Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

Sorry for the AFs and chemicals. Arrgh. Ladies, please be kind to yourselves.

I had my scan yesterday. NT measurement is 1.4 which is good but we need to wait for the blood test results. Lovely to see a little heartbeat going like the clappers.

I relaxed after the scan but now have stupidly read stories where the NT was low and the risk was still high. Stupid google!!!

Russkispy - are they suggesting you only take dhea in the follicular phase? I was under the impression it helped with progesterone so would be good for the 2ww, and stop with a positive test.

Taxgirl - who is mr shehata? Was it fertility checks you had? Which ones? Does he recommend those suppliments for you specifically or in general? What is the baby asprin for? I've heard its good in early pregnancy for people with blood clotting issues and for older ladies after 12 weeks to help prevent pre eclempsia

Hi everyone. I’ve been lurking for a while trying to keep up with everything. Was feeling a little all consumed so had to step back for a while. Rose stop testing. Urine tests are hugely unreliable and the clear blue ones that tell you how far along you are are bad for your head. I was obsessed with them before I miscarried. Couldn’t stop testing. The scan will tell you more or ask for blood tests to check your HCG - I’m sure you know but they do it 48 hours apart to check hcg levels are doubling.

Russ - good luck. All sounds very promising.

Chat and wishing - so sorry for you both.

I’ve finally got my period two months after my miscarriage. My head feels straighter and I’ve got my joie de vivre back. I’m not sure whether I actually want to try again. Can’t go through it again...

I did go to see Mr Shehata the other week. Get my results back on Monday. I didn’t really like him. He seemed quite defensive when I probed him about his treatments.
Anyhow, he recommends a pregnancy multivitamin and omega 3, vitamin D3 (500mcgs) and low dose aspirin pre conception. Just thought I’d share that

Asked doctor about DHEA intake during tww. She said pregnant women don't take DHEA! Well, let's just hope I am this cycle!
If BFN, will restart DHEA
Away for acupuncture 😉 have a good day everyone!

@PetraRabbit DON'T wait for fertile times not do... sorry tired

@PetraRabbit do wait for "fertile times" the older you get the more unpredictable the ov is... they can pop at anytime... my af has started and the ovaries are already twinging... 🤦‍♀️

Chat - sorry af has landed.

Mimosa - I highly recommend soy isoflavones as your situation sounds very similar to mine, but you have to wait until af and take cd 2-5 (I think), if you want to try and move things on now vitex might help and you can take that straight away. Hopefully the yummy tea will help too. The other suppliments on your list are fine to take alongside.
Have you had the cd3 checks? If your fsh is high you can take wheatgrass which helps with that

Petra - a less pressured 'do what you can' may be all it takes!

I'm reading updates now and it's good to see so much action in this group. Ruskispy that is very impressive and I wish you luck! Critter- wow! And do stick around please! Rose- let us know how you get on. It is so hard not to write everything off but you should have some hope! For anyone with recent AF- boooo, roll on next cycle. So, with me, DH is away for my fertile week this cycle...but then my fertile days are varying a bit so I'm going to see what happens, with low expectations. A less pressurised month might be a good thing- as others have said.

Cleo in my situation what would you prioritise (Vitex, dhea, soy etc) bearing in mind I already take:
TCM herbs
Ubiquinol
Multi vits
EPO
Vit E and B complex
Royal Jelly.

Gawd.

Chat so sorry for af:(
Wishing sorry to you to for the chemical.

Cleo - no I haven’t taken anything. I’m so chicken to take anything which might further mess with my already deranged cycles. Although I am still drinking the ‘yummy tea’! To hear you say it straightened out your cycles tho is so tempting. Which CD did you start? It’ll be a while before I could start it tho as without ovulation I won’t get AF.....
dhea is v tempting too. My problem is I read and research too much and end up putting myself off things!

I'm out... bloody af.... but at least she's here and only the eve before she's due... silver lining and all that jazz x

Wishing - sorry to hear about your chemical. I had one last month too. Sucks.
It does seem to be more common in our age group sadly. When I had my 2 dc in my 30's I wasn't even aware there was such a thing.

Russkispy - all sounds positive, fingers crossed!

Ooh @WishingonaStar77 so sorry for your CP..... the tww sucks
@Russkispy all sounds good x

IUI all done. The dominant follicle on the left grew up to 22x23mm! And on the right, 1 of them grew up to 17mm. That's a massive change from yesterday (right side). Lining was measured at 11.5. All looking good. dH's sample was very good too! Testing at 11/12dpiui.

Hi All,

Sorry I posted then disappeared... I had a chemical last month in the end now in my TWW so not much to update. Love reading all these updates from you guys though, keeps me positive 😊

I was going to start taking flax but after reading your posts I might not risk it!

I've tried Soy Isoflavones but immediately started getting chest pains (I have history with my heart) so stopped immediately.
But may have been connected to overdosing on Vit D which I recently read can have that effect.

X

Mimosa - did you try soy isoflavones in the end? I used it and I was definitely perimenopausal, and it kickstarted my cycles back to normal. Other things to try that are said to balance hormones are vitex (not to be used together with soy isoflavones) or dhea, which from what I've read also helps egg quality as well as balancing oestrogen and progesterone

@KashyKash... thank you. Well we haven't been ttc too seriously as we've never been in the right place plus being this age we obv wouldn't get ivf and couldn't afford to fund it ourselves. I went thru a phase of using opks and vitamins then gave up and now just take folic. Fortunately DS isn't bothered by a sibling..he knows who's top dog!! I think girls are generally more bothered about having a younger sibling. How old is your DS?

Cleo..Yes cycles seem loads more unpredictable now..and the build up to AF is vile..I totally dread it.

Thinking of everyone and sending hugs x

Aw Rose try to stay calm. And don’t keep testing. Are you getting a scan or blood test soon?

Russ - that all sounds so positive. Good luck fingers crossed 🤞

Critter- fantastic news on the scan. We’d love you to stick around.

Chat - fingers crossed for you...

Hi Eloisa, thank you for thinking of me, that’s so kind. I’ll definitely check that hypnotherapy out. You always post such great resources:) How are you hun?

AFM I’m still trying to work out why my oestrogen is so low (apart from the fact that I’m probably in peri of course!). I’ve been doing lots of reading on how to boost oestrogen but have come to the conclusion that phytoestrogens (in food such as flaxseed, oats, soy etc) are only suggested to boost oestrogen in women who have already gone thru menopause. Ive read a proper study on it which says that in pre menopausal women they can actually have the opposite effect and block oestrogen affecting fertility! So now I’m going to actually try to cut out oats, chick peas, lentils, flax, soy, seeds etc which I’ve been increasing recently. Sigh. It’s all so confusing. Anyone any thoughts?

@Cleozeta no I'm being a masochists day not testing yet.. not holding out much hope.. loads of cm if a bit blood stained at times.. although made myself a decaf cuppa earlier took one sip and threw it away... but could be because I normally have herbal.. who knows. @Rose68 go to bed.. hot water bottle and something on iPlayer.... rest up xxxx

Thank you both, I just want to go to bed at the moment. x

Orchid - then I would go on what your clinic say. Don't worry about it

Rose - stop peeing on sticks! It will only make you more stressed and paranoid. See what the scan holds out for you. Everything crossed all is ok

@Rose68 stop using pee sticks they are not reliable after around 6 weeks. Google the hook effect - you may well get false low or negative results. You can only rely on what your scan says 😊

I am 6 weeks, but I’m just not feeling it, so i’m pretty sure it’s all over.
Boobs have stopped hurting, and clear blue digital test has gone down to 2-3, although it was only 30-40 mins since I had last done a wee.
I have got a scan booked for Friday, but I’m pretty sure I know what it will be, assuming I even make it to Friday.