TTC first baby... mega thread!

@Delilah7 I'd start day 7 to. I worked out I think I ovulate a lot earlier than I though. Mine seemed to be day 8 or 9. My body told me day 8 was the start and then I tested day 8 and 9 and they were slightly positive and then negative so I must ovulate early. I'm confused with it all

@Patapouf I'd say you're defo I'm with a good shot hun! For sure. And thank you think that's a good idea xx

@Crossfitgirl we did it on the 5th day before so your in with more of a chance than me! We don't do it enough, I'm shocked at all these people that manage every other day! Something always ends up in the way ;( when is AF due?

I only DTD twice in my fertile window and got pregnant still! Once at 4 days before OV and once the day after OV day so I don't even know if that time counts!

Don't worry @Crossfitgirl, you still have a chance

delilah I would probably start using OPKS from CD7.

@MrsC87 we managed to DTD ON CD 8, 10, 13,14,15. Ovulated on day 15. SMEP means we should have DTD on CD12 and 17 as well.

I’ve sort of my resigned myself to it not happening this month. I’m trying not to get my hopes up because I don’t want to feel as totally crushed as I didn’t when AF arrived on Cycle one and two.

I’m travelling to a developing country next month that has sub par healthcare so it might be for the best if TTC doesn’t work this cycle. I’m so terrified of a MC or something else going wrong that I know I’d want to be home if it did.

hi guys - hope you're all ok took any of time this morning to relax and not post.
periods been getting back to a managable state. when do you think I should do my OPKS?! SMEP says cycle day 10 but I'm wondering if I actually ovulate a lot earlier... x

How did you get on @Patapouf?
It's hard going, life and tiredness definitely get in the way!
And it's so hard to remain relaxed throughout the whole process! Looking at holidays for next year as a distraction.

mrsc try not to beat yourself up about it. SMEP didn’t exactly go to plan for me this month either but there’s still a chance!

@FlapJackered yeah I don't fancy that either ;(

@gjchapman I meant to say that does not sound like fun! I just did a bit of googling and may leave that one for a while! It sounds a bit painful and apparently it comes with some risks too. I am a bit of a wimp with these things.

@FlapJackered I read it goes up your fu so not sure how it works! Does anyone else no better?

@Crossfitgirl I told them we had been trying for just over a year. I have a good doctor and she immediately got the ball rolling on it all. DH also told the doc we had been trying for over a year. She asked me if we were having regular sex at my fertile time and if I was tracking my cycle.

@gjchapman that does sound fun, do they inject the dye in?

Thank you

Technically, yes a man can get tested any time but they will ask why he wants it best thing to say would be that you have been having unprotected sex for 13/14 months and no baby yet. Its a bit of a wait for the sperm analysis test anyway and if you fall pregnant before then well happy days xx 😊

@gjchapman

My nurse was really nice I have seen her before many times so was comfortable talking to her about it. My DH said it was awkward but painless, he said the room was very clinical they had 1 sofa which was covered in plastic you do the deed and just put the contents of the test away and from there someone else deals with it all. You can get the ball rolling asap by getting DH to go for a test first so by the time you see a Dr you already have one set of results.

@ crossfitgirl

I was asked how often we had sex which was every other day. At the time I had an app on my phone so was making sure around ovulation time couple of days before we used to make the most of it. I deleted the app felt like it was taking over my life, sex became a chore. Now I know when I am ovulating, all that sticky mucus that comes our way once a month is a sure sign I am ovulating. I try not to think about falling pregnant now as we know we have issue with low sperm count but it is so difficult and the 2 week wait after it kills me every time.

@FlapJackered I looked on the NHS website and it's when they put dye in your tubes to see if they are blocked. If we aren't successful this time. I'll ask at my smear.

@Amber28 I'm booked In for my smear in a few weeks so I'll ask then to. Yeah the bit in a pot like there and then bit, that's what I'm not sure he'll be okay with! 😬

I had this crossfit, I didn't get my positive with a frer until the day my period was due, did one 4 days before which was negative xxx

@gjchapman when I made the very first appointment we had only been trying for about 4/5 months. I just went with my gut and told the dr it had been a year fast forward a few months still not had all the tests and still not pregnant and I came off the pill in September!! Just don't let them fob you off. I actually went for a smear test got talking to the nurse about it and she also gave me a nudge in the right direction and said I should book an appointment with the dr.

DH will need to do a test, basically needs to uh hum into a pot. Not very nice but has to be done!! Honestly just go to the Dr's don't delay it! Xx