TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

@curlytwirlytwos congratulations, fingers crossed for you. You've probably considered it already but make sure your multivitamin doesn't have vitamin A in it as its not advised in pregnancy. I also took 75mg aspirin this time off my own back. Seems like its ok after BFP as it can sometimes interfere with early implantation but do your own research and see what you're happy doing. Also for people with a history of more than one loss 5mg folic acid is recommended (far above normal recommended dose). The GP can prescribe it.

@hopeful I hope the spotting had calmed down, if its your cervix thats been irritated it may take a while to calm, especially after an internal scan. Got everything crossed for your next scan at 10 weeks. That was the one that had me up a height with anxiety before and crying with relief after.

Take care ladies and feel free to pop into the the pregnancy after loss thread if/when you feel ready! We'd love to see you there!

@CurlyTwirlyTwos @Hopefulforourrainbow I've just been told by the EPAU consultant to take 75mg aspirin if I conceive again too. Seems it's a case of they aren't sure if it will help everyone but it does in some cases, and doesn't appear to have any negative side effects-so if it might help but won't harm then they say give it a try xxx

I'm glad you're feeling better today. Yeah as far as I'm aware it just thins the blood. The consultant at epau recommended I take it even before I had any testing done. I know of a lot of women who have had successful pregnancies taking it so as far as I'm concerned there was no harm in me trying it. That's good you got an appointment. Will keep everything crossed it goes well.

That’s great @hopefulforarainbow - it’ll give you a couple of weeks to rest up and take it easy. It takes a few days to get into the ‘rhythm’ of not doing much, I confess I find hard especially hard at home too, but try your best! I remember saying it might be our turn soon hopeful I hope you are right, it would be lovely to have a 1st trimester buddy.

I’m feeling much better too after getting everything off my chest yesterday. Thank you for reading and responding! I called the EPAU this morning and they are seeing next Monday when I’ll be 6 weeks. I gave my name and I was on the system (no quibbling, questioning or refusal like I had last time when I went through the midwife at 7 weeks).

DH is fine too, we forget sometimes that it’s an emotional rollercoaster for them too. He’s not a talker at the best of times! He’s understandably worried after a chat last night, but surprisingly positive too!

Question: Will aspirin just thins blood? I bought some yesterday, but worried it might do more harm than good! I’m taking a general multivitamin with enough folic acid now, I can’t face looking at a pregnacare bump each day!

Waiting game for me until a heartbeat next week - keep fingers crossed for me!

Congratulations @MissPMA - so lovely to read positive news and RMC ladies getting through it!

How are you feeling today @CurlyTwirlyTwos? I saw the GP this morning. He's told me to rest and has signed me off work until 18th November. I was feeling a bit better earlier because I've been feeling a bit sick today. Sounds crazy to be wanting pregnancy symptoms! Hope the rest of you are doing well.

Fab news @misspma! I can't wait to get to that stage!

I've done very little today. Went to collect prescription and made an appointment with GP for tomorrow. It was last Thursday I had the scan. It went well and there was a strong heartbeat. Have got booking appointment with midwife on Tuesday and next scan is 15th Nov when I should be 10 weeks. Think I'm feeling a bit better this evening. Had a chat with my auntie, I'm further on than I've ever been and each day is a step further in the right direction. I'm trying to not even think of the possibility of another missed mc. Scans with that pregnancy hadn't been good since before 6 weeks though. Ahhh let's just try and be positive together! I remember saying to you months ago we'd prob be trying again at same time and next time would hopefully be our turn!

Goodness, sending you tentative congratulations @curlytwirlytoes, it’s such a conflict of emotions and unfortunately I have no words of wisdom! When I got my bfp I swore a lot at the test and felt nervous telling my husband, we then proceeded to never talk about it other than about bleeding, nausea etc and continued to plan holidays we both hoped wouldn’t happen without acknowledging we might be having a baby at that time. Don’t be embarrassed about EPU, no one will think you’re irresponsible, just someone who is very determined to have a baby.
@hopeful I’m 13+2, I had my scan yesterday and all is looking good 😊we’re not planning on telling anyone for some time yet as we both need to adjust that this is actually happening!

Aww Gawd, I feel like I know ALL the ladies in the EPU now. There is one midwife in particular who felt very sorry for me the last time I was there in August, she couldn’t believe I was back again.

How’s your day been today @hopefulforarainbow? Hope you’ve managed to rest up a little and things have settled down for you. I can’t believe you’ve been pregnant for a month, I’ve has a few days and it’s tough going!

Let us know how Thursday goes....

Oh wow @CurlyTwirlyTwos. Sending a massive hug and lots of love your way. And congratulations! No need to apologise. We're here for you ❤. It is a complete head fuck! My head is still all over the place and I've known I'm pregnant again for almost 4 weeks now! If i were you I'd get to the pharmacy and buy some 75mg aspirin and I would call the EPU and book a scan for when you're around 7 weeks. I felt uneasy about going there again especially when the midwife that took my details said I've met you before as soon as she saw me. They were all lovely though.

I’ve also got an (another) update,
I never expected to be back on the thread
after last week with the news that I’m approx 5 weeks pregnant (again). I’m not feeling great tbh, but I don’t know where else to turn, and I can’t face telling anyone in person yet.

This is totally unplanned - we only dtd 4/5 times the whole month and firmly outside FW. Maybe a couple of days before and a fair few days afterwards. I made sure. I been staring at the preg test this weekend trying to work out why this is happening to me.

I don’t the strength to do this again. I really don’t, my DH and I are not in a great place. I told him yesterday after keeping it to myself for a few days. He was quite impassive and I can tell he’s not happy though he’s not articulated this.

I’m feeling a bit fragile and dogbone tired. I’m not sure whether I’m queasy at the though of yet another mmc or it’s the early pregnancy. I’m certain it’s the former at this stage.

I can’t help but feel pessimistic and miserable about this, as at the moment it feels like a foregone conclusion of what will happen.

I’m sorry to ask for your help again, especially after dropping off the thread - but what (in your opinion) is the best approach to this?

I’m thinking about calling the EPAU and asking them for an early scan but I seriously do not want to go there again for the 4th time this year. The women there must think I’m so irresponsible for even getting pregnant yet again so soon. It sounds silly but I’d feel embarrassed going in especially if it’s yet another mmc.

Googling private scans this morning, despite not having a good experience previously and vowing never to return. If isn’t right - I’d be back at the EPAU anyway. There are also very few who will do one at 6 weeks, and the recommendation is waiting until 8 weeks. I’ve done this before and it didn’t turn out well.

I’ve been trying to pretend this isn’t happening to me esp when AF was late, I feel sick at the thought. I wasn’t prepared for positive pregnancy test this month, not until next year.

I’m feeling a bit of a mess, yet hoping it might work out this time.

I’m also really apologetic to you on the thread - I’ve been AWOL for months, yet have come running back straight away when shit hits. I’m posting as an afterthought really.....

Can anyone give any words of wisdom?

@hopefulforarainbow - I’m thinking of you lots. Thursday does seem an age away when things can look uncertain. Echoing what others have said, please take the time off work if you’ve offered it.

You can always go in if you are feeling stir crazy!

Like @MissPMA focus on yourself and relaxing if you can, it’s important!

Thinking of you xx

Thanks guys. It's such a worrying time when it should be exciting. I wish we could just enjoy this. I've not really had much in the way of pregnancy symptoms. Wish I did as the lack of symptoms is something else to worry about! How many week are you now @misspma?

Hi @hopeful, I’m not surprised you’re feeling like that, you’ve been through and are still going through so much and anxiety is a perfectly normal response to that. I’ve found this pregnancy hard in terms of the sickness/nausea plus the constant worry, knicker checking and I’ve struggled with sleep at times, have dreams about bleeding etc. I’m also usually very positive but I’ve not dared let myself get my hopes up or think about a happy ending this time. I’m lucky that I can work from home as much as I want, so I’ve not actually been in my office for 4 weeks now, plus work has been going through a quiet phase so I’ve managed to get some rest during that time however in a way I regret not booking a chunk of time off to just focus on me and my well being. So if you’re in any doubt about whether you should work or not I’d say you should get booked off until 10 weeks, see how you feel after the scan and then consider extending it for another 2 weeks. You’re only looking at a short amount of time off in the grand scheme of things and it sounds like you’ve got a tough job so you need to be putting yourself first

Hey guys. Hope you're all well. I'm looking for some advice. Since I've had some bleeding/spotting I've been feeling super anxious. The spotting on Sunday stopped pretty much as quickly as it started, there was a couple of streaks of red in cm last night and a tiny amount of brown cm this morning. I am so scared of mc again and can't seem to relax at all. I spoke to GP yesterday and she has signed me off for a week. Hubby thinks I should get signed off until next scan at 10 weeks and my auntie who is a retired midwife says i should get signed off til 12 weeks. I know it's good to keep busy but this is the busiest time of year at work and I don't feel I could deal with the stress of looking after sick people while being understaffed and having added winter pressures. Have you who are pregnant again felt the same? I'm normally quite a positive person but as soon as there's more blood or my boobs aren't as sore I'm freaking out. HELP!!!!

Definitely have the week off, sleep, read, have a bath and binge on Netflix 😀 I'm glad things seem to have settled x

Thank you. So far there hasn't been any more since I posted earlier. I read something about placenta implanting between 7 and 9 weeks and my hubby said they mentioned that the other day at the scan too. That appointment was a bit of a blur for me! I'm going to take this week off work. I have quite a demanding job and I'm on my feet for 12.5hrs so prob best not going in.

@Hopefulforourrainbow I don't blame you, it's really hard. Sending hugs and lots of good energy!
Thanks @MissPMA and hopeful for the Accupuncture advice, I think I found a nice one but need to call her back tomorrow. She sounds pretty normal! You guys both had very weird ones I don't know what I would've said / done!

@moonpeace the only thing I did differently was take cyclogest from 5 weeks, I’d had spotting/bleeding for 10 days by that point exactly the same as two of my previous early losses so assumed it was ending but from the evening I started taking it the bleeding stopped, there doesn’t seem to be huge amounts of evidence of it preventing miscarriage but I’m sure it helped me.
@nobert23 I had acupuncture and really disliked it but that was due to the acupuncturist rather than the actual process, she constantly told me I’d have problems conceiving due to my ‘advanced age’ (I’m 36!), blamed my daily cup of coffee as the cause of my losses and basically told me I should give up on ttc, she made me feel v tense and it put me off having treatments elsewhere for a while. So I’d recommend phoning a few and find one that you really click with before you book them in.
You are really going through it at the moment @hopeful, I know it’s difficult but try to rest if not relax, having a healthy scan puts the odds in your favour and I hope that the bleeding stops soon x

Thanks @norbert23. Wish I could just press fast forward!

I hope it settles down and is just one of those weird things @Hopefulforourrainbow - I know it's hard to relax though and keep positive but do try and take it easy xx

Hey. Hope you're all having a nice weekend. I'm bleeding a bit again. Light pink when wiping. Have had lower back pain too and my boobs are softer than they have been. Just called epau and they said to keep an eye on it and it should settle. If it gets worse I've to call them back. They said its a good sign that I had a good scan on Thursday.

No she's just a general reflexologist. It wasn't what I expected at all. She was asking if I wanted to know the sex of the babies we'd lost etc too. Was really weird!

@Hopefulforourrainbow that was a reflexologist? Wow! My one is the opposite. Was it a fertility specialist? My lady mostly deals with women with fertility issues/miscarriage (she's experienced it herself). She normally just tells me about my uterus/ovaries/hormones and what she thinks they are doing according to my feet (like a bit puffy on a specific bit of foot suggests thicker womb lining). But I've never had anything at all like that! Don't blame you for being put off xxx