[insert imaginative thread title here] - sanity for those waiting to TTC (part 3)

Thanks @pastasaucehoarder. Not good is it really!!

Im not jealous...or maybe I am? First thing I thought was she's not been married 5 minutes! 2 and a half years here!!!

Welcome back @McHelenz, glad you had a lovely trip!

Jesus some people! Imagine getting a reply like that on the Mental Health forum. Sorry that you had to deal with that, people can just be so stupid.

So how is everyone today? Did anyone else get a wee stab of jealously when they heard that Meghan Markle is pregnant or just me?

Yea I think I made the right choice joining this group. I think I'll just stick here.

January will be here so quick!

I'm sorry to hear that @McHelenz. Even if you had nothing else going on of course you're allowed to be upset about your dad 5 years on, and it sounds like you have other stuff you're dealing with too. I'm sorry someone was so insensitive, particularly on the mental health board.

I've just joined this group (probably while you were on holiday!) Waiting until January

Im ok now. Basically my dad died 5 years ago and it was a big trigger for my already fragile head. The first comment I got was "why are you still upset about it after all this time, my dad died when I was 24 and I got over it, 6 months tops".

I just want to get over this sex thing, Im 30, this shouldn't be happening. Its just embarrassing to talk about.

@McHelenz so sorry you didn’t get the help you needed on the other forum hope you aren’t too upset. We are here for you if you need, no judgement ❤️

Thanks @Tropicana1 It was lovely. Seems like so long ago now though! Especially in the rain!!!

Still struggling with my emotions but I'm getting stuck into CBT and hoping that I get some sort of sex drive back. I braved posting on the mental health forum on here and got a less than helpful reply which upset me earlier in the week so think im just going to stay here.

So im now waiting until April (or 6 periods!) :)

Welcome back @McHelenz
Hope the holiday was relaxing :) Remind me when you are starting TTC again? How long is the countdown!

Good to hear positive stories of the copper coil as you often just hear negatives about bleeding and bad periods etc! I Think I'd like to use the copper coil after having a baby so no hormones etc!

Hey everyone, back from holiday and now officially on a countdown!

Oh also @PastaSauceHoarder 45 days to go, that's so exciting! I love that you have a countdown app lol.

@PastaSauceHoarder I'd like to paint my spare room white with a hint of pink, just because I think it would look nice and would warm up the room, but then I thought what if we end up having a boy and that's his bedroom! May just hold off on the painting altogether for now...

That's interesting to know about the copper coil. I might look into that when the time comes. My periods have been a bit more painful since coming off the pill but nothing unbearable as long as I remember to take ibuprofen.

Yes another copper coil saleswoman @PastaSauceHoarder 😂
@AlwaysaNorthener I find my periods are a bit longer on it than they were before. I think some people have heavier periods / worse cramps but I’ve always had bad ones so no difference for me at all really in that respect.
I told my OH he needs a vasectomy after we have our children 😂 he is NOT keen haha, but my argument is I’ve done all the contraception up till now, once we’re done he should take it up. Plus they’re reversible! Thankfully I’ve got a good few years to get him on board with my plan 😉

I'm with @Tropicana1 on the copper coil, I've been talking it up whenever I've had the opportunity to anyone who will listen. 😂

It really is good @AlwaysaNortherner, I do recommend it. I only had mine in for ten months or so soon after my daughter was born but I had no issues with it - it was great not to have to think about remembering to take pills or change patches and all that jazz. As far as I'm aware theres no downsides or side effects - its non-hormonal so it didn't interfere with my breastfeeding either which was the biggest selling point for me!

Ahh I know what you mean about the spare room! Ours is a junk room at the mo but we were sorting through it over the weekend. I was mentally painting the walls and deciding where to put the new crib too!

Its now about 45 days until we start TTC - I have a countdown app on my phone. 😂

@Tropicana1 that's good that you've got on so well with the copper coil though! Are there any downsides to having it?

I said to my DH the other day how pleased I was that I came off the pill and he said I should never go back on it, I was thinking you say that now, but realistically, we only want to have 1 or 2 children...

How is everyone doing? We just ordered a new bed for our spare room and I was mentally planning where you could fit a cot in! I didn't say that to DH though as I think I've been dropping enough hints recently and to be fair he's totally on board, we're waiting because of my job not his.

Also @dottiedally I am also tracking every twinge and EWCM etc religiously so I know where I’m at when we start. Not at all obsessed or anything :/

@dottiedally yea not having it out until we’re good to go - I have the copper coil not the hormonal one, so my hormones and cycles as they are now shouldn’t be at all influenced by it and you can get pregnant literally from the day it’s taken out.
I chose it specifically because I was so done with hormonal contraception and the way it messed with my body and mind! Supposedly copper is such an effective spermicide that the copper coil is a more affective emergency contraceptive than the morning after pill!
Just realised I sound like I’m some copper coil rep or something haha 😂 I’ll stop now

@rachael321 and @wildflower18 sorry to hear about your losses

@rachael321 I know what you mean about feeling like everyone else is pregnant! It can be hard but it'll be totally worth the wait when it's your turn. I just keep telling myself the reasons why we are waiting!

Saying that we are being less careful the closer we get to when we said we would wait til.

Has anyone had this cycle was only 32 days....previous have been in the 40s on average, but this period was very strange and never had one like it! So I don't know what's going on, it was very light - only spots of red but mostly brown (sorry tmi!)

The waiting is so hard!!
Feel like every second person I see is pregnant or has a little one with them and I can't help but feel jealous. Had a few babies in my work at the weekend which is really unusual which didn't help matters either.

Talked more with OH about waiting.... and we still don't know. The option at the top of the list just now is to not be careful and just see what happens. No set plans etc and if it happens then great, we will take it from there. And then try properly from April like we had already "decided"

I think the thing that's getting to me is the fact that had I not had the MC in August then I would still be pregnant and we were over the moon with it.... so why now wait?

Gah I don’t seem to be getting notifications for the thread - how annoying!
@wildflower2018 so sorry for your 12 week loss, how awful for you. Hopefully you start cycling again by next month.
@dottiedally I like the idea of them to be eco friendly and not feel so wasteful but I don’t know if the reality of that much dirty washing all the time would actually be unbearable or not!
Only 4 more periods now until I get my coil taken out 😂😉

I've not used them before @dottydally, but honestly I don't think I would've managed with reusables when my little one was a newborn. The amount of nappies that they go through is insane, I would've had to have the washer and dryer on 24/7! Though obviously some people do manage so I guess its just down to you really.
I think now that my daughter is a toddler and not having as many mucky nappies then it would probably be easy enough.

Oh sorry - random double posting there!