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TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!

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RedRobin7 · 23/09/2018 08:01

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Another new thread! This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle - this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Kicking off with a roll call:

RedRobin7
Age 30
TTC #1
MMC at 12 weeks in March 18
NMC at 7 weeks in July 18

Currently under a private gynaecologist and waiting for tests results. Hoping to join the TTC bus again in October.

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Newbie21 · 07/10/2018 12:09

@robin78 congratulations. Really hoping it is 3rd time lucky for you. Sending lots of positivity your way. Keep us posted on developments x

hellotoyellow · 07/10/2018 10:32

Hey all, sorry to see some new faces Flowers you're in good company here.

Thanks @RedRobin7 hope you manage to catch the ovulation this week. Fx.

Congrats @mostimproved and @robin78, I have my fingers crossed for you having a pregnancy that's both in the right place and growing. It's a mix between trying to be optimistic and feeling really worried.

@hayleyfx and @meghan07 and @melpops I see lines... hope it keeps on developing.

Now having nightmares about another ectopic and losing the other tube. I find this all really, really hard actually and I had completely underestimated how terrified I would be. My heart goes out to all of you struggling with similar.

Delilah7 · 07/10/2018 10:31

@robin78 congratulations 😘

Blondcat · 07/10/2018 10:14

@hayleyfx and @meghanv07 good luck ladies for much stronger lines over next few days and sticky beans.

@robin78 congratulations keeping everything crossed for you and your third time lucky x

MeghanV07 · 07/10/2018 10:09

@hayleyfx please let us know how you get on!!!!

@robin78 I have everything crossed for you. Glad you've come back to update us ❤️❤️❤️❤️

robin78 · 07/10/2018 10:04

Hi there, I disappeared off the old thread as I needed a little break from thinking about ttc and mc so much and had intended to come back in a month or so. I am so sorry to see news of new losses (@laney79 I am gutted for you) . For the newbies, I’ve been on the thread since Dec last year after mc1 earlier that year. I then found out I was pregnant again in Feb but had mc2 in March. I turned 40 this summer.

I’m just popping back with news because I didn’t want to just disappear. I got a BFP last week. I don’t want to add to anyone’s sadness but hopefully some of you will find this encouraging. I’m hoping for third time lucky! But I’m going into this with my eyes wide open and may find myself back to square one in a few weeks. This is just stage 1. Still, im determined to enjoy this stage as much as is possible. Sending love and lots of luck to all of you. Xx

hayleyfx · 07/10/2018 09:44

Thanks ladies! I got a darker line today but it’s still pretty faint. I’m going to nip into town and pick up some more tests (spending so much money on tests 🤦‍♀️) I’m really nervous. Not feeling hopeful... I’ll test again tomorrow, hopefully the line will be even darker 🤞

@Melpops36 I see the line!! Fingers crossed for the both of us hun 🤞

MeghanV07 · 07/10/2018 09:44

I see a line @Melpops36!!!! That's darker than I had with my first positive with my DS!
Test again tomorrow 🙊🙊🙊🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

Laney79 · 07/10/2018 09:38

@Melpops36 I can see a squinters-that looks like mine did when I fell pregnant in August. Fingers crossed for you xxx

Melpops36 · 07/10/2018 09:29

Thanks @meghanV07!
Did a test this morning, very very faint pink line. Pic attached. Clearly going mad. I’m sure I will lines to appear...
posting pic so you can all remind me to calm down and chill out!!

TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!
MeghanV07 · 07/10/2018 06:53

@Melpops36 that looks really promising!!! Everything crossed for you lovely 🤞🏼🌈

Melpops36 · 06/10/2018 21:32

Still no Af so looks like late ovulation. 10dpo I think? (Again?!) and BFN. AF 6 days later than usual. Feel sick, boobs sore and tired today. Temps still rising though. I’ll post pic. Probably means nothing and I’ll be back to the drawing board on Tuesday!!

TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!
Laney79 · 06/10/2018 21:30

@hayleyfx I can see the line in the frer. Keeping everything crossed for you x

Melpops36 · 06/10/2018 21:29

@redrobin7 thank you, weird cycle this one!
@haleyfx I can see a line! fingers crossed for you xxxx

hayleyfx · 06/10/2018 20:36

Forgot to attach pics 🤦‍♀️🤣

TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!
TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!
hayleyfx · 06/10/2018 20:34

Still have no idea what’s going on yet, hopefully get a clearer answer in the next few days. Did a frer today and another eBay test - they’ve both got faint lines. I attached pics. Although I noticed that my frer had a bad indent at first before even using it it had a bright white line so it may just be an indent 🤷‍♀️ I’ll keep testing... see what happens! Only 9dpo but fingers crossed anyway 🤞

@Yukka thank you!!

@KnitKitty thanks hun 🤞 I’m really sorry af showed, I hope this happens very soon for you. Hopefully better luck next cycle!

@RedRobin7 thank you, it was so lovely! We’re undecided yet - I would love to get married next summer! If our budget allows us Grin

Delilah7 · 06/10/2018 09:06

@RedRobin7 mine didn't work either hahaha x

RedRobin7 · 06/10/2018 08:17

Oh and did anyone see on the iPhone you can now get notifications when someone mentions your name? I turned mine on but it hasn't worked 🤷🏻‍♀️

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keebo · 06/10/2018 08:16

Hi, I've been lurking all week again. @knitkitty I'm sorry you be had a rubbish week. Rant away - we're in the same boat with due dates looking and crap at work. I still don't see how I'll ever be successfully pregnant given all the stress I get from my job but I can't bear the idea of waiting 6 months to ttc again whilst I find a new one. We haven't really been ttc this month although dtd sometimes, including last weekend. Saw my acupuncturist on Monday who thought I'd just ovulated... a nervous week has passed. I want to be pregnant but at the same time I'm STILL waiting for my referral for tests and would rather wait til I'm more sure a pregnancy will stick. Anyways, haven't slept much this week which was definitely a symptom in pregnancy no2 but did a test that was a BFN. Sigh. That was obviously just stress related.

RedRobin7 · 06/10/2018 08:16

Finally back on after a week trying to catch up and failing! Last Sunday whilst we were still away on our due date break, I woke up at 4am with my worst migraine ever and spent 5hrs being sick because of the pain. I think my metformin maybe caused this and I hope it's not going to be regular. I've only been on it 9 days so hope it settles soon.

I'm soo behind now I can't catch up! So I'm sorry for anyone I miss out here.

@awakeatnight Sorry you've been struggling. Did you manage to arrange some counselling? Where are you in your cycle now? I had a 26 day cycle last month. Now on day 9 and expecting to ovulate on Monday or Tuesday.

@strawberrye Loved the Bobo story, so nice you won ❤️ Sorry I missed your due date. I understand how you feel about not being pregnant again yet. It's so hard. I agree with @awakeatnight Maybe we just needed to get out of that stage and start a fresh. I do feel a bit different now that day has come and gone. My second due date is in Feb but I don't feel the same as I did with my first loss.

@TinyPaws Pleased to hear you're able to start IVF again this month. It is so scary but you can do this. Good luck 🤞

@Babylonlost and @Angel2018 so sorry for your loss. I'm sorry you find yourselves here but I hope we can provide support and comfort xx

@Laney79 I'm sorry it's been a tough week. I hope things have improved with your OH - you need each other more after losing Bow. I hope you feel ready to try again soon.

@hayleyfx congratulations on your engagement! Lovely news and just what you deserve! So cute your niece helped. Have you decided whether to have a long or short engagement? Fingers crossed for you for that BFP!

@InDreamland How was Michael McIntyre? Sorry you weren't able to get much help on the NHS but what he did say is reassuring. Good luck with the private tests xx

@Melpops36 How are you doing? I agree with the analogy of breaking a leg. It's ridiculous.

@KnitKitty Sorry to hear you're having a tough time with your body being confusing and work being shit. I totally get that it makes you feel like nothing is ever going to change. Things will change and we must try to be positive. You're always the positive one for us but we are all right behind you and hoping you get that BFP soon!

@Boboelephant How are you doing today? I'm sorry your body is being confusing for you too. It's so frustrating and hard not to obsess.

@hellotoyellow That's good news they don't think it's a chemical and I understand why you feel like you shouldn't believe it's actually happening. It's scary but take every day at a time for now. Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞

Well I am apparently in my FW - the ICs have a very faint line but the CB digital is flashing away. I've had no EWCM yet so I'm expecting I'll ovulate Monday or Tuesday. We are supposed to be trying this month but my DH is away from tomorrow and possibly until Friday so I hope if we DTD tomorrow it might be enough. Although whenever we have only DTD once we haven't been successful. Both pregnancies we DTD at least twice. I so desperately want to be pregnant but I'm terrified of having a third MC this year. One more MC after having private tests is just going to make me feel like it's just not possible. I just hope taking metformin makes a difference this time.

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MeghanV07 · 06/10/2018 08:14

I think I may do the same @Delilah7 scrap the opk's & temps and just go by what an app says and my CM... I really really don't want to obsess over it. I've got 1 pregnancy test left and I plan on using it when my AF is late. I may get my DH to hide it 🤦🏽‍♀️ xxx

Delilah7 · 06/10/2018 07:42

Wondered if I could join, I posted on one of the other posts before. So sorry for everyone who's here on this post ❤️
Miscarried on 1st august with my first baby. I'm just feeling abit deflated.... trying not to work myself up about trying again, I put so much pressure on myself last month to get pregnant and was gutted when I wasn't so I've decided not to do OPKS until Christmas as luckily I fell pregnant basing my ovulation around EWCM and pains! I would of been 3 months now and that's just really hard to take in 😔 x

hellotoyellow · 06/10/2018 07:29

Hi all! Been lurking a bit.

@Laney79 so sorry about bow. Enormous hugs and take care of yourself.

@mostimproved I know it's a weird netherworld isn't it? EPAU did some bloods for me and said it was very unlikely to be ectopic which I'm pleased about, but having had it all go wrong before I now just feel in a weird category of perhaps-pregnant. Because everyone basically knew about the ectopic except at work it's hard to hide too - nobody bought my sober for October lies the other day!

@KnitKitty it's really hard when AF plays tricks. Not only the thing you really don't want but accompanied by a hormonal mess designed to make you feel like crap. Flowers

@Yukka good luck with the bloods.

@hayleyfx I think I see a line but have never had them that early on those tests- maybe try an FRER today or tomorrow? Fingers crossed!

Newbie21 · 06/10/2018 00:44

@KnitKitty sorry just caught up on your most recent post. Sorry you are feeling rubbish. It's not AF until it's in full flow. I'm not feeling it this cycle. I'm pretty sure AF will show up on Sunday for me but am just going to try and focus on the weekend. Hope you feel in better spirits tomorrow.

Newbie21 · 06/10/2018 00:38

Thanks @Boboelephant and @KnitKitty. Looks like there are a fair few of us nearing the end of the TWW - @KnitKitty and @Blondcat and a fair few more.

@mostimproved glad things are progressing as they should be. Totally understand the anxiety. I'm sending lots of positive vibes your way and do keep us updated if you feel you want to, it is lovely to hear the happy stories and it gives hope to others in my opinion.

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