Over 40 ttc - Autumn baby dust for me!

Just read your double news @crittertamer
Omg that is just so fantastic. Congratulations.
What incredibly good fortune,
This is such a lucky thread.
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Hi all,

Quick update
I received my panorama test results today. LOW RISk for all trisomies. I am so delighted as this fear was hanging over me like a dark heavy cloud. I had a TFMR 2 1/2 years ago for trisomy 21 when I was 39. I’m now 42 and am 11 weeks pregnant with a normal karyotype baby🙏🙏

I really want this to be a message of hope for all you “older” ladies.
I fell pregnant 2nd cycle post Mirena removal and I was taking 5mg (High dose ) folic acid, 600mg coenzyme Q and 25mcg vit D. I also ate a tonne of raspberries as I heard they were good to make girls ( I have 2 boys) but we shall see about that.

I’m sending buckets of baby dust to you all.

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Fab news @CritterTamer

Great news critter! Super chuffed for you

Mimosa - my lp is usually 11 days (af 12dpo) so 2 days early this cycle. Yep TCM guy supposed to be making it longer so not sure what's gone wrong there!

Brilliant news Critter!

Critter that's amazing! We're all so pleased for you!

Can someone start a new thread, I don't know how to post the link?!

Wonderful news Critter.

Cleo so sorry af came:( Did you say you often have a short luteal phase? And that your TCM guy was working on it?

Rose I feel exactly the same about my two DC growing up. It passes sooooo fast I can hardly bear it. Don’t get me wrong I love watching them grow and learn but I hate how fast it goes. When you say ttc is determined by your DH is he a bit reluctant?

Omg CritterTamer two 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Just back from scan at 9+1 - it was amazing, two actual baby shaped little beans in there waving their arms and legs at us! Measuring at 9+2 and 9+3 so everything looks spot on so far 😊 they’ve moved around a bit and grown so much that they were now able to get both in the same scan picture which is cool too. I’ve been officially discharged from the clinic now which is a little scary - I have less faith in the nhs but hopefully they’ll prove me wrong.

Af here already, only 10dpo

Rose. I'm the same age as you. Exactly, actually!!! My toddler is growing up so fast and I wanted to do it all again from the moment I had him. I hope we both get there in the end.

I am still hopeful that it's meant to be

@rose68..... my story is same as yours.I have spent most of my adulthood trying to prevent getting pregnant as I seemed to conceive every single time I did unprotected sex and now here I am starting at stark white bfns since past 2 years when I am dying to be pregnant

I am fortunate to already have 2 boys, and when it would have been possible I didn’t want a third. Now it’s unlikely it’s all I want. They grow up way too fast, I want time to stand still so I can enjoy them as they are now for a bit longer. I’m sure you will get there Petra. How old are you? I’m 43 (and a half almost).
If we do give this another go, (which is still to be determined by DH) this will be our last try and then I will settle for what I already have.

Extra thoughts for you Rose. It's so hard.

I can also relate to the thoughts of 'how much and how long' to keep trying. I am so lucky to have one DC who honestly is everything I could hope for in a child but not giving him a sibling really hurts. It feels so wrong to me and so incomplete having a one child family. Maybe it's just me but growing up I didn't really know any 'only children'. I understand those of you like Cleo who want a third. I would too if I had two already. I think 3 is a perfect number. When I got preg first try when my DC was only 7 months (ended in MMC) I really thought I had a chance of 3 and got so ahead of myself but now I'm just praying for #2. Keeping hope up is getting hard and I'm only on cycle 9. AF came yesterday.

Thanks Chat good to know

@Taxgirl1 & @CritterTamer ..thank you for your good luck wishes. ..DH has another interview coming up now! That's two! He's battling with his nerves atm. He has to prep a lesson and do a presentation. Good grief I'd be a wreck!!

@Rose68..sending you love and kind thoughts x

@weasledee & @ Realitysucks.. I hear you!
When do you call it a day? I am so close to that point now being 46. I have dreams of a baby girl though..I would call her Rae-ellen. Only DH doesn't like it

In bed atm with a cold bug and can feel AF looming only managed dtd twice this cycle. Poor effort I know but that painful ovulation (if that's what it was) prevented further attempts.

Ladies Holland and Barrett are black fridaying.. up to 70% off vits and supplements!!

Not at all @Cleozeta... that desire/ ache for another baby is very real... it doesn't matter if it's 1, 3, 5 or 21 like that lady with the largest family.. I ache is strong

Taxgirl1 thank you. She's on holiday at the moment but when she's back I'll tell her. Over text initially yes think that's best..

Rose, so sorry you went through that. Been there its so very sad. But we put ourselves through this time and time again because we are strong and we are fighters and we refuse to give up.. stay strong x

What a lovely message Reality. I agree 100%. That deep urge for a child is such a natural thing no matter how many children you have.

To everyone on this page, so many and feeling emotional for all of you. At 40 I am sat thinking how have I left it all so late. For me I have 1 ds already and at 16 thought I was done but only down to life and circumstance. Having met my DH late and him having no children it kind of stirred something i thought I had dealt with. Not one of you are selfish even if you have Dc. I feel privaliged to have one already but have tried to set limit of ivf. In reality now seed is sown not sure how I will cope if it doesn’t happen. It’s such an emotional journey for us all. In my head I will give it all for two cycles and then hope I can draw a line. Not sure how I’m gonna cope when treatment starts but feel good to have support from others who have been there. I have so many friends who have done this been down the path and then at 43 and 46 fell pregnant naturally so I have hope. I know it’s a rareity but I have to try. If I look back in 5 years regardless of cost I know I have done what I could and the outcome will be what it is. Doesn’t make it easy for any of us though. Big love to all who are going through the this x

Oh Rose I’m so sorry. You must feel like the bottom of your world has dropped out. All I can say is take time to grieve and really look after yourself. There is light I promise x

Presh - good luck for the next iui hun. Can I please ask what tablets your DH is on?

Weasel - I can understand your feelings completely. It’s just too hard sometimes isn’t it. I’m not quite ready personally to stop ttc yet but like you I wouldn’t do ivf with my two DC. Not so much for the money side of things but just the huge emotional and physical toll it takes. I couldn’t cope I don’t think. But Cleo that does not mean I remotely think you’re selfish. We all do what is right for us and our families. I’m like Chat. Just going to continue having unprotected sex, take my supps, enjoy lovely alternative therapies and pray for a miracle.

Cleo no you're not being selfish, you're potentially giving your DC another sibling so that's far from selfish!!! :)
It's just not for me at this point in my life....

Am I being selfish thinking of IVF with 2dc already? I have wondered that before. I keep going back and forth with it