November bus

Afternoon ladies. I hope you’re all doing ok!

wishful it’s good that you’re being seen by the EPU. They didn’t take me seriously with my first loss and it really wound me up. I knew they couldn’t do anything but I also felt like I needed them to tell me what I was to expect- stuff to look out for or when to ring them again if anything happened etc. They were really helpful once I got them to take it seriously but it was a struggle. I hope they’re being similarly kind to you and you at least get a definitive answer as to what’s happening. Be kind to yourself

I just tested with a FRER and got a positive. Looks like I must have ovulated late or something. So here goes the cycle of being absolutely petrified at every twinge and cramp. Hopefully the 9mo will take my mind off things plus we have a holiday booked in a fortnight and then Christmas. Hopefully time passes quickly!

I haven’t been on here for a while. So sorry about what you’re going through @wishful30 hope you’ll get some clarity once you’ve been in for checks.x

Hey, bit better today. Went to the gp this morning mainly to put DH mind at rest.
Gp has phoned the early pregnancy unit and they told me to go strait there. 🤷🏻‍♀️
I assume they want to discuss what's happened and scan to confirm??
It all feels a bit over dramatic to me if I'm honest.

I’m so sorry @Wishful30 that’s so unfair how are you feeling today?

DH now wants to take me to hospital 🤦🏻‍♀️
Dr Google is NOT helping and he's even considering I may still be pregnant.
Not good trying to explain blood and clots to your upset other half. 😣

@Wishful30 - I'm so sorry you are going through this. Life is just so unfair sometimes

So grateful for this group. Thankyou all for your messages. It's really helpful talking to people that 'understand'

I went to work this morning. Had a meltdown and left early.
Told DH when he got in, and he took it ok. I think he's more worried about me.

We've had a chat and agreed that maybe me changing things up last month has helped but it was too soon... maybe 🤞🏻
Onwards... 🙄

@wishful30 I'm so so sorry. Please don't feel bad about DH though... you are going through this together. Look after yourself

So sorry @Wishful30 ❤️
Be kind to yourself today, chocolate and bubble baths ❤️❤️

Im so sorry @Wishful30.
I too was so happy when I read your hubby's reaction.. 😪😪

@wishful30 you can’t do it alone, he will understand x

@Realitysucks thanks x
We have been through so much this passed year.
I'm 36 in a few months. I've had mild bad news from the fertility clinic, where I paid thousands for all the tests and an IUI package. Only to find out by digging deeper myself that there is another underlying issue that has clearly been totally overlooked more than once. So I have yet to write my letter of complaint to them.
I'm trying to be positive in the send that I've had chemicals before and af on time.
This is the first month of trying after acupuncture treatments, supplements and 'uterine warming' whether it's a fluke that it worked who knows, but maybe, just maybe it has helped, but it was all too soon this month.
I'm now feeling gutted that DH is wandering round at work all pleased with himself and I've gotta break the need to him later.
Knew I shouldn't have told him yet. But also, shouldn't keep doing this alone to avoid upsetting people 😐

@wishful30 I’m so sorry was on way to trian when I saw your message and wanted to say more. There is nothing wrong with you Hun. If there was we wouldnt all be here struggling too x I had my first child 16 years ago just like that, despite being told at 17 I only had a 20% chance of conceiving naturally. We weren’t even trying but I was young and took it for granted. One thing I have learnt over the past few years is that getting pregnant is actually really difficult for most people. It’s an amazing science but also there is a lot of luck and perfect timing involved. I know you’re feeling crap now but have faith it can happen x all it takes is 1! X

So sorry wishful30 xx

I'm so sorry @wishful

Oh @wishful30, we cross posted.

I am so sorry xx

@wishful30 I’m so sorry 😞

I couldn’t resist any longer and tested with a FRER this morning at 11/12 dpo. BFN.

This is hard. I feel so rubbish, exactly like in early pregnancy last time but it’s most likely my body playing tricks on me.

Morning ladies...
knew I shouldn't have told DH so soon. Woke up this morning to cramps and proper bleeding. Now I've gotta tell him later that I've lost it already.
Devastated but somewhat not surprised. The timing was just to perfect with Christmas and our impending long haul flight.
Back to taking all the vitamins, peeing on sticks and wondering what's the matter with me.
Now my cycle is messed up who knows when I'll ovulate next 😞

@ronniemipperton nope I’m on the wine 😬 I managed to day 5 of AF now hit the wine 😭😭😭

@ronniemipperton exactly what I did when I saw af had arrived.
Had the hump and a couple of glasses of wine. Then realised a couple of days later I was still spotting and not had proper af.
I think my bfn tests up until then made me accept it wasn't going happen this time either, so I carried on as usual.
Total shock at the bfp!!

Thankyou everyone for the congrats. Really hoping to see some more bfp.
I've been riding these busses for so long I feel I know a few of you! Xx

Congrats @Wishful30, lovely news :)

I’ve been doing this for so long I stopped worrying about the TWW but apparently I have started again. Another friend’s just announced she’s pregnant which I think has set me off.

Does anyone have a good coping mechanism for AF turning up? I usually end up grumpily drinking a bottle of wine but feel like I should come up with a more positive way of distracting myself. Maybe going out for sushi.

@Wishful30 i just popped on to check all was good with you... such lovely news and so pleased for you

@wishful30 aww that’s lovely I would love to be in that position, am welling up just thinking about it. Hope all goes well for you and fingers crossed x

@Wishful30 ahhhh that so sweet!! ❤️