TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!

@Tiniestsky I was told the same. It took me 6 weeks to get a negative test after miscarriage and I had no left over tissue (had multiple scans to check), just high and slow-dropping hCG levels.

No worries, thanks for the reassurance, the nurse said that if it was left over tissue or something more untoward wrong then I'd typically have symptoms, bleeding or pain, don't know if that's true..?

@Tiniestsky Cross posted there, so glad you've got a scan booked! Shame it's not sooner though as I know every day seems like an age when you don't know what's going on. Trans-vaginal scans are considerably LESS uncomfortable than a smear test.

@Lilimum5 @strawberrye @SerenaOverjoyed Thank you so much for the good wishes.

@Pickingflowers Welcome and sorry to hear about your loss.

@SerenaOverjoyed I don't think I ever said congratulations on your BFP?! So congratulations! Hope all progresses well for you.

@Tiniestsky So sorry you're not feeling more supported and have so much uncertainty, it might be worth calling EPU and asking for a scan? Worst they can do is say no. If you did end up with "retained products" (I hate that phrase!) which is quite unlikely they might suggest removing these surgically. I know people who have had this procedure done and they have said that the physical recovery was not too bad.

@BerylBunny Sorry you're feeling low, when was your due date? Mine was 28th November and I'm finding it tough.

IVF-wise 3 of my 4 embryos are doing well so my transfer has been rescheduled for Monday. Fingers crossed they make it that far!

So I called the epu back who has booked me in for a scan next week to confirm one way or another what's going on. To say I'm shitting myself would be an understatement, I've had a smear test but never really had anyone mooching about down there.
I'm a bit angry that the nurse I spoke to at the Rosie in Cambridge seemed quietly confident that I hadn't mc whereas the first one said it sounded clear cut that I had. They really shouldn't get your hopes up like that it's not right

*news not bees!!

Morning ladies.

So sad to hear of more losses happening, I'm so sorry. It's so cruel. Also glad there is positive bees too for some,gives us all hope.

@Tiniestsky I hope you get some answers soon,waiting is absolute torture. I've had medical management and surgical management for mcs and neither are exactly pleasant experiences but I was really well cared for and you can have all the pain meds you need. I personally found the surgery really straight forward and pain free, in and out within the day. I think processes can be slightly different across the country though??

Feeling low today myself. Getting so close to my due date and I should be on mat leave now. I'm watching two friends go on mat leave now and it's hard not to feel sad about it. Strangely glad to see af yesterday though,my last mc was pretty horrific and neither dh or I are quite ready for pregnancy again yet.

Trying to catch up with who is where in terms of ttc! Bare with me,I'll grasp it soon!

Xx

Mornings by ladies
Really struggling at the mo, I can't get my thoughts straight or stable, today will be 7 weeks since conception and 2 weeks since I started to bleed for 2 days. I still have no definitive answer that I did mc although I know I did. Still had a positive test yesterday... I was told when I phone my local epu a couple days after my bleed to wait 3 weeks and then test because a scan wouldn't show up til 7 weeks, so why did she tell me to wait til the 8th week? Don't they know this is torture?
Can someone talk me through the process of what happens if there is tissue left behind please? Is it a painful horrible procedure? I'm so scared I can't think straight

@strawberrye it’s possible the cause of this one wasn’t related to aps, it’s one of the things I worry about, just cos i have it doesn’t make me immune to normal chromosome defects/unviable pregnancies, those risks still exist. Be good for you to get that second round of bloods done now. I personally think that early losses come with a better prognosis for future success, the ones after the heartbeat represent something ‘catastrophic’ Has happened to cause mc. I know it doesn’t help you now but I’m confident you’ll get there xxx not sure when you started aspirin with this one but I actually started on 8th October so had a good 6 weeks of blood thinning before implantation would have occurred this time. Don’t know if it made a difference. 5w milestone is tomorrow.

@serenaoverjoyed no worries! We didn’t discuss it actually but dh says he doesn’t dare go near me and id probably rather not do anything that could potentially possibly in any way add any form of risk. I don’t think there is a risk - but it’s been a long journey to get here and we have a long road ahead too. Go with what you feel comfortable with xx

@lilimum5 hope you get some answers today xx

@SerenaOverjoyed definitely was a relief! I’ll be keeping everything crossed for you for good hcg levels! 🤞 I don’t think 6 weeks is too early, although they do say not to worry if there’s not much to see as it’s still very early. You usually see a heartbeat at 6 weeks though. My EPU won’t scan before 7 weeks, I’d like one a bit earlier, still feels ages away! Good luck x

@strawberrye I’m so sorry hun. I hope you get an appointment soon and can get to the bottom of this. Stay strong - this will happen for you, I’m confident that it will. In the meantime, we’re all here for you and we understand. Vent as much as you need to. Hugs

Sorry to see some new names here and so sorry for all of your losses. This group is so supportive and has helped me so much this past year, I hope it helps everyone else too.

@Yukka thank you!! I’m so nervous, I just hope that we both have very sticky beans. We’re in this together! X

strawberrye I'm so sorry x
It's really shit. It might be worth thinking about RMC when you're ready. Until then there's alot of tv to watch and chocolate eat.

Yukka that's fab news. Thanks for sharing about the APS management. I feel like I'm stealing healthcare advice!! ..was anything said about sex?

Laney79 Ah! Unexpected bfns are horrid. I understand why you feel you can't take a break. Maybe this is your body taking a little rest for a cycle? Sorry if that sounds mindlessly twee

haleyfx hooray for a decent doctor! You must feel vindicated.

HSapr I would say think carefully before sharing. It's good to have support but it is announcing that you're ttc. I have found certain family a bit upsetting as you can tell they're desperate for good news but not so keen on the bad stuff. Even my grandmother who had 4 miscarriages is a bit of a pain in the arse...! But maybe your family will have better form than mine.

TinyPaws Everything crossed for you.

Lilimum thinking about you today with your scan. I hope you get some reassuring results x

I had hcg bloods yesterday so I'm waiting on the numbers. I'm pretty nervous. I'm around 5wks which is sadly the most pregnant I've been.

I've been advised to present at EPU for a reassurance scan, and the earliest they scan is 5wks 6d. I'm unsure when to go. I'd like to go next week when I'd be at least 6wks - is this too early?

@Pickingflowers sorry for your losses and hoping this group will help keep you positive 😘

@strawberrye I do hope you get seen and there is something they can do to help you, I've only had one MC and that was enough, my heart aches for you x

@Yukka glad everything seems to be going good for you, like some positive news on a Friday morning!!

CD10 and praying to start see some difference on my OPKs in the next couple of days! Everything still seems to be all over the place x

@DayDreamer1707 @Lilimum5 @HSapr @TinyPaws @Yukka thanks everyone. I'm feeling physically and emotionally broken.

@Yukka yes its my third, all before 6 weeks. Which makes me really worried because if like you I have APS (already have one borderline positive test for it), I took aspirin this pregnancy and it had no effect. I'm terrified I'll never get to that scan after 6 weeks to see a heartbeat and therefore never get the chance to start heparin. Just waiting for 8am for GP to open, although the one I have been seeing about this doesn't work on a Friday so I will try and get an appointment with her early next week.

@TinyPaws thinking of you, due dates are hard, and I can't imagine how you must be feeling with all the added stress of IVF as well. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@srawberryr really sorry to see your update. Is that 3 for you now? Have you made an appointment with the GP? Try your best to keep focussing forward on all the things you can still do to have your baby. And I know it’s shit but if it’s going to happen, better it happens early your body will recover much quicker and you’ll be cycle ready again soon. You have s good track record it’s only a matter of time I’m sure.

@hayleyfx yaay! Formal congratulations! Really good nee for you and nice out dates are so close together :)

APS update... consultant phoned, they will scan after 6w for heartbeat and he will reassess the detail of the bloods to decide when heparin will start. He said the aspirin is the most important one now to maintain the uterus lining and healthy placental growth. Strictly no excercise not even yoga, nothing that stretches or adds pressure to my lower abdomen. Rest as much as I can. He asled about work he knows I have a high pressured job, told me to be selfish with my time.....

Feeling ok. Few tummy pains but I’ve learnt the difference between good and bad and these seem good. Staying hopeful and calm. Just arrived at my sisters last night for the weekend who is due in two weeks, it’s ironic that we started out pregnant together in March and remain pregnant together in November. So glad she didn’t have to go through what we have xxx

Hi ladies, hope it's ok for me to join?

I'm 37
One early mc at 5:1
Ttc our first for 5 months in total (got preg cycle 2)
3 months after mc nothing (just got another BFN this morning at 13DPO).

Feeling sick that I won't ever get preg again or have a baby.

@TinyPaws fingers crossed 🤞 that this works for you. Sending you baby dust and sticky stuff. Please let us know how you get on x

Hello everyone, I've been failing miserably at keeping up with this thread, it moves so fast!

@strawberrye So sorry you've had a further loss.

Welcome to the newbies, sorry you find yourselves here, this is a lovely supportive thread.

Hello to all the oldies! Especially @boboelephant @laney79 @mistymeow @KnitKitty - I feel you ladies have shared so much of my journey!

@Yukka Congrats on the BFP!

I'm having an interesting time, I'm part way through an IVF cycle, recovering from egg collection which was yesterday. Despite having what appeared to be a good response to stims the number of eggs collected and fertilised has been disappointing and it's looking likely I'll have to have a day 2 transfer. I'm very close to my due date from me previous pregnancy and it's difficult not to think about what would have been. So, very mixed emotions here.

@strawberrye I'm so sorry hun xx

So sorry this is happening to you @strawberrye cry as much as you need to xx

@strawberrye I'm so sorry 😞

@hayleyfx thank you for thinking of me. I tested with the same kind of cheapie I originally used (supposedly sensitivity of 10miU/ml) and its negative. Plus I just found out my friend who has had 2 MMC and is pregnant again. I can't stop crying.

So sorry for all your losses ladies 😔

That's right @HSapr. Not at all in my case, I've had to have intervention every time. Silly body!! So frustrating!

@HSapr sorry to hear that, mine was the same situation, I found out i was pregnant a couple weeks back on Tuesday and by Friday I was bleeding, I knew what had happened but haven't had it confirmed since, because I was only 4/5 weeks the nurse I spoke to at the epu on the phone said to check again in a few weeks to see if the test was still positive.
The last test I did was Monday gone, a week after the bleeding stopped was still positive.