[insert imaginative thread title here] - sanity for those waiting to TTC (part 3)

@WildFlower2018 I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. It does put my reasons for waiting and my impatience into perspective. Anyway, welcome to the thread - I really hope you get good news in November.

Thank you for the messages and the welcomes - I didn't want to bring the mood of the thread down with my story, just wanted to explain why we are waiting! 🙂Everyone's situations are different and we're all in the same boat, all waiting to TTC, whatever the reason! 💜💜

@WildFlower2018 I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through. It does put my reasons for waiting and my impatience into perspective. Anyway, welcome to the thread. I really hope you get good news in November.

Oh @WildFlower2018, just want to say I'm so sorry for what you've been through, how unfair and horrible.
Hoping you only good luck from now on, and welcome to the thread!

Hello, I'm hoping I'm in the right place 👋

I was pregnant with my first baby earlier this year, but sadly at our 12w scan (in August) we were told our baby hadn't developed properly and had a condition that was incompatible with life. We had the option to terminate or let nature take its course in utero. We decided the first option was kinder.

We're now waiting for test results before we can TTC again. There's a very very tiny chance we have each passed on a gene to cause this condition, and would have a 1 in 4 chance of it happening again. HOWEVER, we're not worried because it's more likely to have been the result of a fluke "error" in how the baby formed. We know this because the genetic problem is far far far more typical in girls where as the majority of times, the "fluke" happens in boys. (It's all to do with kidneys and bladders forming).

The doctors have made us wait 12w to discuss the post mortem and get the results through, which is pretty agonising. We'll be going on the 16th of Nov, so next month. Mind you, I'm yet to have a period, so we'd have had to wait anyway. But it's still annoying.

Thanks to anybody who read this far!

Info:

Age: 33

TTC in either late Nov or from Dec onwards assuming my cycles are back to normal by then.

I live in Yorkshire

@AlwaysaNortherner we went to Amsterdam at the beginning of September and it was great! Loads to see and do, the canals are really pretty and the food/drink was all excellent. Don’t worry about the sleazy reputation, that’s only a very small part of it lol. Would highly recommend the Van Gogh museum if you like art, was very interesting.

Ah @Jelliestogether 32 days is good then! I've had the opposite problem, since I came off the pill in June my cycles have been quite short. The shortest was 21 days and I was like really, already?!

I guess there's never a perfect time but we all have sensible reasons for waiting. Having nice things to look forward to in the mean time is good! We might go away somewhere for a few days at New Year, anyone got any good European city break ideas?

Oooh I'm liking the idea of counting down periods instead of saying waiting X amount of months! Doesn't sound as long that way.
Had a talk with OH this week and decided as we have booked a day at Aintree races in April we will wait until after that and assess the situation RE: me hopefully having a new job by then! Just need to be impatient as ever until then!

Is there ever a "right time" though?

Thanks @pumkinsmum18 @alwaysanortherner

Yup nothing like it all happening all at once!

@alwaysanortherner we are looking to start in the new year too! My cycle is all over the place so hopefully only 2 or 3 to go! Currently having an unusual AF right now so who knows! Although I was excited that the cycle was only 32 days instead of the 40+ it's been for the past few cycles!

@Jelliestogether congratulations! That's so exciting, so many things happening all at once for you! I've just joined this thread, had a big chat with my DH about ttc and as a result we have decided to go for it in January, but now I'm really impatient for that to come round. Got my period yesterday and am definitely excited that that brings me one cycle closer!

@Jelliestogether congratulations on your engagement! 😁❤️

@PastaSauceHoarder no worries hun 🙂 hoping you catch that sticky bean soon! X

Just wanted to come back and catch up with the thread...sorry I've been so quiet for so long had lots going on at home.

If some of you remember I was just about to go on holiday....which we did and got engaged! So now we are back home trying to get into wedding planning, finishing the house and planning to ttc...nothing like all at once!
After he proposed I did have to check he didn't want to delay ttc 😂

Hi to all the new people on the thread.
Just to recap my stats:
Both 27, waiting til christmas/New year. Mainly waiting to sort some finances out, possibly go for a job promotion and to finish some of the house diy.
Finished the pill a year ago, periods still all over the place.
Have stopped using condoms and now just going with the pull out method

Hahah, well it certainly sounds beneficial then @rollerskaterdata!! 😂 I've told DH that he needs to be up for DTD twice a day every day for my fertile week so I'll definitely be feeling sore after all that! 😫😂
I'll go ahead and pick some up then for next month, thanks so much for your help! 💛

@PastaSauceHoarder I used to get loads every month but of course when we started TTC I wasn't getting any 🙄 I would deffo recommend preseed then if you don't have much, it's a great substitute xx

@cupcakesandglitter 😂 oh cool! I googled it soooo much and heard so many success stories of women using it and getting pregnant first cycle using it I couldn't resist! Plus I really wasn't getting any EWCM when we were trying and having so much sex when dry was quite difficult (deffo TMI!) I felt I owed it to my lady parts at the very least 🤣

Oh my gosh @PumpkinsMum18, yeah, thats a lot of birthdays. 😂 That must get so expensive, I don't blame you really!!

Oh @cupcakesandglitter, how confusing for you!! It shouldn't be so bloody difficult, should it? 🙄 Fingers and toes crossed for your next cycle, de-stressing is definitely good for your fertility, right? Though of course I know thats easier said than done!

Ahh thats exactly what I like to hear, @rollerskaterdata! It seems to have fab reviews when I google it, so I think I'll definitely get myself some.
Also I think I'm the same, I've been tracking for a few months now and I don't seem to be finding a lot of EWCM...

Ooh @rollerskaterdata I think it was you that made me look into it in the first place 😂😂 xx

@PastaSauceHoarder forgot to add it's a sperm friendly lube (other normal lubes kill sperm) and provides the perfect environment for them to swim and keep them alive. If you insert it close to your cervix before DTD then they have a really good chance of getting past your cervix and into your uterus quickly and easily

@cupcakesandglitter I'm ok thanks hun, it's good to hear from everyone on this post again! I hope you manage to catch that eggy next month x

@PastaSauceHoarder just noticed you were asking about preseed, I'm an advocate for preseed 100% as I got pregnant first cycle using it! (that and digital OPKs). It was our second cycle trying and the month before we DTD at all the right times and nada. It's a bit pricey but I think worth it, plus is a really nice lube anyway, especially if you're a bit dry like I was with barely any EWCM to speak of! (sorry TMI! 😳)x

@PastaSauceHoarder from what I know about Preseed, you can sringe it in beforehand and basically it's easier for the sperm to swim to!

Urgh tell me about it!! So I'm temping and using OPKs but I'm going to be taking a step back - my routine is too crazy to temp accurately (plus I barely sleep) but I did get a positive OPK last month. First cycle we were both super focused and pressured I think because we want it so badly, so my cycle was only 24 days :( and then this cycle we were taking it easier but AF came at CD39 I think, and finished today which has made it a three/four day period where I wouldn't even need one pad a day, it's so light. (Completely the opposite to usual) I also had so many signs I was pg, even went to hospital because of pains I was having.

It's been a crazy crazy ride so far 😂😂 next cycle I'm going to stop temping, OPKs or logging anything. Just going to take it as it comes and enjoy it I think (sorry for the long post) xx

@PastaSauceHoarder we are waiting til end of January. Mainly so I can qualify for better mat leave pay and also to avoid the mass family birthday zone!

My husband, his sister, his dad, our niece, our nephew and my sister all have birthdays in September/October so trying to avoid a due date in these months! It’s getting too crowded 🤣

And thank you, @rollerskaterdata!! 💛 It feels so surreal that we're actually going to try for another baby soon!

Ahh I was afraid of that, @cupcakesandglitter! 😔 I'm terrified that I'm going to put way too much pressure on myself but I can't help it - I want to be pregnant again sooo badly!!
I just want to feel like I'm doing everything I possibly can. I've been looking into preseed lubricant actually but I'm still not 100% sure what it does. 🤔
Glad to hear you're well though! 💛 Are you full on TTC with OPK's and temping and all that jazz or just going unprotected and seeing how things go? Either way I'm wishing you a bucket full of baby dust!

Yes @rollerskaterdata I'm okay thanks 😊😊 are you? Xx