TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

Ahh @Hopeful, that’s a bit shit and I also agree with above poster regarding the hijacking of the baby shower (plus the fact that I too dislike them). Babies nowadays have a gender reveal party, baby shower, so there’s a gift, their actual birth, there’s another gift and then to top it all off, they have a bloody christening a couple of months later which sets you back an outfit and yet ANOTHER gift! All so showy and not the reason we have babies!!

Well, 2 days late now. Awful period pains though so I’m pretty certain that the witch is on her way anyway, we’ll see. Certainly not testing until I’m a week or two late because I’ll end up obsessing over that too!

They didn't announce at baby shower. One told me en route to baby shower and the other sent me a text while there. I'd much rather find out like everyone else though and for them not to make a big deal out of it. I'm not a fan of baby showers either though one of my best friends so had to go.

@hopeful that's rubbish, I'm sorry about the baby bombs. I wonder why they felt the need to announce at someone else's baby shower? Nicer to let the Mum To Be have her moment (although I personally hate baby showers!).
I prefer to be told that information by text so I can compose a nice reply and cry in peace over some chocolate rather than have to worry about what my face is saying as well as my mouth! Enjoy that wine lovely.

What a f*ing day! Baby shower this afternoon which I had psyched myself up for and had a good laugh. Two baby bombs which came out of the blue and you know what pisses me off more? People thinking they have to tiptoe around me and make a big deal of telling me. I get that they're trying not to hurt my feelings but omg it's so much worse this way! Having a large glass of vino. Would have been a bottle but unfortunately I'm working tomorrow! Hope you're all well and having a nice weekend.

🤞I'd be thinking the same!

Well, I’m a day late. Probably another horrible trick of Mother Nature.

We went to pick DSD up earlier and I was feeling pretty nauseous, have been a bit recently but that certainly isn’t unusual for me, especially at this time of month. Anyway I was sat there feeling like I was going to vom anda rainbow appeared. Like to think I I as a sign that we’d get our rainbow soon, absolute load of superstitious bull shit of course but god LOVES a trier!

I think the break has done us good emotionally and physically. I have a follow up appointment next week though not expecting much to come from it!

Glad you've had a good scan @MissPMA though I understand that you're still worried, sending you lots of hopeful thoughts over the next few weeks. Welcome back hopeful, I'm so glad you had a fun holiday and a break from recording everything, and fingers crossed the rest and relaxation will do the trick!

I'm sorry to see some new faces on here, but welcome, this is such a supportive group to be part of.

I've taken a bit of time out to try to clear my head, getting my rmc referral through sent me to quite a dark place but I think I'm starting to come through it. I don't have the appointment until late November, then follow up bloods and a meeting with a consultant at the end of January. It feels like ages to wait to TTC, but the tiny sane bit left of my brain knows that I really do need to take a break as I don't think DH or I could cope with another miscarriage in the next few months.

That's fab news @misspma. Hubby and I haven't been feeling well this week which isn't good for fertile week. Hoping I've ovulated already as there was a lot of holiday sex! Haven't been tracking at all this cycle which is stressing me out a bit! So used to peeing on sticks and putting every detail in my ovia app!

@MissPMA, no one can blame you for being cautious but so far so positive and you must cling to that!

I think it’s pretty rare to have a positive scan with a healthy HB and then for it to go tits up.

Thanks @nonnatushouse, I’m sorry that you find yourself here, it sounds like you’ve had a rough time and the Mmc must have been incredibly difficult after a positive scan, I’m not surprised you’re shit scared. Do you think you will try asking for referral to the rmc?
The scan showed a healthy bean at 6+5 days, I’m sure anyone seeing us after would have thought from our faces that we’d had bad news, It’s such a strange feeling not to be excited and of course I am happy that we’ve had the best possible outcome but we’re both very nervous about the next few weeks, the midwife was encouraging me to get my booking appointment and 12 week scan booked but there’s no way I’m doing that for a while

@MissPMA thinking of you today x

Hi all
@irony that is wonderful news, what a rollercoaster you are on, you and your little one are two strong ladies and I’m keeping everything crossed for your next steps.
@hopeful great to hear you had a lovely holiday and enjoyed time with your hubby, Fingers crossed for ov.
I have my scan tomorrow, should be just under 7 weeks I think and am bricking it, I would quite happily continue not knowing, at least that way I could have hope that all is ok whereas I’m not sure how I’ll cope with bad news. The spotting has stopped although I’m putting that down to the cyclogest and I have been having absolutely terrible nausea and sickness, I’m hardly able to eat or drink which makes work, and life in general, difficult which Is pretty crap but at least when I’m puking it does distract my thoughts from tomorrow!

@nonnatushouse I managed to bypass that criteria and be referred. I'm also getting extra monitoring in this pregnancy (before 12 weeks through RMC and after with the recurrent miscarriage obstetric team) so it could be worth pushing them on it. Unfortunately all mine were MMCs between 10-12 weeks where baby stopped developing at 8-9weeks. In the third we had also seen a heartbeat at 7 weeks but given the point where they stopped I suspect that would have been the case in all of my miscarriages if I'd had early scans.

Oh yes, after what we’ve been through and seeing what others have been through, we feel very lucky to have DD.

@Labmum that’s lovely to hear that you’re almos half way! No, I haven’t been referred yet as they say I need to have 3 consecutively to have any investigations.

My doctor said that if I had been in contact with the slapped cheek virus and not already had immunity then that could well be why we miscarried this time, especially after having such a good scan at 7 weeks.

Hi @nonnatus house your story sounds very similar to mine. One MC before my DS and two after. Currently 19 weeks. I fell whilst waiting for my RMC referral. Have you been referred for investigations? The ladies here are so supportive so feel free to offload on them. We all get it. Take care and sorry you find yourself here, it's a shitty situation but I'm sure like me your DD gets you through the dark days. I had a little mantra that I would say to him whilst putting him to bed. "If I only get you, you are enough!".

Hey @nonnatushouse. I know the shit scared feeling very well! This group has been a great support so hopefully we'll be able to help you get through whatever you decide

Hi ladies, new here but have had a quick scan through the thread . . . Wow, what an absolute rollercoaster some of you have been on!

@Irony I have everything crossed for you, utterly amazing!!

I’ve had 3 M/C, 1 at 5+4, 2 at 6+5 and 3 at 9+3. I’ve been incredibly lucky to have had a very healthy DD between M/C’s 1&2. The last M/C was particularly traumatic as it was a MMC after being told that all was well at 7+1 after a scan which showed a healthy HB. Ended up having an ERPC. That was 3 months ago now. I think it could’ve been down to slapped cheek as a couple of weeks later, DD came out in a rash all over her cheeks and arms. Obviously we have no way of knowing though.

I so want to have another baby but I’m so shit scared of falling pregnant again.

Amazing news @irony! Will keep everything crossed for you

@irony that's wonderful news! Got everything crossed for you!

@irony I’m so happy to read your update. I know there’s a long way to go but I’m so pleased there’s some hope restored xx

Not sure miami81 they're gonna ring me tomorrow with day and time. I feel fizzy from this roller-coaster ride already :')

Popping back in to these threads - I used to post here a lot before I got pregnant with my DD - and just wanted to say how happy I am to see so many of you with good news, especially @AnneLovesGilbert and @Miami81 who I remember from my time here. So pleased - congratulations ladies.

LADIES!!!
Had my Fetal Medicine scan today, and they've found the elusive left kidney. It looks to be perfectly healthy too! Booked in for amniocentesis to check baby's growth restriction isn't due to a genetic or chromosomal abnormality as she has quite a few markers for Edwards syndrome, but if that comes back clear, we have a healthy baby :)