TTC First Baby Massive Thread.

@dosmummas welcome to our crazy club ladies, wishing you lots of luck x

@dosmummas pms does the same thing to me, actually!

@Delilah7 not to invalidate what you are feeling, do you normally feel really stressed and overwhelmed when you are due on? I do, it's horrendous. I have split up three times with my partner when I am PMS, I feel hopeless like nothing will ever be okay again. Do you have strong supports round you? You need to share this stress.

Delilah you've had a crap time. I'm a believer in calling a spade a spade.

Grieve. Cry. Positive is great, but forcing positivity is like trying to force sleep. Or a fart (usually a shit if forced!).

Time is a bastard (but also a friend). You don't need to be happy with any of this. X

Ahh thank you @Crossfitgirl, we are on cycle one, we tested on Sunday and got negative with FRER, my partner who is the one carrying wants to wait until AF day has gone and past before testing again. This thread is so helpful, we need to be so precise with ovulation as our donor has to meet us with the goods and depending on his schedule can only give us one donation. so we are going to start temping. We are currently just using OPKs and CB fertility sticks (and a few fertility crystals lol)

@cupcakesandglitter @sunshine1987 I think we are on the same test day!!? We are due AF on Thursday.

@Delilah7 easier said than done, and I've said it to you a million times: go easy on yourself. Cry and rant as required. None of this is fair. Mind yourself. X

@Dosmamas welcome! When I put my back out DH and I used syringes. Back to 'traditional' methods now.

Cycle 3. Day 8. Low fertility on CB monitor, but hoping for high in coming days.

Will start temping tomorrow, but sleep poorly so not sure of the merits.

@flapjackered aww well have some nice gin AND wine. It's 5 months for me, as we started at the beginning of May, but still relatively early for both of us in the TTC timescale. It WILL happen for us you've just got to believe it! I'm glad your tests came back ok at least :-) 🍾

@Crossfitgirl yes we are in the in between Gin and wine season, maybe it's gin AND wine season 😁
Yes not a fan of the bfn's definitely waiting next time.
I think I am doubly sad because it's my six month ttc anniversary. 👎🏻

@flapjackered I will join your party although AF is a while away for me yet! I could have only ovulated today so i need hope!! Lol. I did have a gin yesterday, but I'm feeling it's coming more into wine season now:-)

@flapjackered promise me not to test til AF is due next time, you were so strong saying how you prefer AF to BFN, we led you astray on here - we shall be stronger next time!!
Also, not out till she comes! I totally get how you feel though, but at our age the chance is 15% each cycle so it's that whole "it could take over a year even if you're fine " thing, it's so annoying!

@cupcakesandglitter @katbecool folic acid is the only supplement that is recommended by the NHS preconception as it's clinically proven to reduce the risk of certain defects in the baby. I don't know if it affects regularity or anything, so unless there's anything to suggest it messes up your cycle and that's a bigger worry than reducing the risk of the defects then i would carry on taking it, just my thoughts though as it's personal to everyone, plus they do say it's fine to start taking it once you get your BFP xx

@delilah7 aw it's awful when families fight, sometimes they can't appreciate what they've got can they?

@dosmamas welcome :-) good luck! One of my best friends is in a same sex relationship and they are doing the same, using a sperm donor and self inseminating (don't know if that's the correct term!) She doesn't talk much about it but I may know a bit more about it than others on here.

@cupcakesandglitter how long is your luteal phase? I ovulate on cd17 or 18, and have a 25 or 26 day cycle. I've read loads of horror stories about short luteal phases but also lots of positive stories about Getting Bfps even with a 6 or 7 day luteal phase xxx

Hi Girls, I'm so glad to find this thread. My partner and I have decided to keep all this to ourselves until we fall pregnant so it helps to have people to talk to.

Stats
Age: 32
TTC # 1
Cycle #1
12dpo
Same sex, had x1 sperm donation 14/09

Any other same sex couples here or single women using donors?

@FlapJackered yes! Sign me up for chocolate and pastries! And tea...

@cupcakesandglitter your luteal phase does not change or get shorter, so you'll ovulate sooner. I ovulate on CD14 and still have ten days of luteal phase left and that's never changed from when my period was longer after coming off BC. I had a 34-day period, ovulated on CD24. So whatever your luteal phase is, it'll remain the same.

@KatBeCool yeah that's the advice I've had too 😩 but I get really anxious about the 24 day cycle when I ovulate around CD17/18 so it's not leaving enough time I think 😩 who knows x

@FlapJackered no doubt I'll be joining soon, sounds fab!!

I've been obsessing reading through Dr Google on other threads, because I keep feeling like I've started but it just happens to be blobs of creamy Cm. Also I've broken out reaaaaally badly on my face (way more than usual) and keep getting twinges in my ovaries? Wtf is actually going on 😩

I hereby announce i am starting a party on the day of bfn/af - it involves Gin/Wine or any chosen beverage and chocolate/crisps or any suitably fattening food. This party shall henceforth be named 'The pity party' and everyone on bfn/af day is invited.
That is all.
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@cupcakesandglitter I'm going to keep taking it. It's now been a third cycle at 24 days, I don't expect it to change. Every Dr I've ever mentioned to that I'm TTC has immediately said that taking prenatal vitamins and mainly folic acid is very important and need to start taking it well before getting pregnant since you want it already in your body for when you do get pregnant.

@katbecool yeah that is a good shout so I'm hoping I ovulated later anyway and maybe had some luck but I'm not so hopeful as I tested for ovulation in September and got a peak, if I was pregnant it would have gave me another peak . Yes I've only started temping this month I wish I had know about temping when we started to have a clearer picture 🤦

@FlapJackered 😂😂😂 I'm glad all is okay though xx

Just had my day 21 bloods back and all is fine! This has made me feel slightly better after my bfn. But why isn't it happening if there is nothing wrong?!?
AF not arrived yet but bad pms. DH has just had a wisdom tooth pulled out and is speaking in a stupid voice because he had anaesthetic and it is driving me CRAZY I just want to shout at him to shut up! Definitely hormonal! Poor DH! 😂

@KatBeCool are you going to carry on taking it? Xx