TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

So glad it went well today Hopefulforourrainbow! Thinking of you.

I'm still on aspirin and progesterone (up the front and the back, the glamour I tell you!). Definitely can't hurt and absolutely might help.

Crossing fingers and toes for you this cycle, impressed by your rate of shagging When's AF due?

Good plan whiteonesugar and I'm impressed by your resolve! My RMC gave me the full whack of tests again after a second mc on treatment, didn't show anything, but they gave me ALL of the drugs for this one, despite no diagnosis.

Today's appointment was much better than last. Much nicer doctor who explained all the tests and my results. Said there's no reason why I would miscarry again and he's quite hopeful that we'll have a successful pregnancy. Also said can try aspirin and progesterone next time. Really hoping I've conceived this month. I guess time will tell! Symptom spotting already! It's annoying that I don't know when I've ovulated but we've had sex 12 times this month so surely that's enough!
Yes I would count 1st day of bleeding as CD1. Glad you're feeling hopeful though don't push yourself too much too quickly. I did that and feel better now having had the break that hubby wanted.

Right I've taken the plunge and spent £45 on ovulation tests, pregnancy tests and conceive plus vitamins. I am going to make this bloody well happen and bloody well stick dammit.

The bleeding stopped yesterday but I have had some more today - would you count Saturday as CD1 (when the bleeding started)?

I am sure i can do this as I've done it before, I have a lovely DS and unless he was some sort of miracle from who knows where, I CAN have a baby.

I've book a docs appt in a month to request another referral to the RMC as i have now had 2 MC on the treatment so would like some more tests but going to TTC in the meantime anyway.

Pregnancy number 7 WILL happen and WILL work!!!!

@hopeful I hope the appointment is useful. Maybe ask about plan going forward, what happens when you get pregnant etc.
With the B6 I had no side effects other than ovulation being a couple of days earlier. Stopped taking after BFP but don't know if that's right or wrong.

Hi everyone. Hope you're all well. We have follow up appointment at rmc today. Any advice on what to ask?
@labmum how are you doing? Did you have any side effects when taking b6? And when did you stop taking it? I've been taking it since cd1 and I'm on cd28 now. Really hoping for a bfp this month!
@Anne and @miami how are you both doing?

Hi Ladies,
Sorry to see so many new names, but hope you find comfort here.
@irony that's a crazy rollercoaster! I'm happy to hear right now it's turned for the positive. Fingers crossed for you.
We had an appt with the midwife last week (at about 10+3) and they were able to hear a hb with the doppler . Should be about 11+3 now and things seem fine. We are going for a scan Thurs to be sure things look good but so far we're optimistic

I can't get referred unless we lose another one :-( apparently chemicals don't count. I'm only 28 and partner is the same age so hopefully we have just had bad luck. I'm thinking about having some testing done privately though as I'm not sure how well we can cope with another loss. Seems like everyone but us is pregnant atm!
Our hospital were great in the EPAU then suddenly became really crap and wouldn't give me a sick note (I think they were implying it was too early at 6 weeks so I should just crack on!)

Im still bleeding (sorry tmi!) and having small clots 4 days after I've passed the sac. Can't remember if I had this last time, can anyone remember? Just want it all to be done with so we can try again.

Today for the first time I got angry. I've done a lot of begging and praying to whatever is out there that might be listening. Today I got angry and decided that we will have a healthy baby. Life isn't fair but we deserve this so much. Sorry I know I'm rambling!

laney79 you're not too far from me. I am currently under the FMU at City Hospital in Birmingham and they are absolutely fantastic, the care I've received so far during this pregnancy is literally faultless.

Yeah if there's an option to see an expert I would do that. No such thing in Scotland unfortunately! Not sure if you've gone through our last thread but I've had a pretty bad experience at clinic here to the point where I ended up complaining. Not looking forward to my follow up appointment tomorrow! Yeah it really sucks. All my friends are having babies. My close friends and I started trying round about the same time. Guess we're at that age! Some of them are announcing 2nd pregnancies and I can't even seem to have baby no1!

Thanks @Hopefulforourrainbow -yep I'm uk (Shropshire) based.

I've been doing so much research my head is about to explode. I don't know wether to ask for a referral to the local hospital (they have a consultant who deals with miscarriage both NHS and private) or to try for Tommys miscarriage clinic in Birmingham or prof Quenby in Coventry. Part of me wants it local, but if the experts are in Birmingham maybe I should go there.

I'm just so scared they will make me go through this again before they'll investigate.

Why is this so hard for us?

Wow lots of new people! Sorry you've all found yourselves here too. We will help in any way we can. If you're in UK, 39 and have had 2 mc you should be eligible for referral.

Wow congrats @nonnatushouse. Will keep everything crossed for you and remember we're here for you. I conceived fairly quickly after my cycle got back on track after mmc. I mc again but had shingles so blame that.

Hi.

May I join? Currently experiencing my second MMC this year. Despite the heartache and agony I desperately want to be a mom.

I'm 39
TTC#1
MMC 1 discovered March 2018 (should've been 9 weeks, Bean measured 6 at 3.1mm) took months to resolve-finally stopped bleeding in June.
MMC 2 discovered last week. Should've been 8+6, but again my Bow was just 6 weeks-got a day further than Bean-measured 4.2mm.

I'm currently waiting for the inevitable to happen. Hoping my useless body will be kinder this time and let go before I have to go back for the confirmation scan a week tomorrow and medical management.

I know I don't fit the technical definition of recurrent yet, but I can't bear the thought of going through this again. I need answers, even if it's ruling stuff out.

Has anyone been referred after two miscarriages? I'm hoping my age may help me in that. What tests has everyone had? I've been looking at sticky blood/thrombophilia tests, hormone and egg reserve, genetic...there's just so many.

One of my biggest regrets is not taking baby aspirin this time. I felt in my gut last time it was blood issue (family history) but trusted medics that it was "bad luck" and followed their advice not to take it...are any of you guys taking it?

Once more, unto the beach, dear ladies. I tested today and I’m pregnant. So scared.

Hi can I join? Ive just lost another baby this weekend :-( actually a bit relieved as they thought it was ectopic. Had a nightmare trying to get a sick note, hospital said they wouldn't do one for my 'situation' whatever the hell that means! Maybe because I was only six weeks they think I should just crack on. Still don't really know what's going on. I lost another baby at 13 weeks in may so had a lot of hopes pinned on this one. It seems to only take us a month to conceive but holding onto the baby is another thing :-(

Hi I hope this is ok - i posted this as a thread on the main page but figured here might get some responses...

I'm currently having my 5th Miscarriage and its shit.

I had 3 in the space of a year back in 13/14 and was prescribed Cyclogest and low dose Aspirin by my consultant which resulted in me having my DS who is now 3.5. I had another MC when he was 6months old and that was on the progesterone and i've just had another at 6 weeks, again, on the progesterone.

I'm just so sick of it. The emotional rollercoaster. The lack of positivity now RE the progesterone which I once thought was my lucky charm now just seems like a massive joke but I wouldnt even consider not using it now JUST in case.

Its a huge headfuck.

Is anyone else in this position / has been in it?? I am going to ask my GP to refer me back to the consultant but of course I cant get an appt for a month. sigh.

I want to start TTC again straight away. Am i mad? Is there any hope for us? Am i being stupid to think I can do this however many times again?

This is a bit of a brain dump, sorry. I just want to speak to people who've been there / had success. What else can i try?

@elderflower and @moonpeace I'm sorry you both find yourselves here.

@moonpeace I totally understand seeing the potential age gap get bigger and the sadness and pressure that can put on you. Have you been referred to the recurrent miscarriage team? Here if you are over 35 they will refer you after 2. Take care lovely, through the pain of the losses I just hung onto how precious my DS was and hugged him a little tighter saying to myself a little mantra "if I only get you, you are enough"!.

@moonpeace your story sounds very similar to mine.
I too conceived very quickly with my DD and had a super smooth, ‘textbook’ pregnancy and also a healthy early scan (also due to spotting) at 7 weeks then a MC at 9+3.

If you get the chance to have a flick through on here there are some amazingly positive stories which give us all hope. And if it rests your mind a bit, I think many women have chemical pregnancies but just don’t realise and put it down to their period being a wee bit late (so stats are lower than they actually are)
I’m currently 3 days late and very nauseous and instead of being overjoyed at the concept of being pregnant I’m terrified. I didn’t think it would happen so quickly after my M/C and ERPC in June. It took us 2.5 years to conceive that baby. We think it was down to slapped cheek but will never know for sure.

I’m 25 so still pretty young but my partner is 39, I don’t know if that makes a difference or not!

Hi @elderflower. Sorry you've found yourself here. Its a lovely supportive group, hope we can help you.

Hello, can I join you ladies?
I'm 31 and have had 2 miscarriages one in January and one in June. No children currently. Partner and I are on 3rd cycle of ttc and between still getting over the grief of what happened, worrying there's something wrong with me and the usual mental ness that accompanies ttc I thought I'd look to some people who understand?
Would really welcome some words of wisdom.xx

@MissPMA, I’m impressed too! I was the OP of the thread where I was obsessively testing a few months ago. Have namechanged since then though.

Still no AF. Feeling verrryyy apprehensive about what’s to come. I don’t feel I’m ready for another pregnancy just yet, will be surprised if it’s happened so quickly after the ERPC as it took us 2.5 years to conceive that baby. Very crampy at the moment. Having a few other symptoms but I think it’s just my mind on overdrive.
Gosh I’m so messed up about this whole thing, I want to be and I don’t at the same time.
I wish we could just bypass the first trimester!!

Oh that sounds crap @hopeful and all in one day too. I’m also not a fan of baby showers either so I’m sorry you had all that going on.
Good to hear from you @oddsbobbins, glad to hear you are coming through the other side. For what it’s worth I think you’re being very sensible and strong having a break, I felt that the only thing that would help me feel better was getting pregnant again but having careened blindly from pregnancy to pregnancy I’ve never given myself time to get back to being me, or just enjoy time with my hubby. Must be such a mixture of emotions getting your appointment through but it’s a very important step towards getting that rainbow.
Oh boo @nonnathouse that’s annoying you think af is on the way, you’re not out of it yet though, I’m impressed you’ve not tested!

It's not over until she arrives!
Haha I know. So many bloody celebrations!
Sorry I didn't word my post well. Was 3 separate things today! 1st announcement en route to baby shower, baby shower and then a text from another friend. All just on the same day!