TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!

@mostimproved tentative congratulations. All pregnancies are different and lots have no early symptons.
@KnitKitty cd17 here but still no positive opk. Usually ovulate day 17-18 so hope it's not too far off!
@hellotoyellow thankyou! I have to admit I wish I retained my fertility after the EP like you have! Hope it all goes well.
@Mistymeow enjoy the time off charting. Hope it brings you less stress and great news that they are positive for your next pregnancy being successful. Please don't feel you don't have a right to your feelings. You have every right to feel sad. Also there are only a few of us on here who have the long time and struggle to get pregnant as well as the loss so don't underestimate how damn hard that it to bear!
@shivbo2014 welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. It's very possible to get pregnant after EP and it be in the right place. Good luck.

Hi all I am trying to conceive number 2 after an ectopic in June. Am currently 6dpo and cant wait to test but also terrified its a positive and another ectopic! Good Luck all!

@RedRobin7 that's such a lovely thing to do. My due date is next month. I hope you're feeling ok.
@loveisland last two cycles I ovulated cd21 which is not normal for me (confirmed with temp rise). AF arrived 14 days later which is fine, just long! I'm hoping the length of cycle will settle back down this month. It can happen after miscarriage. As someone else said it could just be a surge before af. Sorry to hear about your ectopic.
@strawberrye what a cute little fella. I love cuddly toys, I WANT!! Surely this happy chap must be a good omen for our Bobo.
@boboelephant you seem a lot more positive now that you are having some tests. I know for me it feels like I have more control. The uncertainty is really painful whilst ttc, especially for us ladies having to deal with pregnancy loss.
@indreamland hope you're doing ok! Try and distract yourself :)

I have ditched the thermometer, just using opks now. The doctor said that we are unlikely to conceive before the end of the year and with this new treatment we are more likely to have a successful pregnancy. Makes me concerned that if we did fall pregnant now it wouldn't be viable. But I don't know that for sure, and we should keep trying. Sometimes I feel I don't have any right to still feel so sad because other women have suffered more with multiple losses and still births.

@hellotoyellow okay that fills me with hope. I bought don't FRER's this morning so I'm going to try and hold out till Wednesday as it will It will be 4 weeks since my mc, so I'm just hoping my cycle gets back to normal ASAP if I'm not pregnant.

@RedRobin7 your trip away looked lovely 💞

This thread moves so fast! I'm sorry to see some new people - baby dust to you all.

@boboelephant fingers crossed it's your month! Good luck for the TWW X

@MeghanV07 this time I've had 5 negatives on those tests but two positive FRERs and a positive clearblue. So I think it's those tests. You're not out yet.

@Redrobin7 that looks lovely. It's so important to make time to be peaceful together in this madness.

@Coffeeist this sounds like a perfectly timed cycle - DTD on the night of a static smiley seems to be the best way. Fingers X.

@Melpops36 your graph looks promising. As long as your temp keeps rising and no sudden large dips it looks positive. Good luck 🤞🏼💞.

@mostimproved I'm awful 🤦🏽‍♀️ I can't help it it's driving me mad. I'm not sleeping at night because I keep having dreams I'm pregnant and then wake up to no bump and cannot sleep again. TTC is bloody tough!

@Boboelephant thank you, me too 🤞🏼. Just wish TTC was much simpler or the 2WW was in fact 2 days 😂

I looked at the feedback on the tests I bought from eBay and they've got so much negative feedback saying they've been giving false positives and no positives till after people's missed period. So I'm feeling hopeful. Have had some strong cramps this weekend followed by 'achey' boobs, but these only last a couple of minutes. I'm also constantly peeing, but don't know if it's all I'm my head? I only ever get AF symptoms when I'm actually on but I have never really tracked my periods after my DS so I can't 100% remember what it's all like. Wouldn't it be so much easier to be male? Xxx

@Melpops36 looks promising with your rising temperature and the dip at 7DPO, have you tested again this morning? When is AF due?

Sorry to bother you all with this again but any charters have any ideas?
@redrobin7 glad you did something lovely
Wishing for BFP all round

@inDreamland - TWW with you again I suppose. I used advanced OPKs first time this cycle, had flashing smiley yesterday and static one today. DP has been away last few days and only back this evening so not too much DTD though.

@Redrobin7 - I like how you spent your special day

I ordered some tests from medichecks (thanks whoever recommended them, apologies forgot it already), which arrived quickly. I'm aiming to post them back later this week, so let's see what that comes back with.

@agteacht yeah, I stopped POAS the month I had a weird cycle and AF arrived not long after.

Fingers crossed for you Boboelephant. What CD are you atm?

Sorry things aren't clear for you mostimproved. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@MeghanV07 sorry for your loss and try to put the tests down, although I know it’s easier said than done! The first cycle post-mc can be a bit messed up, but hope you find out either way soon, and like you say if AF comes at least you know where you stand.

@InDreamland hope the TWW goes quickly for you and fx you get your BFP before your due date.

@strawberrye @boboelephant that is such a cute story about the elephant, fx it’s lucky for you both! I used to be the least superstitious person but since TTC I have found myself believing in all kinds of things!

Congratulations @hellotoyellow @crazyhorseylady hope your beans are doing well and staying put.

So I think I might be having a chemical.. got a faint positive on FRER this morning, but I’m 10dpo and have no symptoms whatsoever. Last time round I had sore boobs and felt sick from 7dpo and just ‘knew’ I was pregnant. I am fully expecting AF to arrive in the next few days, just wish I hadn’t tested early and seen that line as I feel like it’s giving me false hope, it’s so frustrating!!

@awakeatnight awww that's sweet love. I love it even more as the name came from a story for my DS. And he's very kind. ❤ I wouldn't worry about a couple of days difference, mine varies a little each month and the docs still call it regular. As for the surge, you prob just have a quick one and ovulate the same day as your pos opk. Totally normal. Perhaps if you're only testing in the morning you are catching the tail end of it on the opk?
@Blondcat glad you had a nice holiday. Hope it did the trick!
@RedRobin7 glad you had a nice day hun. Due dates are tough. Well done.
@KnitKitty thanks hun. I hope so. I love a bit of woo. I do feel that there are alot of good omens this month too. I hope it's not just alot of getting my hopes up to be disappointed but hope is necessary on this journey to stay sane.
@InDreamland thankyou and good luck for the tww!
@MeghanV07 put the sticks down! It's so hard after MC as everything can be out of whack. Hope the limbo is over soon for you.
@hayleyfx thanks my lovely. Fx for you too. If nothing else I'm glad your body has regulated again.

Ahh I'm so hopeful for this month ladies! I know I'm probably l setting myself up for a fall but this is the month I've fallen the past 2 years (and I'm hoping for 3rd time lucky!) and if I fall this month I'll have the same due date as my first loss 2 years ago. Also I'll prob get a bfp on my birthday! I so hope it's all some weird twist of fate!

Sorry to see quite a few newcomers but everyone here is so lovely and supportive, you’re in the right place.

@strawberrye that’s lovely! @Boboelephant hope these are all signs... fingers crossed 🤞

@crazyhorseylady @hellotoyellow massive congrats. I really hope you both have very sticky beans and anyone else who has had a BFP recently (sorry if I’ve missed anyone - there were loads of pages to scroll through!)

@RedRobin7 that’s such a lovely idea. Glad you had a nice day for the due date, they are so hard. Hugs

I’m currently 3dpo and feeling surprisingly okay - I think because I told myself that we’re not properly trying this month (although we basically have haha) so I’m not thinking about it constantly. Although in a week or so time I just know I’ll be cracking out the pregnancy tests 🤦‍♀️

Thank you @KnitKitty - I'm on cycle 7 post MC but could well be just a missed cycle as you say. I think I might count it as if it is rather than continuous POAS and BFNs!! And just therefore assume it will get back to normal xx

Thank you ladies ❤️

Have become a serial pee on a sticker this weekend and I keep thinking I'm seeing a line then I don't. It's driving me ISABE. If we haven't conceived this month I'd rather AF just get her sh*t together and arrive so I can see the back of this dreaded month!

But, I keep thinking (or at least trying to think) nothing worth doing is ever easy ❤️

@RedRobin7 glad that you managed to have a good day on little bean's due date.

@Russkispy sorry AF turned up. Fx for your next cycle.

@Strawberrye he's sooooooo cute! Good luck for you and @boboelephant! Gotta be your month!

@MeganV07 @loveisland @JacquelynScieszka and @Bentley88sorry you find yourself here but you've come to the right place. Everyone is so supportive.

I'm starting the TWW now.......... this will be difficult. Trying to keep busy to try take my mind off things but it's hard. I'm finding myself doing a countdown to the due date in January.

@agteacht some of us have had missed period or much longer cycles about 3 or 4 cycles after MC. Seems to be a bit of a phenomenon. What cycle are you post MC at the moment?
If you haven't ovulated this month your body might be feeling the need to shed up not sending the right messages to get a break-through bleed started. I believe this is what happened to me C4 post MC. Felt very bloated and big-boobed and PMSy for over a week before AF finally showed. Hope she turns up soon. It's so annoying when you know it's a BFN and you just want to get on with the next cycle!

Yes @keebo, it's exactly that. The emotions with AF just seem more straightforward, as you say. It's disappointing and then you move on and have a new cycle to look forward to.

@strawberrye that's awesome!
@Boboelephant I would love the wooness of it if this is your month... a lot of good omens seem to be winging their way towards you. Although being shat on is never pleasant. haha!

@awakeatnight someone correct me if I'm wrong, but as far as I understand it OPKs only pick up the surge which happens before you ovulate and that can be anything from a couple of hours to a few days after the surge. So I don't think the length of the actual surge matters, so long as you get one. And I don't think you always ovulate the same length of time after the surge each month. Sounds like everything is normal to me.

@Blondcat wonderfully timed holiday! hopefully being back to normal life again will distract you from symptom spotting. I'm about 4 or 5 DPO too though and I'm already on the look out. Aren't we terrible! haha

@RedRobin7 Happy Bean Birthday. xxx Looks like you had lovely weather in a beautiful setting! Well done for getting through the due date and I'm so pleased you managed to enjoy your day.

Evening ladies just back from my lovely holiday so sorry not been keeping up. Congrats to those with bfp's and sorry for af and any new ladies.

I am on 4dpo having had fw and ov while on holiday dtd a few times so bet the symptom spotting will be a bit more this month. (must not use Dr Google!)

I am just sitting with a cuppa trying not to fall asleep in front of the TV...

Congratulations @strawberrye (and @Boboelephant !) hope you enjoyed your morning. Bobo is super cute. Bobo, a symbol of kindness ❤️

@KnitKitty I think I know what you mean. I want so much to have a baby safe inside me too but I'm questioning whether I can do that now. AF seems to be something my body can do on autopilot!! Plus it means I can have a drink. Cheers girls!!

My AF started today a few days early. I'm usually 15 days bang on from positive opk to period. 13 this month. Is that ok do you think or potentially something else going haywire? Also, any one know if I should be worried that I don't get much of an LH surge? Last 3 cycles my temp rise has been on the day of first positive OPK - I thought ovulation was meant to be a few days later? I need to watch CM closer next cycle I think.

What's everyone's plans tonight? We're having wine and watching tv. DH currently making dinner!

@crazyhorseylady and @hellotoyellow congratulations!!! I think there are some threads called the brexit babes and another more cake for more babies...

Sorry I'm a bit short on time but welcome to the newbies and I'm so sorry for your losses. This is a lovely supportive group.

Hope everyone is ok!

I haven't caught up with all the posts yet but just had to say @strawberrye that's awesome!!! 😍😍 bless you! I so hope it's a good sign for us both!! Carrying on with the good luck theme, today I was walking along the street and felt something wet on my face. Turns out a bird pooped and it landed on my chin and down my top! Ewwww!!! Now I've been told that bird poo is good luck so with @KnitKitty dream, your elephant and my bird poo- this has to be my month!! 🤞

How has everyone's weekend been so far?

I went to a Macmillan coffee morning where they had a "name the elephant" table. Thinking of you @boboelephant I put in the name Bobo and guess what...I won the elephant! I'm taking this as a sign it's a lucky month for us both @boboelephant !

@knitkitty I know what you mean about af. For me, I know where I stand when af arrives - the emotions are far more straightforward than a new pregnancy. I think it's also all about accepting what is happening and, as others have said before, keeping in mind how you are right now. Easily said!

Hi everyone and hope you are all doing okay.

I am not sure what's going on but I am on cd42... no period... have taken three pregnancy tests over the last week and all negative.

Have had weird twinges which feel like period coming but also had similar twinges when was pregnant before miscarried previously.

But three BFNs means I'm not going to get a BFP now, just wish my period would just come along now!! Don't want to go to the doctor but will probably have to.

If anyone has had a similar issue let me know xxx