TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!

@Laney79 thanks for reply. I'm so sorry about the bfn and I really hope that AF is kind to you.
As to your body I feel the same way mmc in March, cp in June and mmc in October. I think mine needs a rest. Everyone I know is telling me that I should wait 6 months to ttc again. But I don't think I could cope with waiting that long. I will pray for us to get our rainbow babies soon x
As for those tests both taken after 3-4 hour hold but I guess they could be wrong. Wish the bleeding would do one now though. How long did you bleed for.? This has gone on since 31st October. Starting to get a bit fed of it.

@Lilimum5 the opk will be positive if there's still hcg in your system - mine were after losing bow. Seems like it's a similar hormone to hcg. In terms of the hcg tests-had you had a big drink or been to the loo before the first one? Could it be the concentration of hcg in your wee? Big hugs xxx

I'm still waiting for AF to arrive after my bfn yesterday. It really upset me. Starting to worry now about how bad it's going to be. I stopped bleeding after MMC 6/10 so it's been ages. I have so much on this next fortnight (including a 6 hour round trip to football with me driving, and what is meant to be a lovely bonkathon weekend away in London starting 2/12 as well as a couple of gigs) I'm really worried about how heavy/painful AF is going to be. Honestly my body really does seem to hate me this year-it just wont give me a break xxx

@Lilimum5 that's so confusing, hopefully the scan will show you what's going on! How sensitive are the HCG tests do you know?

Top test is opk bottom hcg from yesterday (taken with in 5mins) and second pic done today (taken with in 5mins) both test from same pack

@Beaglemum93 I feel your frustration hun.

I did a hcg and an opk Tuesday 3 weeks after mc ( 2 weeks after erpa) and done one same brand same pack and its darker. Thank god I've a scan Friday to figure out what is going on.

Sorry to hear that @strawberrye, I still have my fingers crossed for you, maybe it was just more dilute urine or something.

I'm still getting faint positives over 4 weeks since the D&C but because HCG is less than 25 the hospital aren't concerned. I'm still worried because my HCG was 8 just over a week ago but my levels are still clearly over 5. Also not sure if AF is here or not - it's either a really light period or really heavy spotting... I really hate not knowing what is going on!

Spoken to nurse at epu over the phone who said it sounded like a mc but to wait 3 weeks to see if test goes negative, this Friday will be 2 weeks since the bleed x

@Tiniestsky have you been the doctors at all? Sorry if you have already explained all this, I am new to this thread x

Question for you ladies, I am currently on CD8 and DTD last night, sorry TMI but afterwards there was some light pink when I wiped. Also today I have had pink mucus when I wipe, only this morning so far? Any ideas what this could mean? x

By this stage that's what I'm hoping, well deep deep down I'm hoping there's been some kind of miracle and the bleed I had 2 days after finding out I was pregnant was nothing lol

@Tiniestsky maybe you still have HCG in your system?

I spent the last half of last week wishing it wasn't true and I was still pregnant and this week wishing it'd turn negative, I don't feel pregnant but the test has stayed positive for a week n half :(

@Laney the frustration with not knowing your own body is the worst. You get told time and time again to stay positive but it can be extremely difficult when you feel like you have no control. I do hope you and your OH manage to conceive as it sounds like you are having a bad time all round.

@strawberrye not all hope is lost x

@HSapr thank for your support and kind words x
@KnitKitty your a star to me x
@Laney79 thanks for the advice re asprin I think I'll try it, it can't hurt x
@hayleyfx don't let them fob you off you tell them what you expect from them and stamp your feet until you get it x Also thank you so much for sharing your words about Charlie, so beautiful xx
@SerenaOverjoyed thank for your kind words xx

Thank to anyone else I didn't mention xx

Gosh I feel like an old timer here. I've been with this group for my last three mc's and the support has been amazing I really appreciate all the support and being able to vent without fear of being that person who is just plain annoying to be around because we all get it xx
Baby dust to everyone x

Oh gosh, some awful news this morning.

strawberrye Sorry you're having a tough time. I can understand why you have concluded this is another loss, but it's not 100% yet. Hpts aren't designed to show progression. I'd do whatever gets you through the day, whether that's going to the doctor for hcg bloods or bunkering down with a duvet and boxsets. xx

Laney I'm sorry about the hideous bfn. It's such an unwelcome sight.

I've found after mcs at mt breasts are just tender at any random point during the tww.

Haleyfx thank you for sharing what you wrote. It was really beautiful and heartfelt. I did have a little well up. Good luck with epu, it's definitely self referral.

Lilimum of course you must be anxious after hearing your cousin's experience - I can't imagine. But complications like this must be lightening bolt rare. Thankfully it's not long until you get an answer, but until then take good care of yourself and get decent rest. I'm so sorry this has happened to you after a loss, it's deeply unfair. xx

@strawberrye and @Laney79 I'm so sorry ladies I wish I could say something that will make you feel better.

@Yukka congrats on your BFP but so sorry to hear about diagnoses, Ive never heard it sorry but it sounds awful. Wishing you all the luck in the workd for your treatment 🤞

@KnitKitty I have already started using the OPKS but so far only a very faint line. I'm sure the OH will be happy that we need to DTD more regular. I ma totally with you on the health kick too. I try my best to eat healthy and really struggle to motivate myself to go the gym. Especially now it's winter!! If you come across anything let me know, but sounds like you are doing great anyway!!

@hayleyfx thanks for the luck and hopefully it won't be long, I can get pretty impatience and obsessed with things 🙈 so trying my best to keep a positive mind x

@Dimblebimble I would it's nothing to worry about, it's probably just left over and DTD may of helped. I still get some now so i'm sure everything is fine x

So going of what you lovely ladies have said then it is on now for giving it a go and if it doesn't happen then hopefully I will learn more about my cycle. Practice makes prefect right....😊

@strawberrye I'm really sorry-I'll hope on your behalf that it's a duff test and it's not a sign of another loss. Big hugs xxx

Well it looks like my fears were correct. Further FRER this morning is faint again, and looks fainter than the previous. Just waiting to start bleeding now and to call up my GP to change our referral to recurrent miscarriage. There must be something wrong with implantation. Hello loss #3.

@Lilimum5 I can totally understand why you are worrying, what an awful experience for your cousin. A lot can change in a few days so fx for a good appointment for you on Friday. I have been thinking about if there's anything I can do/take if I get another BFP, maybe I'll do some more research but I'm starting to feel the more I read, the more anxious I get and start worrying if I could ever go through this again...

@Dimblebimble sounds like your cervix could be a bit irritated and it's probably normal. I get this a lot, particularly if we DTD outside of my fertile window when my cervix is high and soft. If it happens again though there's no harm in getting checked out, even if it's for peace of mind.

Good morning all
@KnitKitty thank you for your kind words. I hope you get your appointment through soon, did they give you any indication of timings?? With regards to health kicks, if you're not overweight then I wouldn't put too much pressure on yourself, maybe just make some healthy swaps, for snacks etc, make sure you have plenty of fruit and veg, and add in some superfoods?

@Lilimum5 my consultant has said to take it from BFP as he believes it does no harm but may help.

You know that fall I mentioned...well I was right. Frer done with FMU this morning and it's the biggest fattest negative you ever did see. I'd really started to believe this was it again. Feel like an idiot. I can't even read my own body. Now I just have to hope AF comes swiftly. That said I think our chances of catching again will be slim. OH going through a very low period at the moment and dtd is always off the table when he's like this. Why is this so damn hard? Xxx

A quick question I've been reading on here and Google about asprin how can this help and when to start taking it. Before bfp or after. I think I will give it a go if I get a bfp in the future. It can't hurt right?

Not looking forward to Friday at all but needs must. I just hope they can tell me a plan that doesn't require me to wait for ever to resolve the issue. I keep having a panic that this is damage caused by the erpc ( I know that's stupid) but I never wanted the erpc to start with and had too. It scares the hell out of me because I went with my cousin when she had hers and it all went very wrong and she no longer has a uterus. I know the chance of that happening is so so so low it almost never happens. But its in my brain and I can't let it go. I know I'm just twisting my self up and stressing my self out for no reason

Thanks for listening to me moan

Hi ladies. Sorry for dipping in and out of this thread, I've been trying to stay off Mumsnet and not to think about the miscarriage/ ttc until we start trying again next month.

I had a vma for a mmc on 2nd November and stopped bleeding a week and a half afterward. We had sex for the first time since the miscarriage last night and today I had pink discharge with a little bit of blood. Is this normal or an indication that something's wrong?

@KnitKitty I’m sorry for upsetting you but glad you found some comfort in it. I agree, writing my feelings down really seems to help, I just seemed to pour my heart out there. It definitely helps to share it with people who understand too ❤️ Glad to hear your acupuncture is going well!

@Laney79 @Yukka thank you for the advice. Will contact EPU myself tomorrow then and see about an early scan. I certainly don’t think the doctor will be much use! Hopefully tomorrow’s phone call goes better than my last! 🙈 also @Laney79 I’ve got everything crossed for you testing tomorrow 🤞

@DayDreamer1707 thank you so much, fingers crossed 🤞 & you’re right, it really is cruel - it comes as such a shock. I’m glad you’re doing better and I hope your BFP is just around the corner. Good luck for TTC again! X

@hayleyfx my EPAU nurse was great with me-told me after my first loss just to contact her when we got another BFP, which I did. She booked me in for the early scan at 8+6 -sadly that was when we discovered bow had also stopped growing too. I'd deffo contact them direct. Thanks for sharing your letter to Charlie. Just beautiful.

@KnitKitty I'm ok. Desperately trying not to get my hopes up for testing tomorrow. My boobs are very tender though and oh is adamant it'll be positive. Hoping I'm not setting myself up for a fall. Not sure our BD-Ing was well timed...we successfully dtd 3rd and 11th...positive opks were 8/9/10th - so hard to know. Keep your fingers crossed for me.