's the cycle I got my BFP that so far (10+3 weeks) is going well.

@Cleozeta - oh no, I’m so sorry to read this. Sending hugs your way xxx

Ahh I'm sorry Cleo :( it really sucks. The last 2 I had were mostly a normal period but probably best to mention it to them as it might affect your results. I'm not celebrating just yet, not til I'm totally sure it's going to get past 5 weeks at least. I've had such aching going on today, just like the first one...

Oh no Cleo, I’m so sorry. Could you try to rearrange the day 3 blood test to Tuesday? If not I’m sure tomorrow will be fine. xxx

@Ameliel ovulation is usually day 12 or 13 for me. I have been using clear blue ovulation kits, the ones that pinpoint your 2 most fertile days. I started testing on day 12, so some cycles I only needed to use one to identify the LH surge. However, I get ovulation pains so I could be confident I hadn’t missed it. If you are day 10 and are unsure of when ovulation will be, I’d start testing now. Good luck xxx

So it's definitely a chemical. The bleeding has started. Very gutted but at least I know I can conceive, I was starting to worry the other one at the beginning of the year was a fluke. Oh well back to the 'yummy tea'.
Also going to start dhea.

Do I need to tell my GP that this has happened or will there be no interest?

Is it worth me still going in for my cd3 blood test tomorrow as bleeding started today? I've heard chemical miscarriages are similar to a period bleed, so ovaries etc would be doing the same thing?