TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.5!

@summer28 well done for holding out on the testing!

@Delilah7 it just seemed to go away on its own, I'm guessing it'll go away again this time.

@FlapJackered I have spoken to him about it, but he doesn't understand it I don't think. It's so irritating because I'm irregular again now too, so I know that we'll miss it. We've only had sex once in the last almost two weeks!! Wtf is going on 😭 have you spoken to your DH about it? Sorry if I've missed it x

AF came today - I have terrible cramps, nausea and hadn’t hip pain and I’m working late but at least I know we can start again once I finish AF.

@cupcakesandglitter just reread your post - you should definitely ring the GP asap if you're getting pains again. X

@Crossfitgirl
To be fair he did initiate this morning so only 12 hours late on the smep plan!
Good idea on the text. I might steal that one. Another golden Crossfitgirl seduction tip! 😂
I get the being dirty thing but he is a little obsessed by it, if he showers in the morning he would need to shower again in the evening if we are going to have sex and if he is too tired the idea of a shower then sex is too much! 🙄
You're doing really well for being so early on in your cycle. I don't even contemplate it until a few days after af finishes but then storing all that energy for the marathon smeping!

@cupcakesandglitter I feel your pain, so frustrating isn't it. Have you spoke to him about it? I am tempted to give up all the tracking, but I know we would just miss the window as I am so irregular.

@FivexFive sorry you're still feeling rough. Get lots of sleep and lots of water - I find that is normally the best recovery. Fingers crossed you get better before that static smiley!

@Delilah7 haha! Stupid noonie! Although I am glad in a way as I really wasn't in the mood this morning so it got it over with nice and quickly!

@FivexFive I'm with you girls too 😩 I said this month I wouldn't obsess about anything so I'm not temping or chatting anything. Said we'd only DTD when DH initiates.... and it just isn't happening. I know there are valid reasons some nights but it just feels like excuses and rejection 😩 I'm not going to get pregnant from immaculate conception!!

I'm still also getting the same pains again that took me to hospital a couple of weeks ago, but I'm so fed up with everything I don't even care right now

Think I might be one of the few who's OH is very rarely reluctant!
He's generally happy to for it every night! Or if were both off work I think the record was 5 times in a day and a half
But we've always been that way. Don't know how you all manage, id be going mental

Well ladies it seems many of us are in the same boat when it comes to getting our legs over! I think with the talk we get about how all men want it/think about it all the time, it can be a bit jarring when they're reluctant. On one hand I get that it's pressure for them, but like we've said, we feel it too (more in some cases) and if they want a baby it's something that needs to happen when it's FW. Keep explaining, diagrams and all, hopefully it will sink in...

I admitted defeat at work and let them send me home (which they tried to do yesterday) due to the gross cold/flu thing I currently have. Dh has said, smiley face on stick or not, he is NOT coming near me until it clears up :(
So here I am at home, stuffing lemsip capsules down my throat, hoping it gets better before we get a static smiley face!

@flapjackered oh no! It's so hard in practice isn't it. I planned on initiating the last 2 nights (I'm only cd5 today) but I was slightly still on AF, and usually I don't care but I wasn't horny in the slightest, yesterday I got home at 9.30pm, had a shower and I didn't even get to bed til about 10.30pm and I was shattered. I just thought fuck it, it's only day 5, it's too early anyway. He hasn't initiated at all either since those miraculous 2 times in 3 days!

I think the being dirty is a thing, as I used to hate DH coming onto me if I hadn't showered in a while... more cos I'm embarrassed and worried I'll smell down there (sorry if TMI) but actually if I just direct him to not put his mouth there And use his hands it's fine.

I'd be so annoyed though, if he has promised you this morning then HE should initiate as this ones on him - did you specify who would initiate? I thought about this myself, and to make it really clear I thought I might try texting DH on the mornings I want him to initiate (like if I initiated last time) and saying something like, tonight you are going to be at home waiting to seduce me, rip my pants off and fuck me silly. Or something better worded than that bit like, make it clear you want him to do it, tell him what he has to do... it also might get him thinking about it. If he's thinking about how he's gonna seduce you later, chances are he's gonna get himself all het up thinking about it and will be in the mood!

That's my thinking anyway.

I might try it tonight or tomorrow actually lol. See what happens. Technically smep hasn't started yet for us so for me it's not a huge deal, also for you I guess it's ok as you don't ov til late in your cycle but it's more the principle isn't it?

@FlapJackered and the timer is the fertile window! ⏲️🤣

We Dtd this morning although I had cysts and rejection from yesterday floating around in my brain and my noonie decided to shut up shop and not let him in! I could literally barely get him in and it took ages! Although I was super tight so he came in 2 mins. Bit sore now! Sorry TMI for a wednesday morning 😂🙈

@stormtrooperjulian I told him that this month we were going to do it every other day from cd10 until positive opk then everyday for 3 days. He was all for it but then post rugby not so keen. I have told him now that this month I need him to initiate as feeling quite fragile about it all and feel close to giving it all up.

@KatBeCool - 😂 good idea! The rugby ball is the egg, the boot is the sperm, if you don't kick the ball over the H you aren't going to get the conversion!
I think because I haven't had a positive opk yet he doesn't see the urgency, but just doing it when I get a + hasn't really worked for us so far.

I’m heading into my fertile week now so the plan is once again to dtd every two days.

@FlapJackered have you tried just telling your DH in advance when it has to happen? Mine knows that it has to be every two days while I’m potentially fertile and I’ll remind him before I get home that today is Sex Day. I’m not giving him much choice 😂😂

Thanks all! I had to have a very quick wee this morning before I caved and tested! Although have no symptoms today.

@summer28 2 days late is promising. FX!!

@FlapJackered That's so frustrating. It's annoying we're so reliant on their mood. You should just wake him up for a quickie 😉

@Delilah7 boo that bad chest has hung a while! FX you don't catch it

Xx

@FlapJackered does your DH fully understand the rather short length of the fertile window? Maybe draw a diagram with beer bottles? Or soccer balls? Or whichever he fancies.

@Delilah7 thanks lovely - Will do 😘

@Lougg 🤞🏻

@KatBeCool mostly after ovulation but on and off before too. I never used to feel nauseous before so it's a relatively new thing. I get the insane hunger thing too though! I feel like I am constantly shovelling food in the tww.

@Crossfitgirl update on smep day 3 - got rejected for sex 😢 only second sex day and he was too tired after playing rugby! I literally put my hand down his pants and still got a no.
This is the issue - if he is tired or unwashed we can't have sex. So frustrating!!! He promised we would have it this morning, but to be honest I am not feeling it after the rejection and he has a dentist appointment later and won't be awake until I am up and working downstairs.
Sorry to rant but I know you know the pain!

Really sorry to hear that @RanchoRelaxo Taking a step back from talking and thinking about it all the time might be a really good idea for a while.

I'm now two days late over here..... if AF hasn't showed up by Friday, I'll test Saturday morning I think. Xx

I've been doing so well with my determination to be more chilled this cycle. No OPKs or temping or testing. But with two days to go before AF (I think?!) the symptom psycho is rearing her head! Help!

Well if I did actually ovulate yesterday I would guess the 21st I have a gyno appointment the 22nd so will do a test that morning and fingers crossed I can cancel it lol :) x

@RobynC19 right there with you lovely. When are you due? I'm 22nd if Flo is correct after the mc.

Lets start this two week wait