TTC after pregnancy loss - thread 26 - BFPs are coming!

@InDreamland so sorry to read this! Words are failing me. Look after yourself! It just sucks.

Oh @indreamland I'm so sorry. I hope you are taking some time off? I know you have your holiday coming up soon, why don't you have a look at some activities and start planning something nice for you both? Just want to give you a big hug x

5 years, 2 pregnancies, 2 mc's

So sorry @InDreamland xxxx

Seen the nurse and urine test come up negative. Not surprised but still really sad. She thinks doc will send me for blood test but I knew yesterday morning with that massive bleed it was over. Almost wish I'd never tested, ignorance is bliss but at same time I am glad to know about my 2nd baby even if just for a few days.

@Newbie21 how are you getting on? Hope you're as ok as can be.

@Panapan sorry AF showed up. Fingers crossed this cycle of yours and you're pregnant by Christmas.

Thanks ladies. In waiting room. Seen 2 women crying already. Not a good sign hate this place. Can't believe I'm here again. 2 pregnancies and have had to come here for bleeding for both.

Think it's my turn next as person in front of me called in now.

@InDreamland I am so sorry lovely. The EPU will absolutely not think you are wasting their time, you have been referred by the doctor so it's the doctor's call not yours. You have a positive pregnancy test and it will be recognised. I'm hoping the bleed was something else so much. Glad dh is going to be with you. I know it's hard but probably best you are seen now so you have some answers before your holiday. Please keep us updated. Thinking of you x

@Newbie21 I hope you get some answers from EPU today. Talk to them about your worry about scarring, they will discuss any potential risks. Take care x

@hayleyfx I am so pleased for you! Wishing you all the best. Such lovely news :)

@newbie21 and @in dreamland hope you are as ok as possible and get some conclusions today.

@hayleyfx massive congrats lovely that’s amazing news. Embrace it no matter what you’re allowed to feel happy xx

@Newbie21 and @InDreamland thinking of you both today. I'm hold your hands even if you can't feel it. Xx

Oh, and congratulations @hayleyfx :)

I'm so sorry @Newbie21 and @InDreamland. This is so hard.

AF arrived for me yesterday. I was really hoping this was the month. :(

Oh @Newbie21 sending you lots of hugs. This is so shit. I hope that you can pass baby naturally and not have to have another d&c. Sending you a hand hold over the internet

I feel so stupid, I should've known to go to EPU but wasn't sure if they'd see me so early in the pregnancy. Worried they're gonna think l am wasting their time. They always do pregnancy test so if that comes back negative now I'm just gonna be devastated after having a clear line 48 hours ago on a FRER, even though I am expecting this to definitely be confirmed as mc. I want my baby to be recorded just like their sibling was - it may be a 1st trimester mc but they still existed.

Thinking of you both @InDreamland @Newbie21 - the position you are both in is so hard. Sending you hugs.

@hayleyfx amazing congrats on the BFP got everything crossed for you

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Congratulations @hayleyfx fingers crossed for a sticky bean. I really hope all goes well. Totally understand the anxiety you are experiencing.

Sorry you are going through this @InDreamland Glad DH can go to EPU with you.

I am in EPU at the moment with DH waiting for my second scan to confirm my MC. It's been a difficult weekend - yesterday was the due date of the first one we lost. I've been bleeding a bit - but just brown blood and not very much. It's slightly increased in the last day or so I'm not sure whether it will pass naturally or not. I had a d&c last time which I wanted to have and it went well with no complications but I'm nervous about having another one as do not want any scarring. My concern with medical treatment is that lots of people end up having surgical treatment anyway for retained product so maybe a d and c would be less traumatic. I don't know. I just hate all of this.

Rung DH and he's coming home as doesn't want me going there alone. Doc said need to go today and get seen to check if did mc and if any retained products.

@clumsykitten thank you. Sending you lots of hugs, sorry you're having a hard time x

@Laney79 my surgery unfortunately have that system and I can't argue with them. Only time I've managed to insist on an appointment was during my last pregnancy and was being fobbed off by everyone so turned up in tears so they squeezed me in.

Doc phoned me now and told me to go to EPU as they cannot do anything test wise but thinks I need another scan. I don't think I can drive myself up there I'm such a state and DH is at work.

Congratulations @hayleyfx! Fingers crossed for a sticky bean! I understand the anxiety of having another mc. As soon as I saw my BFP last week my first thought was I can't cope with another loss.

I keep looking at my line progression from Thursday morning to Saturday morning. How with a darker line Saturday morning can I 1 hour later start bleeding?

Huge congrats @hayleyfx -fingers crossed for you.

@InDreamland the receptionist surely shouldn't have the power to refuse you a GP appt!!! She's not a medic?! Id ask for the practice manager and explain that you need to see a doctor, and that you won't take no for an answer. That's just not on. I'd be tempted to make a complaint. Unless they are triaging every single request for an appointment (which would take forever) I can see no reason why you wouldn't warrant an appointment. Yes they can ask for basic details to pass onto the dr but surely it's not up to them if you get an appt or not! Do you have access to book appts online? I use that as it bypasses the phone system. Big hugs xxx

Omg... got my BFP!! I really didn’t expect it this month but I’m over the moon! Trying to stay calm, going to book Dr appointment today and take it from there. I think I’m only 12dpo so very early days! I’m terrified of having another MC. After 4 losses you just lose all hope... I wish I could look at a positive test and think “we’re having a baby!” Instead of “so I guess I’m going to have another mc” 😣 I want this bean to stick so much! Trying to stay positive though and tell myself that “today I am pregnant” ... 🤞

@Clumsykitten I’m glad you’re feeling more positive and had a nice weekend with your DH. I had no idea they were IVF babies! You don’t realise quite how many people go through struggles with TTC and pregnancy, it’s lovely to hear happy stories!

@InDreamland I’m not sure but I hope that the worst is over and that everything starts to settle soon. Stay strong and have an amazing holiday, you really do deserve it. I hope you’re okay xx

Thanks @clumsykitten. Glad you're feeling better. Exercise does help. Wow didn't know the Obama girls were IVF.

Called GP surgery and receptionist won't book me in to see doc, said will get a call first then if doc feels needs to see me then will tell me what time to come in. Feeling fobbed off