Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

Weasle I think that is a very good point very well made xxx

Totally agree cleo for us I wouldn't go down the IVF route with having the 2 DC already, I'd rather spend that money on them.... that's just a personal choice for us...However if I had no DC I'd definitely give it a try, nothing ventured nothing gained and all that...

Ooh @Rose68 sending big big hugs.. not had intervention but lost one at 9 weeks.. take it easy and let the tears flood out.. it helps the healing.. oh @Presh12345 sorry for af arrival.. fingers crossed for iui..
glad everything is cooking nicely @CritterTamer
@Taxgirl1 we are neither.. not giving up or down the ivf route.. just enjoying a regular sex life unprotected.. not getting too stressed but seem to be very tired all the time.. 🤦‍♀️
@Cleozeta glad dr didn't go down age route..
have I covered everyone.. big love and we need a new thread soon 💕

@Rose68 - I’m so sorry you had to go through that - I cant imagine how it must feel. I do hope you are looking after yourself and healing xxxx

@Weasledee - thanks for asking. I’m doing ok - 9 weeks today and have a scan tomorrow. If all is well and the OHSS has settled enough they’ll discharge me off to the nhs afterwards. Had first midwife appointment yesterday - they are coming to do a home visit next week?! That seems weird - no one else I’ve talked to has had that at 10 weeks? I think it must be different in Wales maybe? Anyway she left me with a huge book full of forms to fill in (45 pages) before they come so have a busy weekend ahead lol. I’m glad you’re feeling good about where you’re at with TTC at the moment - it can be so all consuming and it must feel nice to reach a state of peace with it all 😊

@Booseysmom - hope everything works out well for your DH!

Cleo, Orchid, Russkispy and Presh good luck with your current/upcom8ng treatments!

Hope everyone else is doing ok too! So sorry if I missed anyone!

@Taxgirl1 thank you for your lovely comment. I have tears in my eyes again. It is so exhausting, I slept all afternoon yesterday, but I haven’t allowed myself to do that today.
I hope everyone else is doing okay. xxx

So many stories, good and bad. Hope everyone is ok.
AF arrived and day 2 I went back to doc. He has now put me on Gonal F injections for attempt #2 at IUI. I'm being positive. I've been 6 weeks on vitamin d supplements (level was 28.8 with range being 30-150), husband has been on his tablets for a month now (even after being on them for a week for iui#1 there was a big improvement in sperm so after a month, fingers crossed even better), I have 4 follicles on 1 side and 1 on other that he could see on Tuesday. Lots of love and hope to all xxxx

Taxgirl - I had the same this cycle, no lh surge but temps say I ovulated.

Currently 9dpo but ava data is suggesting I'm out, which is fine as have fertility checks next month anyway. Also TCM guy is working on my progesterone this cycle so will be intresting to see if my LP is any longef than thr usual 11 days.

I went to see GP today to inform him of my recent chemical. He says I don't qualify for the recurrent mc clinic yet, and may not even if I have another one as there is lots of criterea to meet including if I already have children (my betting its more funding cuts) but he did say he would do some basic blood tests to check thyriod and anemia etc. And not once did he mention my age so I'm grateful for that!

Rose - sorry to hear you are feeling down about things, it is so gutting, I hope you have plenty of support and you start to feel more positive again soon.

Weasle - I understand where you are coming from, sometimes I feel like giving up too, I think it can be too all consumimg.
I think we have 2 camps here, those that say enough is enough and those that say sod this shit lets go full throttle and book IVF!! I've swung towards both directions on many occasions over the last year!

@Weasle that sounds like a very healthy approach and you sound happy. Great to hear.

Oh @Rose68 I'm so sorry. It is shit. It hurts like crazy. It is exhausting. And then a little time passes and things seem better. Only you will know when you are ready to give up. Give it a little time. I don't know how much longer I can continue to try. I feel ok at the moment but it takes its toll on life, relationships and everything else. I don't know how much time to waste when I coukd just be enjoying what I've got. Where is the balance?

He ladies, so a quick update, we didn't try this month, for no other reason than to see how I felt... and I felt ok. I'm not ready to announce the journey is over but I think I'm heading there rapidly. I think mentally I can always tell myself we could "try next month" but maybe never actually go through with it..... it's easier than saying that's it....
I'm so happy with my DC and grateful for them.....
I'm staying in this thread though because I need to hear your good news.....!
How are you doing Critter?

@Taxgirl1 yes, I had surgical management on Tuesday. Currently feeling very low and shit.... is it worth going through this again... that’s the question.

@Taxgirl1 think text is better... you can sob without the other person feeling like shit.. my sis told me over phone and I think I just put phone down on her.. my sis in law was via text.. best friend I was less upset by.. diff relationship I guess.. was so pleased for her x

Boosey goof luck to your Oh

Rose - any news? I'm struggling to keep up

I've got nothing to add re ivf treatments - clueless I'm afraid

I've just started taking predisnolone and progesterone pessaries, having seen Mr shehata - supposed to take from ovulation - I didn't get an LH surge and I've given up for the month - temp is rising so looks like I've ovulated? Got to wait now...

Wishing I think you are doing the right thing in telling your friend, although when I was pregnant I didn't tell my friend (because I asked opinion and was persuaded not to), who is having ivf and I miscarried so in hindsight maybe it was right not to tell her. It's a tough one - there's never a good time to break the news - but I like honesty. Maybe do it by text though rather than face to face - I used to think face to face would be better but from my own experience I would prefer a text - gives me chance to composer myself rather than fight back the tears when it's done in person...

Morning ladies.. good luck with all tests and treatments.. I have no experience of this so not sure I have any info to offer.. but lots of baby dust and good luck..
for those ladies dtd with 3/4 day intervals.. that's good because depending on what you read sometimes every other day can be too much for the sperm.. not enough resting time.. but it only takes one.. xx

Morning ladies
How's everyone today?

Good luck Wishing and thanks for your good luck wishes to DH. Also thanks to Chat & Little

Hi to everyone and hope you're all ok

Thanks @shinyblackdog. Do you remember what your progesterone levels were, mine were 30.5 which I think is borderline and fsh 7.2 x

Congratulations Wishing, that's great news. @Dinah99, I got my last two BFPs on clomid, the first on the fifth cycle and the second on the first cycle. I did it to speed things along as it takes ages for my cycle to get back to normal after an "event". I was monitored on the first cycle each time and they gave me an Ovitrelle trigger shot to self-administer if I needed it. I had no side effects and would use it again.

Snowie - I try to hold off testing until the due date, but I often get to around 10/11 dpo and the hope/defeat battle starts to get to me and I just need to know either way. The BFN's are gutting but it puts me out of my misery. And there is always that background niggle of a little hope left until af shows anyway. With my chemical last cycle I was getting bfn's until about af due date anyway.
I've also found after a few cycles of using ava that the data kind of gives the answer by about 10 dpo too

@Orchid222 - I started down reg and stims on the same day (short protocol) and took last stim and trigger shot on eighth day, with EC 36 hours later. I stimulate very fast - they like it to take 10 - 14 days (longer = better egg quality apparently) but my natural FSH level is quite low so I stimulate fast. Changed protocol and meds slightly for second cycle and got one extra day in so triggered on ninth day of stims. Still too fast but Egg quality was much better!

Ladies, side issue.. which camp are you in regarding testing? I have always waited to see if my period arrives first and so only test if i am late or on the one occasion when i wanted to drink at a party so i tested two days early (which turned out to be positive miraculously). That way i can live in ignorance for longer and don't get dissapointed by staring at a big fat negative every month. But I'm wondering if i should do differently this month and am tempted to start testing before period is due?!

Thanks @wishing. I understand you feel guilty and its such a tough situation but you are doing the right thing. Take care.

I did a long protocol first for ivf and my ovaries didn't respond well they were too quiet./shut down. The short protocol was much better and it was quicker. I never produced a large amount of follicles but it did the trick.

Orchid222 so just got back and have timetable looks like January start for me due to cycle and shut down of clinic over Xmas. Short protocol based on age same with ICSI usual blah is egg shell may be hard better chance with ICSI. They want me to have saline infusion and scratch so on my cycles it actually takes two. CD1 30th December then scratch 16th jan next cycle 25 jan start injections day 1-3, scan 30th Jan if good next scan 4th Feb and 6th potential egg collection 8th Feb and transfer day 2,3 or 5 depending how they develop. All this is provisional of AF starting at right time so will be tweaked dependant on start date from 30th December. So much info to remember ! Biggest issue no unprotected from 30th December for potentially 6 weeks 😱🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ DH not happy 🤣🤣🤣🤣