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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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The Hut of Gl/doom part IV- it's still never going to happen- but ^in^ ^style^, yes

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duchesse · 08/06/2007 08:18

After all that desert sand, we are in serious need of slightly damper place...

This one is a hamam, complete with essential oils and thick Turkish towelling bath sheets. Mosaics on the floors, marble pools. You get the picture. It still needs some decorating though.

We have had a few graduates (OK, quite a few), which is good, but time to dust off the old Hut for those of us who are still barren.

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duchesse · 30/07/2007 17:12

Ladies, could I ask that we keep the Hut for moaning and low key not chirpy support only? That is what it was set up for- as a forum for the pissed off. It is not for swapping garden fertility info. There are plenty other threads for that.

Links to aggression- and piss-offedness reducing sites at appropriate times.

There are also far too many smiley smilies in here. If you even feel like using a smiley, this may not be right place for you.

I have spoken, not quite from beyond the grave, but heed me, or I shut the hut and we move on. I do feel the hut has a place, and it has helped quite a few of us over the months, but only when properly managed, and I'm managing now.

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bobbydazzler · 30/07/2007 17:06

sorry, should have said you are young in any terms, not just conception ones!

it is really difficult to feel like you can challenge them as well cos you are not paying for the service and just feel like a number.

I wish now I had kicked up a stink when my gp would not do any tests after i had been ttc for 6 months. I just accepted it then.

bobbydazzler · 30/07/2007 16:37

so sorry again Lizzie, that is utterly terrible, you would not get away with it in any other job but that is the good old NHS for you. Don't know your background but think you already feel that you have had really bad service.

If there is any plus point at all, it is that you are still fairly young in conception terms so can afford such delays as opposed to those of us who are well into our thirties who can't.

lissie · 30/07/2007 16:24

im fucking pissed off! rang up the docs office today to ask if i needed to bring a sample and they havent had dh's porn pot results back so our appt for today has been cancelled. the doc is off for 4w in sept so our appt is now on the 8th oct. 10 fucking weeks away! dont know whether to laugh or cry!

bobbydazzler · 30/07/2007 14:04

sorry meant to say as well hope you keep getting bfp's rainbowdays, sounds positive! tentative good wishes to you.

bobbydazzler · 30/07/2007 14:03

Hi

diet going well so far Rainbowdays

thanks for encouraging story Dizzy

the fact that the HSG seems to sometimes help people get pregnant by clearing tubes should make me want to go for it and will hopefully get fitted in for next month assuming my day 3 bloods come back ok

good luck with your hsg next week Ms Lucy

sorry you are lizzie

I can't imagine what your situation must be like of getting pregnant but not keeping them, so so so much worse i think than mine of FTC each month ...sorry that won't be cheering you up, not sure what else to say

mslucy · 30/07/2007 12:56

always good to let go.

had more blood tests done today - then hsg next wed.

was having a good old whinge to a friend today who has 2 with a 12 month gap (not jealous of her despite longings for no 2)

she described it as "mother nature teasing you"

which is probably true. made me feel less depressed than I did by the nurse telling me to think positive - like what good will that do?

I suppose they have to say something

Dizzymummy · 29/07/2007 22:22

hi again, I had this done on NHS but I didn't have to wait long for the salpingogram, I had roughly a 6 month wait for the laparoscopy.

I was also sick and tired of only baby comments, I felt like putting a big sign over me saying "I'm trying!!"

We gave away all our stuff (there is a 6 yr gap between dcs) 2 weeks after giving away the last of the baby stuff - cot & car seat-I found out that I was pregnant! ( I'd hung onto all the stuff for years in the vain hope that I'd need them again but finally decided it was time to let go)

Hopingforbabyno2 · 29/07/2007 16:23

Thanks Dizzymummy, that helps Did you go on NHS? Did you have to wait long? We're seeing consultant privately but can't afford to have any tests done so will be referred back to NHS.

I really hope they find a blockage as then I will have hope that we will be pregnant again soon.

What is the age gap between your 2 as I worry that as the gap gets bigger DD1 will resent a second child

mslucy · 29/07/2007 09:16

not gone yet!

interesting to read about blocked tubes after c-section.

I have to have an hsg when they have a slot free - will be interesting to see if that is the cause.

they couldn't see any scarring on my womb when
they gave it an ultrasound scan so I'll be interested to see if this reveals anything untoward.

glad to hear you 2 both had a second child eventually - really bored of "only child" comments.

having said said that, I gave my crib away yesterday - had been saving it for number 2. I felt it was good to let go.

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Hopingforbabyno2 · 28/07/2007 21:14

Hi,
I'm new to this so please bear with me.

Looking for help / anyone who's been in my situation

I have a DD who is 3. She was born by C Section and I lost 4 units of blood.

Have been TTC baby no 2 for just over 2 years with no success.

My temp charts suggest that I ovulate and DH has had sperm test which was fine. Have had Day 21 progesterone tests too - all showed I ovulated.

Am seeing a specialist on Weds.

Each month from around the date I ovulate I get bad period pains which ease off when AF actually arrives?! My periods are also a lot lighter than before i had DD1. From what I've read on internet it seems I could have blooked tubes (can be caused by scar tissue as I lost a lot of blood in C Section).

Does anyone have any experience of this? Or know what symptoms of blocked tubes are?

Any help would be much appreciated

Rainbowdays · 28/07/2007 20:00

Hi all huttee's

Duchesse - good to hear that you have had a less-stress month this time.

Lissie - I hope that the clomid does the trick for you, even if they are clutching at straws.

MsLucy - sorry to hear that af arrived for you, hope that taking a break from here helps you.

Babybratt - sorry to hear that you are struggling at the moment. It feels so unfair.

bobbydazzler - hope that the diet works for you!

Scorpio - hows the potty training going!

Well the reason I am here is because I do not know where I should be right now.... Two days ago I got a faint bfp , then yesterday I got a bfn , today I got other faint bfp . OK so after last cycles m/c I am a little nervous and testing before I should as af is not due til tomorrow, so who knows what will happen in the next week?

mslucy · 28/07/2007 11:03

well af came in the night so its back to square one.

I don't think I'll be leaving the hut for a very long time.

god you ladies sound like you're having a shit time - sorry to hear that.

Yes, everyone I know is bloody pg - oh well.

I've sort of got to past caring stage - beyond depression, frustration etc.

But I then I do have ds - otherwise I would be even more of a
raving nut job than I am already.

BabyBratt · 28/07/2007 10:06

I know there are loads of you who have been trying longer than me or have suffer alot more than I have. Its my 9th cycle and I am sick to the back teeth of two week waits and pg friends showing me scan pictures I have seen 4 this week alone. We all go married around the same time and I am the only one not pg!!! they all ttc around 1 to 3 months!!!! A friend text me a picture of her scan and I sat and cried. Even blasted Violet and that emmerdale woman are pg (i know its not RL but seriously!)

I just want one baby, I have become that obsessed that Thursday my DH's friend passed away and I had a positive OPK he did not feel like BDing (I can't blame him) I got really pissed off. I've also been ill this month so Bding has not happened that often really. I cannot believe that I have let myself get this bad.

My doctor does not seem to care!!!!!!!!!

lissie · 28/07/2007 09:38

im not surprised! i dont know how you cope.

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duchesse · 28/07/2007 09:31

Quite calm this month. I know there's not a chance I am pregnant and it's strangely stilling. I needed a break.

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lissie · 28/07/2007 09:29

i know. think that since my ep ive been ovulating erratically. 1 month early, another late.... tbh i think they're clutching at straws a bit now!
anyway, how are you?

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duchesse · 27/07/2007 23:57

But Clomid is to make you ovulate more, no? I didn't think you had any trouble in the ovulation bit? More in the steering them to a safe berth department?

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lissie · 27/07/2007 23:52

we go back to the specialist on monday and i'll be starting clomid then.

lissie · 27/07/2007 23:48

oh yes, all you have to do is not think about ttc.

she's vile!

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duchesse · 27/07/2007 23:48

And god, by 33 you'd think she'd either a) know where babies came from or b) be in a position to take responsibility for any that occurred. Having two babies in 11 months isn't the worst thing ever to happen to anyone. In fact it might be rather brill to get over the early babyhood not sleeping thing quicker.

but

Having said that, her decisions are not mine, and they certainly do not assist you in your struggles. Have you had any success with approaching the hospital re IVF at their expense? Is that what you want to do? Don't answer if you don't want to.

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duchesse · 27/07/2007 23:45

and smug with it. Only her way the right way, eh?

Sounds like my third sister, who is utterly unbearable at the moment.

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lissie · 27/07/2007 23:40

nope. total moron.

shes 33 (4y older than me) and thinks that i need to relax and look at my diet

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duchesse · 27/07/2007 23:37

Jeesus H, that's enough to send anyone into a bit of a spin! What a very silly girl. Does she actually have a brain at all? (sorry)

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