TTC First Baby Massive Thread.

Hi @Crossfitgirl, thankyou for your reply.
I am doing OPK's, lots of sex and would say I'm fairly healthy. Don't drink or smoke and although BMI a little high, I'm not obese. I think my diet is the only thing I could control a little more, cutting the sugar and fat out.
Cycles are regular 27-29 days. My only worry is the spotting for 3-5 days before AF arrives and period is light.
So far Mumsnet is helping as have a place to vent and talk with others ttc but if it gets too much will have a break.
I think like you it's just a feeling, and as you say the only way to know is time. I'm just impatient. But we all are, together and that's the key we are all wanting our BFP's
Sorry for being a moaner and thankyou all for your support 💕

@delilah7 that's def stronger. Maybe it is a bit mayhem since the MC, maybe just go with your CM and use that as your guide. Worked before, right?

@katbecool thanks, I def haven't missed it this cycle as it's still early for me and I'm doing OPKs in between the digital ones, but I think maybe I could have in previous cycles as we have stopped DTD the day after the positive, when actually ov could be 2 days after the positive!

@mrsc87 I feel exactly the same, I have actually been told it could take me a while, and I have this feeling in the back of my mind that it's just not going to happen for me. I'm gonna be one of those that takes a year or more!

I actually found it helpful to take a break from mumsnet. Although it's good to chat, seeing other people get their BFPs while I'm still slogging away onto cycle 6 can be disheartening, despite being happy for those that have bfps!

I also like to think that if it's not happening straight away, then it's just natures way of saying this wasn't the time, I would much rather have a healthy happy baby that took a year, than experience complications after getting pg immediately.

Are you young, fit and healthy? Are your cycles regular? Are you tracking with anything etc? Having regular sex?

If everything is saying normal, then chances are, you're fine, it will happen, and you won't care how long it took once your BFP comes!

The only way to know for sure, unfortunately, is time.

And we all have time :-)
Even if we don't like it!

@katbecool haha 😂 swing it the wrong way. Yeah my best friend was the same, 7 months first time, fell pregnant second time after having sex once in the month when drunk, she just thought she’d come off her pill and start soon as would take ages, she was wrong lol 🙈 x

@Delilah7 well you're not losing anything by dtd-ing, your poor noonie though 😂

@sunshine1987 oh no, statically it's not easy most of them. The circle of people I know just happen to swing it the wrong way haha. I know a couple who got pregnant with their first after trying literally once. Took them 8 months to conceive the second. The norm is absolutely not "one and done".

@Delilah7 oh and temping actually gives you some peace. Don't see it as an extra measure because you haven't gotten pregnant yet , it's super helpful to temp.

@katbecool of course and there will be lots that do, I’m just trying to find the positive of that statistically it isn’t right first time for most x

@sunshine1987 while you're totally right, I know far too many people who fell pregnant either immediately or without trying, or by accident.

So true @sunshine1987 thank god your on here to keep us positive!

@Crossfitgirl if it's still flashing, you didn't miss it, it'd go to low if you did. The surge dies pretty quick.

@Delilah7 I had ewcm two days after the ovulation this month. Made hubby to DTD at least once. I was confused too, did some research, apparently it's normal. Your last test is negative, it's rare that it's completely white, so light pink is normal for a negative. Give your noonie some rest 🙂

Plus I’ve said it before but this space on the internet is so helpful in so many ways but also not as you see people fall pregnant daily but in real life you aren’t aware of that at all

Girls remember though that you only ever hear the negatives, how many people do you know who fell pregnant within 6 months/easily/no issues etc. If you focus on that number that well outweighs the bad stories you here of so and so’s friend. Sorry I know I’m being blunt and it’s difficult to get out that head space but we’ve gotta keep with the positives 😘

I know, I spoke to somebody today who had given up hope as she had a failed IVF and couldn't afford any further treatment. 10 years it took her naturally to conceive.
I really don't wish to sound insensitive to those who have been trying longer, it is purely the not knowing....I wish I had a crystal ball for us all 🔮 @cupcakesandglitter

@MrsC87 nope I completely get it - I'm happy to talk about it whenever too if you need to get it off your chest. DH told me a lady at work told him it took her three years to get pregnant with her first. I cried. On one hand if it takes three years that gives us time to save more and do more work on the house but also THREE PISSING YEARS?! Had I had known it would take long I would've started trying a long time ago, I'm ready now 😭

I think the worse thing is being told to relax and knowing deep down that really we should but it's the not knowing if it's even possible when it's your first.
@cupcakesandglitter it's comforting to know I'm not alone and can talk on here. I'm trying to act so cool around dh but inside I'm a worrier! x

@MrsC87 I'm exactly the same :( it's so hard staying positive. I'm more chilled out this month (not letting myself POAS or symptom spot) but I still get anxiety when I think about how long it'll take (if it happens at all). Sorry I can't help sweet 😩💕 x

Thanks @FlapJackered
Can anyone help me with shaking this feeling of negativity that it's not going to happen or take years for us... l have tried to remaining relaxed but feel like a nutter this cycle 😫

@delilah7 either your body geared up to ovulate and it didn’t happen and is trying again or before wasn’t a positive and you might be entering it now? Would test again later and see if it gets darker. The CM suggests you’re still fertile. Must be so frustrating 😔 x

Oh jeez @Delilah7 poor you, that is confusing isn't it! I think it looks like your body is a bit unsettled after the mc so opks may not be very helpful as it looks like you may have multiple surges. You could start temping and that will at least tell you when you ovulate, so you know when you can stop Dtd constantly!