TTC FIRST BABY THREAD NO.5!

DH is so sweet and good and kind. I'm firmly in the TWW, PMS is hitting hard and he got me a little present of a necklace with a note for an expectant Mum to cheer me up because he's hopeful that it will happen for us. I love that man so much.

@Delilah7 @FlapJackered it depends on what you consider pressure. It's not like if DH says "I'm in severe pain", I go all predator-ey on him. Maybe what I said came out a bit wrong. My point was that both us ignore the "not in the mood" of our own, not of the other person. Meaning, I don't let my own mood get in the way. I still respect his. Granted I guess I'm lucky my DH is on board with that plan. But I do make sure to let him know early enough to get the mood up. It was his words to me that thinking about it all day puts him in the mood, but I never forced him to think about it, merely said in the morning something like "stick is steady smiling, tonight is the night", he takes care of the rest 🙂

Hey ladies so I'm only cycle day 26 and feel AF is on her way. Cramping like crazy today.
Here's to cycle 4. Need to up the amount of dtd!! Back to OPK's too 🙂 hope you are all okay and having a good day?

@FlapJackered, ha ha that made me laugh :) Might have to do the tissue up nose plan! I feel really determined this month. Possibly because the idea of telling people at Christmas is very appealing...
I think you're on the right track with saying it in a joking kind of way. Keep it light, a bit flirty. Hopefully he gets the message without it getting too serious. Good luck! Xx

@sunshine1987 I feel exactly like that, it's so hard not to take it to heart isn't it. I am not great with rejection especially when it is quite hard putting yourself out there all the time.

@BabySquid omg in the tww I get so many baby dreams especially when I am going to be testing the next day - and so vivid!

@Delilah7 I am glad in a way for you that it is all out in the open, hopefully the air will clear a bit and your bro will realise how much he has been upsetting you and your mum. ❤️

@KatBeCool I love your attitude to sex, and actually I have been telling myself to think about sex this morning and it does get you in the mood! I understand what @Delilah7 is saying though as if DH said that we were having sex tonight and to think about it all day I might feel a bit pressured if I didn't want it, but I think it depends on the person. I don't think my DH is capable of feeling pressured! He is so laid back he is horizontal and I think that is part of the problem! I might try saying it in a jokey way and see how it goes down!

@FivexFive lots of make up and a coffee and just tell him you're completely over it! Stuff tissue paper up your nose and whip them out last minute! 😂
That static smiley is not going to stick around!

@delilah7 @katbecool yeah that was the thing, neither of us were in the mood but because he initiated I was like wahey but just didn’t get anywhere so decided to leave it. So was more a case of trying because it was the day we thought we should rather than either of us wanting to x

@Delilah 7, I see where you're coming from there. More pressure could make it worse. Maybe just a flirty text or two in the day, just to plant the idea??
I'm off today again. Feeling a little better but still a bit gross. My aim is to take the tablets, eat well and make sure I'm showered, dressed and not snotty for when dh comes home. Need to at least look like I'm safe to be near... got the peak static face this morning!! Dtd must occur tonight!!

@sunshine1987 DH and I don't even think about it. During the fertile week we basically know we gotta do it, no excuses from either one. And believe me, many times the mood is so not there. Mood comes during the deed 😂. One thing to remember, if he wants children with you, he is attracted to you. Tell him to think about sex all day. That does help. They're much more in the mood towards the night.

@Delilah7 thank god someone else has them. Are they really odd, like in the dream something seems completely normal, but then when you wake up you were like WTAF!??!

@sunshine1987 it's just your mind playing with you. He's probs always been the same but you never realised it before, now you're wanting it more often, it's hard for men to just change.

On another note... I had a dream that I had a baby last night, like I brought him home in the car seat, introduced him to my friends, even breast fed him!! It was so real! But he was tiny... like really tiny!
I think I've actually gone TTC mad!! (Not even the nice 'Alice in wonderland' kinda way!)

Does anyone else find TTC brings out some massive insecurities? The whole having sex more often sometimes makes me feel insecure when he’s just tired and not really up for it, like I’m doing something wrong or he just doesn’t fancy me as much anymore. Driving myself nuts when I know it’s just because we’ve decided to do it every other day so not as spur of the moment as it used to be

@cupcakesandglitter There was only one day of moderate bleeding the rest of the days have been light. Yesterday was just spotting. Today it was a creamy light brown sort of thing then just been to the toilet and wiped with the Dark red mucus stuff.
It needs to stop.
I want to DTD!!

@FlapJackered oh god, they sound like the same person. It's so irritating isn't it!! I'm sick of initiating 24/7 especially when I want a baby, because I feel like when I know I'm ovulating that's all I want it for. It would be nice to feel loved and wanted - being lazy and tired really isn't a good excuse 😩

@EssJayyCee my periods are allll over the place. What you're having atm sounds like what I usually get - not for 7 days BUT I am super heavy for the first few and that's what it sounds like x

@Delilah7 Sorry you've had to deal with it today 😩 glass of wine, feet up and relax - don't let it stress you out xx

Hi everyone,

I posted the other day about how my AF has been shorter and lighter than normal.
But this one has actually been really long. It's day 7 I keep thinking it's stopped then I get more dark red/brown blood. Tonight it was sort of slimey mucus sort of thing. Sorry TMI.
I'm still getting cramps too.

Anyone else had this for AF before?

@cupcakesandglitter I have spoken to my DH about it several times and each time he makes the same noises about being on board and that he understands and makes the excuse that he is just lazy and tired a lot, but I do find it exhausting having to make all the effort. I did have a little cry about it to him a few weeks ago and he did promise - we will see how this cycle turns out now I have told him he is initiating.
Maybe you need to have another chat with him as they seem to forget about it as soon as it's been discussed 🙄

@Delilah7 oh no, I'm sorry hun. Did they manage to talk it out at all?

@mrsof20118 I drink loads of water and have had positives with 3 out of the 4 cycles I have used them on. I think it is just about doing them enough to catch the surge also trying to hold in the pee a bit each time! It does help to temp though along side.

@PeoniesforMissAnnersley Sorry for AF, she's a mean old thing!

Sorry to hear that @Delilah7. Try get some rest and do something to relax you if you can. Easier said than done I know x

@mrsof20118 you might want to consider bbt charting if you can never get non-diluted wee. OPKs work for me because I know I don't drink a lot (which I should) but somehow I never get thirsty. It might take a couple of months to establish a bbt pattern though so maybe drinking less around the time you think you ovulate might be easier.

I’m sure these opk sticks don’t work for me. I think I drink far too much water and wee is just too diluted. Taken them for the past few days and a very faint line and not getting darker to positive. I think I may be ovulating though as had twinges and a bit of lower back ache on one side yesterday.