Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

@Preash12345 - not sure if the tablets are the same but progesterone pessaries certainly can, particularly if your natural progesterone level is on the low side. Ladies with high natural progesterone will still experience a large drop in levels when the corpus luteum dies which will trigger a period despite progesterone supplementation, but us older ladies tend to have lower natural levels so the level change is smaller and AF tends to be held off. Hope this makes sense 😊

Ouch @Presh12345 big hugs.. I hate when new pregs are announced 💕😞

So husband's son has just announced his wife's pregnancy 😓
Does anyone know if I had IUI 8 days ago and period is due on Wednesday, does progesterone tablets delay period???

Good luck with it 😊

Thanks guys. They did say if I don’t respond to treatment very well then they may abondend the first cycle. Looks like I will start in the new year. I will just have to get over the needle issue. I expect we will get more info at the TIA appointment on 21st November.

@Realitysucks - sorry to answer your other question, the needles arent pleasant but once you’ve done the first couple it’s not a problem. You will find IVF an excellent motivation to get over your fear (i certainly did!)

@Realitysucks - yes 10.4 is top end of normal for our age group, however it’s not all about AMH - egg quality is probably the most important factor - whilst AMH might indicate how many eggs you are likely to get, getting lots of eggs of poor quality won’t result in a pregnancy, whereas even a single embryo that is top quality may give you a successful outcome. Generally the higher the AMH the better the chances of there being some ‘good’ eggs in there but plenty of people do have successful IVF and natural conceptions with low AMH - it’s a real lottery. The only way really to understand what the quality of your eggs is like will be to try a cycle. The first cycle generally teaches your clinic a Lot about your response to the drugs and egg/embryo quality. If this cycle fails they will then be able to look at ways to tweak your protocol for the next cycle. My advice would be go into it expecting that it is likely to take multiple cycles to succeed.

Welcome reality.
I didn't think an AMH of 4 was particularly low? I've not had mine checked yet but as I have high FSH I'm expecting it to be alot lower than 4! I've had 2 conceptions this year, neither were successful unfortunately, but feeling hope that I seem to be able to conceive so far. I'm 41, 42 in Feb. Hoping to have checks done this month in preparation to start things moving in the new year.

Sorry Crittertamer I meant to say Congratulations! How did you cope with all the treatment? I’m so worried about the injections I hate needles 😬

Thanks, I didn’t think 10.4 was low ! Well not for our age. I’m just so confused by it all. When I look online anything under 4.9 seems to be very low. Our clinic said 0-6 is low and 6 and above is normal. They score out of 20. I haven’t had the scan for follicle count yet so my understanding is the overall number could increase. I’m not sure if this is right though. I’m also considering DHEA but worried about the side effects 😬

@Realitysucks - we are almost exactly the same age. I gave it 7 months of trying naturally before going to IVF. I know this isn’t long but we had no DC and the sense of time we did not have passing was just too strong. Knowing that the longer you wait the less chance there is of IVF working we decided to go for it before the (already low) chances got any lower. My AMH is 10.4 and we’ve just had success with our second IVF cycle.

Obviously it’s a very personal decision and everyone is different but thought I’d share my experience in case it helps 😊

Hi all, so I’m new here and not sure if this is the right thread as there seems to be so many on this subject! I’m 40 and TTC. Already Have a 16 year old from a previous relationship but my current partner has no children. Due to our age (both 40) we decided to get ourselves checked out at a fertility centre rather than waste time trying. Well turns out he obviously has supersperm but my AMH is only 4 😥. I have only been off the pill since September and period just came this morning so on my second cycle now. Has anyone managed a natural conception with such a low AMH? We are due to go back to the clinic at the end of November and are looking to start fertility treatment in the new year but I’m not sure if we are jumping the gun a bit too soon and whether we should give it 6 months of trying first? I will be 41 in January so don’t really want to waste any more time. Any thoughts?

@Petrarabbit - I think you asked about the twins - they will not be identical as they are the result of two separate embryos being transferred. As far as gender guesses - my DH is convinced they’re girls for some reason, whereas I honestly dont have a ‘feeling’ one way or the other, however the evidence is they are slightly more likely to be boys because they developed so strongly in the lab over the first 5 days (they were both already hatching on day5) and apparently female embryos generally tend to be a bit slower developing outside of the uterus. To be honest we’d both love one of each but at this point I’m just hoping the both make it to the next scan 🤞

@Mellongoose - yes my clinic is absolutely wonderful they are lookIng after me really well 😊

Petra, weights and Pilates shouldn’t affect fertility I wouldn't have thought, nor hiit. Too much cardio can have a huge impact on fertility but that's when people train excessively. I've read about exercise being good because it encourages blood flow to the uterus and it makes a lot of sense to me. I was doing a lot of ashtanga yoga when I got pg with dc1. I don't have time to do anything at present. I'd like to change that somehow. Just haven't quite worked out how

Cleo - noticed you asked me a question - yes he is testing for nk cells. Have to see what he says when I go for the results...

@CritterTamer wonderful news. It sounds as though the care you are getting is brilliant.

Cleo- that's what I thought! I think it can get confusing because a lot of advice tends to assume women who exercise a lot are low on body fat....not in my case! Even when I was in seriously great shape I was on the absolute top end or over 'normal' BMI. I'm more worried my currently high BMI is a problem for fertility.

Ooh @Rose68 keeping fingers crossed for you for next 2 weeks that little one is just playing catch up.. and @CritterTamer fab news x

Petra - from what I've heard & read, there is a fine line where too much exercise can cause issues with fertility (and ovulation) but at the same time, being fit and a certain amout of exercise is beneficial. It also depends on the person and what is normal for you. I think just do what feels right for you, as long as you are not completely overdoing it, it's probably fine

While I'm here, I wondered if any of you very knowledgeable people had been advised by Chinese practitioners, IVF doctors, accupuncturists or other specialists about exercise? I conceived my DC at 41 when I was doing 5 tough gym classes a week, mainly weights and pilates, but some HIIT training too. I always felt my fitness helped my fertility but my reflexologist (the only 'expert' I've seen) was disaproving of me getting back into gym too much especially of cardio stuff because if the adrenalin. I've put on weight in the nearly 1.5 years since my DC was born and feel instinctively less healthy than I did then so I've been seeing a personal trainer and got breathless a few times. Is this so bad? It helps my mood and esteem and gives me something to think about that's not TTC. Thoughts??

Congrats Critter. It’s lovely news

Oh Rose. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through right now. I know how it feels and it’s so tough. Waiting is torture. There’s nothing worse than the rollercoaster of emotions. You sound as though you are being very tough on yourself. Be gentle with yourself. It’s still early days. There’s time for the little bean to develop. Big hugs. Stay strong. Keep busy xx

Critter, I still can't believe you have a ready made family cooking in there!!! Are you going to find out if they are boys, girls or one of each? Any inklings? And presumably they are fraternal not identical?

How exciting! Thats perfect, sibling already sorted at the same time. Bet you are extatic! Very happy and excited for you

@Cleozeta - yes first ever pregnancy...😳

Congrats critter, thats great news how lovely to be having 2. Can you remind me, are they your first?