TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

Verdict is we don’t know. Possibly a hb but very faint and therefore they won’t say if it is one or not. They questioned my dates which stressed me out as it’s an ivf pregnancy so we know exactly. . Repeat scan next week.

That sounds a bit like what I had. I'd wait another week or so then test again if I were you.

@Hopefulforourrainbow cycles have been here there and everywhere, 12th of July had what the hospital called a brisk loss which can happen after erpc really heavy for one day then tailed off to light for about eleven days. Then red for a day or so on 9th of August then brown on pad on 16th of August and just very light watery pink when I wiped and then nothing. Xx

Thats wonderful @Anne. what reassured me a tiny bit was the stats on the miscarriage association website show that when a heartbeat is detected at 10 weeks the chance of a miscarriage is the same as at 12 weeks (1%). And that is in women with a history of recurrent miscarriage apparently. Its so lovely to see them wriggling in the screen too.

I'm ok thanks, just keeping a bit quiet on here at the moment as I'm in that limbo between 12 week and 20 week scans where I'm not feeling movement yet. I'm getting a bit of a bump but some people might just think I've eaten all the pies in the pie shop and its just feeling like a long time since I've had any sort of reassurance that everything is ok in there. I'm seeing the RMC antenatal care team next Thursday so I'm hoping they'll do a doppler and let me listen to the heartbeat and stop my mind from going into overdrive thinking somethings gone wrong. And then I can start worrying about the 20 week scan and them finding something wrong at that. It really annoys me the number of people who seem to think that the 20 week scan is just to find out if you're having a girl or a boy.....its not. It's another possibility for your world to fall apart again. Urgh! Sorry, don't mean to be negative and bring everyone down.
Anyways on a more positive note I'm off to Italy for the bank holiday weekend, the weather forecast is rubbish so we'll just have to sit in cafes and eat yummy food instead!

Thanks @Anne! Seems strange wanting a negative. Would stress so much being pregnant on holiday! I'm feeling much better thanks though have been awake since 2am! Still bleeding but it's not bright red or as heavy as a usual period. No period pains. Started pinky/brown, then there was a little red and a bright red clot then back to pink and now more brown. It's very strange. I normally have bright red for a few days.
I keep checking to see how everyone's appointments have been too!

@Laura how have your cycles been since mc? Was it a natural mc? My cycles were all over the place after mmc. I didn't have a proper period for over 3 months then bled for well over a month.

Hi@AnneLovesGilbert have no idea when I ovulated as haven't been tracking it, could have been within the last week or so possibly as felt more moist (sorry for tmi) and felt different in myself. Limbo is such a head fuck. Got my little boy to distract me most of the time. Thanks for letting me join it's good to chat with ladies who know how you're feeling. Xx

Hi @Hopefulforourrainbow have no idea when my period is due 9th of August I had what was the start was red on the pad then nothing until the 16th of August when it was brown on the towel and just the smallest amount of light pink on the tissue paper. X

Hoping you get your BFN then hopeful How are you feeling today? Mega admiration for anyone working nightshifts. I was a carer in a residential home many years ago and had to do it and it was brutal. Only got through it with biscuits.

Welcome Laura, very sorry for your losses How long ago do you think you ovulated? Limbo is such a head fuck. Please chat away here and ask/share anything you like. Everyone's lovely and having people to natter away to keeps me sane(ish!)

Love and thoughts to you today munchie and bean, hope all goes very well with appointments and scans. Easy to say and I do totally get how you feel munch, but try and stay optimistic. Checking back in all day, please let us know how you get on. And by some miracle yesterday we walked out of the lift, 20 minutes early, and he was striding down the corridor towards us! Was nice to see the maternity assessment unit where we had the scan. I felt a bit teary at the boards of thank you cards and baby announcement photos.

Congratulations shouldn't be remotely complicated but it so is sometimes. I bucked and told my boss the other day as I was stressing about being out for appointments and thought looking like I'm taking the piss rather than just being knocked up was potentially more damaging for job security and career progression. Time will tell... She said congrats and I just said thanks, not really there yet but appreciate the sentiment.

I am Labmum, I've previously thought I was 12 weeks but not actually got a fetus past 9 till now. How are you doing?

You talk a lot of sense miami, I'm going to try and chill the fuck out a little bit. Ha! Being away next week will hopefully help.

How was DH's birthday?!

Hi @Laura. Sorry you've found yourself here too. Do you know when your period is due?

Hi ladies, I hope it's ok for me to join this thread. Had my second miscarriage in June and me and hubby are trying again, been taking folic acid with vitamin d and bought superdrugs pregnancy advance vitamins which have omega 3 in so going to start taking them when I've finished the others. Haven't tracked ovulation, I think I might have ovulated, had sore boobs and felt sick, have done pregnancy test which have been negative, just don't know when to next take a test. Xx

Thanks.
Thinking of you too munchies. My scan is in epau tomorrow as the rmc consultant is off.

Of course it'll still be a shock @Anne but atleast he's given you that reasurrance and heads up about a more than likely future bleed. Yes RMC tomorrow- I've been trying to stay positive but truly I feel really sad and tearful as feel like it's only ever going to end in MC. I went to a different appointment yesterday and told them I was pregnant, their first reaction was to say congratulations and I just burst out crying. Such a difficult time for us all and so mentally draining. I've been a little more tired and had the odd cramp but apart from that I'm feeling really well. Not holding up much hope for tomorrow as I'll be 7 weeks but ovulate late and have a short luteal phase so plan to be dated more like early 6 weeks if anything. Yet trying to keep an open mind.
Hope you didn't have a stressful time finding the guy earlier.

Thank you @LabMum how are you doing??

Bet you can't wait for your holiday now @Hopefulforourrainbow.

Good luck for tomorrow @Beanhunter xx

I just have a night shift hangover now. Beginning to think I need a career change! I'll test again at the weekend. Never thought I'd say this but hoping for a negative!

Anne I didn't really worry about bleeding after sex with DD once I knew the cause. This of course was before I had multiple miscarriages so I was more relaxed generally that time. This time there's been no sex so not a problem. I wasn't too worried about anaemia as I generally have an excellent haemoglobin which only drops after very heavy prolonged bleeding (so after my PPH with DD and after the very heavy bleeds with MMC earlier this year it did drop a lot but recovered quickly). I also am at baseline VERY pale so I seem to get an FBC every 4-6 weeks when midwives worry about how pale I look!

Hopeful I did indeed get pregnant using condoms. Cue much panic as had surgery planned for 2 weeks post BFP!!! Although extensive reading tells me that they are not the most effective (and mine were stored in a damp place which is apparently not the right place to keep them!). Like Anne I had cramping from soon after ovulation this time...

@Anne that's amazing news! So happy and relieved for you! Are you past the point of all your MC's now?

@munchies hope all goes well with RMC.

@beanhunter fingers crossed for your scan tomorrow.

Omg I forgot about @para and the condom incident! Would be just my luck to get a bfp before holiday! Would much rather relax and enjoy ourselves while away and get pregnant then!
Good luck tomorrow @bean

Know anyone who got pregnant using condoms para? Sorry you're feeling pants hopeful, does seem a bit soon for AF symptoms. I had cramping this time from about 6 dpo, kept thinking it was coming but it didn't. I know you're looking forward to a boozy carefree holiday but you never know.... Mocktails are great!

Do you know para? No constipation at all this time, despite the cyclo. But fair point about the nausea. Usually not bad at all but someone's puked in the sick room at work not cleaned it up properly and for the last 48 hours the smell has been getting worse and worse.

Your massive bleed after dtd must have been terrifying. Did it help knowing what was causing it? And did you worry about anaemia with the regular bleeding?

Erythromycin isn’t awful. Tends to cause nausea but you might have that anyway! And it might cure the pregnancy induced constipation....

I’d imagine a SCH is what he’s referring to- they can cause fairly impressive bleeding I believe. Mine just caused a constant low level bleed though with occasionally heavier episodes.

I'm not sure when you're supposed to start it. I think I'm 5 or 6 days since ovulation. Around 5 days til AF. I had cramps, felt a bit sick, headache and sore boobs. I tested today just to see. Bfn as expected. We've been using condoms this month anyway.

Great news @annelovesgilbert.
Scan for me tomorrow. Nervous.

Thank you both so much x

11 tomorrow hopeful. About 20% of me can't quite believe it. Long way to go but I was starting to really get attached to this one after managing to stay so distanced with my last one and my zen was absorbed by blind panic till he said it was okay.

Do you start the B6 on CD1? When is AF due? How long since you ovulated? Hasn't been a week yet has it? If you think things are playing up then I'd wait till you're sure it's AF. What sort of crap were you feeling....? Symptoms?

Is it the same thing para? You know me and medical terminology He said it could bleed at any point up to 28 weeks and I'm more at risk of a repeat within 2 weeks of the last one, which isn't over yet.

The AB is erythromycin, looks delightful

Congratulations Anne!! Not long til the next milestone now! I had a SCH which did bleed fairly frequently but suddenly reabsorbed at some point between 11 and 13 weeks.