TTC First Baby Massive Thread.

@delilah7 exactly I do not! Can't ignore him though... I need his willy!
@GDOG35 I know... do wonder sometimes why I married him! Such pettiness!
@katbecool "Now I get to decide when we have sex and he doesn't get to refuse " love it! How do you enforce this? We did once get into an argument years ago when I actually had a low sex drive and he was pissed off I wouldn't put out, I was so mad and to prove him wrong I stormed over and commanded him to take his pants off, when he wouldn't I pushed him over and ripped them off (I was still really pissed off and wanted him to feel like I was making him do something he didn't want to to prove a point) ended up being really good sex!!
@poodlepip the joys of long term relationships, it amuses me the stupid things we argue about! I know what you mean though it's hard not to be disappointed if it's an opportunity missed. Especially after the nice mother stuff he said about me last night!

@cupcakesandglitter thank you, that does make me feel very less alone, men don't cope with things as well as us women do and you're right it's so important to keep talking.
And it's definitely a man thing, they do need a push to do something about the things they aren't happy with - I sometimes wonder how he would get through life if I wasn't here to shimmy him along!

Also your chart- at first glance I could swear you've ovulated twice!! Lol i would take out the anomalies like someone else said. Lots of things can affect the temp.

@fivexfive haha that made me chuckle! Is he squeamish about AF? Poor lad... doesn't know what he's missing does he @delilah7?? 😂
They do get down in the dumps our men don't they, I think a lot of traditional values are still at play, they are such sensitive souls but don't want to admit it.

@flapjackered we have sorted it out now, but still not DTD, he tickled me earlier and smacked my bum but when I kissed him and put my hand on his leg he just briefly kissed me and pulled away, got matching underwear on (special times) and everything but just get the impression he's not interested today. Don't want to be rejected so....

Not sure what else to do!

Waste of EWCM but oh well.

@FlapJackered thought my boobs hurt less, then I squeezed one and yelped. They're kinda hurting far longer this time. Never had it happen. Got a headache yesterday too. Then today SIL announced she's ten weeks pregnant. They tried once and she got pregnant, basically not even trying.

Congrats on all the BFPs.

@FivexFive oh god yes! We could really do with extra money and it would take a lot of pressure me, but if I push DH to get a new job I know I'd feel like crap if he hated it! X

@FivexFive 'like tapping a ketchup bottle!' 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

@KatBeCool feeling just pms symptoms and very grumpy today DH daren't speak!
How are you? Any itching to test yet?

@FivexFive sorry about the bfn lovely, but there is still time!

@Crossfitgirl I am so sorry hun, men can be so rubbish and they don't admit when they are not happy about something. Is there anything you can do to snap him out of it?
It's so frustrating when they complain about one thing when they don't do half as much in the way of chores!
I hope you have managed to sort it out and he is keen to get back on Dtd!

@cupcakesandglitter I have had charts like that, it's so frustrating isn't it. Hopefully it will form a more visible pattern soon.

Crossfitgirl, I hope you have a nice curry with him tonight, maybe that will chill him out and you can dtd when you get home?

Cupcakesandglitter, my dh has stages like that. Like you, I earn more and he's not fully happy at work, but never makes a real push to change. I always think it's up to him, if I push and he hates a new job more, worried he'd think he made an error because of me?!

On the topic of sex.... I made a comment to dh this morning that af could still be around the corner and he looked dismayed. Partly because it means I'm probably out this cycle. But also because he doesn't like to dtd if we think I could come on at any time.... He says (and I quote) 'it's risky though, like tapping a ketchup bottle' ...WTF?!!! Men :)

@cupcakesandglitter Hmm if I use my science brain I think if you ignored the outliers like 5th and 13th it fits with ovulating sometime around the 8th!

Guys anyone have any idea about wtf is going on 😩 I literally have zero idea what my body is doing

@Crossfitgirl nope it's not just you Hun! I work away from home a few days a week (sometimes the full week) and I travel around the UK quite a bit too so I'm always super tired after the drive too. Because of this I get to work from home for a day or two in the week. DH will do NOTHING when I'm away, but when I bring it up he says I could've done it when I'm wfh. He doesn't understand that if he says he'll do something, and then doesn't do it, it's not my job to do it for him 😂

So, what I did was picked a day on the weekend where we didn't have plans, I didn't let us make any plans, and I literally forced us both to to make time to sort the house together. It actually got done 😂

But also, and I'm sorry this is so long, my DH is going through a rough time and I didn't know it was as bad as it is, he's generally feeling quite low, doesn't like his job, wants to provide for me (I earn more) and wants to be able to support me fully when I'm pg and the baby is here. He's really stressed out and so any little thing really has blown up into something massive. Also I find DH can moan about things sometimes, but then needs to be pushed to actually do something about it. I think it's a man thing 😂

I can completely relate - maybe try force some time for the both of you to sort the chores out but also make time to properly talk and have it all out. If DH gets frustrated easily then go somewhere public like a coffee shop etc where he can't start shouting etc? It's like someone said below (sorry but this point I can't remember who it was) but we married them for a reason, and they did with us. Especially when TTC it's soooooo much pressure on both us and DH, so it's one time you both need to be completely solid and communicating properly about everything.

Again, sorry this is so long, just don't want you to feel like you're alone xxx

@Crossfitgirl aw I really sympathise. I don't have sperm on tap. my OH is just like that- always grumpy in the FW.

I was feeling pants last night and we had an hour long argument about how I close the back door loudly - how dull!!

I think it will just be a timing thing when it happens to be both in the right frame of mind but I find it really hard to suppress my disappointment at missed opportunities. Sorry you are having a rough time with it

@Crossfitgirl i was actually going to ask if your husband might be clueless about you being fertile only a few days a month. Most men are, they have no idea how it all works. I mean, even when they get tested, all they do is deposit a sample in a cup. And we gotta endure some tests that can be extremely painful, not to add the labor pains. Unless we educate them they won't ever know. Glad you set him straight. I had to explain things to mine too. Now I get to say when we have sex and he doesn't get to refuse.

@crossfitgirl he needs to take a chill pill, it’s only cleaning for god sake. More important things in life to think of & do. My husband turns things into a major issue for no reason sometimes. I say to him we’ve been through so much shit in the pass & your making a big deal out of something so tiny it shouldn’t make u think twice!
We married them for some reason 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔😆

Thanks @delilah7.
He actually said something really sweet whilst being a twit, the friends we went to see have an 8 week old and have just asked us to be godparents, so I was holding the baby and rocking him to sleep.
He said he saw me with the baby and pictured that is how I would be with OUR baby and he loved it!
....But then went on to say he worries how on earth can I pick up after a baby when I can't even pick up after myself 🤬🤬🤬
So kinda ruined it!!
Lol.

I could kill him sometimes!!!

GD0G35 now we've had it out, he's suggested we go for tea tonight and get a curry. Haha I know what you mean about thinking we can get pregnant any time of month. Even after I explained it! Last month he refused in my FW then we talked about me getting pregnant and I was like... Well I wont be cos we didnt have sex in the FW... and he was like... yeah we did didn't we? I was like... No!!! Bloody told you there's like 4 or 5 days a month and we didn't hit the window! We DTD 4 days before ov!
And he was like.... oh.
🙄🙄🙄🙄

@ranchorelaxo I haven't told him it is, because of what happened when I told him last time.
@delilah7 hopefully we can DTD tonight. He's moody cos housework etc hadn't been done while he's been away. Just had it out with him and told him straight. He never appreciated the things I do and always notices the one thing I haven't done. He's spent the whole morning doing chores and he was all moody about it cos he says he's been away all week and doesn't wanna have to come home and do stuff when I've been home and could have done it.
Fair enough, but. I have been bloody busy doing other things!
Adulthood is so much fun.

@Crossfitgirl oh hun feel for you. My husband gets in mood with me as he says I’ve taken the fun out of having sex now, so I’m trying to be abit more spontaneous at it. But it’s the same every month I tell him how it all works & he still thinks we can get pregnant any day of the month!! I had to give him a one to one teaching session on it he still doesn’t get it. Can you talk to him? Go out for a nice lunch together or something today?? Do something you both enjoy, you need to stay contected to each other 💙💕

@Crossfitgirl do you think he could be feeling the pressure of it being your fw? Men show these things in strange ways, very frustrating though!

Morning ladies!
Still on the flashing smileys 😫
DH came home last night, he said let's make a baby later, we went out for tea with friends and as we didn't get back til about 11pm we were too tired and went straight to bed.

Now for some reason DH is in a mood this morning. I can't tell why, and he hasn't said he is, but I can just tell. He's snappy and grumpy.

Got a load of EWCM on wiping this morning. Ov is round the corner.

I hate my life :-(

Why does my DH seem to be more difficult than everyone else's, and why is he always fucking moody when it's fertile week?

I feel awful as last month he fucked it up and wouldn't sleep with me on the 2 most important days even after I told him it was my FW.

Now I feel like i have no chance today, and I'm certain it's the right time as I'm feeling quite horny too!

Help, I need advice. Don't want to pester him about what's up as it usually just leads to him getting more annoyed/ argument, whatever the problem may be, but also want to have sex. I just feel like it's ruined as I don't feel like having sex with him when he's like this anyway!

Please tell me Any of you can relate and it's not just my shit life and relationship:-(

@sunshine1987 I totally agree hun life was simpler all be worth it in the end for all of us hate having all these period symptoms always say it’s teasing me

@delilah7 would love it to be but I had the same last month and was AF coming. So think although it’s earlier than last month it’s happening I just wonder if it’s the same. Bloody bodies, life was simpler not trying lol xx

@Delilah7 I can’t wait, he’s that man where even if he looked at a woman she would get pregnant will be an experience but it’s going to rain though which is annoying! Your like me just want it to come then start a brand new cycle but if I get my period I’ve got to get booods taken 2-5 days of my cycle to check everything. Oh the joys!!!