TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

@Hopefulforourrainbow yeah-that's one of the blogs I read too xxx

Just realised I didn't link the blog again www.luisazissman.co.uk/?p=647. There's loads of success stories.
Yeah it sounds like you'll get your bfn soon. I'm in two minds about making booking appointment. It's so busy here. I might call midwife and make appointment for nearer 12 weeks just in case I get that far. My friend delayed hers and her bloods etc ended up being taken much later than they should have and she got lost in system for scan too. Thank you. That's so lovely of you. I really hope you get your rainbow too. Sending lots of hugs back xx

@moonpeace read about it on several sites, and my friend (same age) who has had ivf was told to take it as part of her regimen before treatment. Seems to be a school of thought that it could help with mitochondrial function, which may help a bit when eggs are maturing at ovulation. I think I'm clutching at straws but if there's even a tiny chance it'll help and no evidence of harm I'll try it.

@Hopefulforourrainbow I'm hoping my body sorts it soon too. Bleeding is gone-just a tiny bit of browny Cm when I wipe. Think today will prob be it. Going to test again tomorrow. It's a week today since I passed my bow in her sac so I guess it's prob still going to be positive. I did do an opk yesterday which was very positive but id had that earlier in the week too so I think the hcg is giving false results. Took about 10 days last time to get a bfn. Emotionally I'm doing as well as I can I guess. Feel better knowing I have the tests arranged, and a bit of a plan-but ultimately I'm still heartbroken and struggling to understand why it's happened to us again. It's just so unfair.

I totally get the worry -I'd be the same. I was stupidly positive with Bow, even got my mom to buy a Moses basket and I bought a couple of pregnancy books and a rainbow dog to make for her. I've said that if I do fall a third time (and I desperately want to) I won't register the pregnancy or sort booking/12 week scan appts until after a good early scan (prob 8-9 weeks). Emotionally I can't allow myself to hope and dream that much again. It's too hard when the news is bad. Sending you a huge hug, and although I can't allow myself to hope for me/us I'm going to be full of hope and positivity for you-your little one will be healthy, and will stick, come on little one, your mom deserves her rainbow xxx

@Layney79 hopefully the bleeding will stop soon and you'll get bfn.
I bought coenzyme q10 and the others recommended in this blog as I was convinced I wouldn't have got bfp. I just followed the links and bought exactly the same things that were recommended.
How are you all doing? I'm wishing i could fast forward time a bit. Can't help but worry this is going to go wrong again. Doesn't help hubby is away and I'm home alone too.

@Hopefulforourrainbow Tmi but the bleeding has almost stopped-just the very light brown discharge on wiping. Still had a faint positive on weds so prob won't retest till Sunday at the earliest, although I know hcg is still there as I tried a cheapie opk strip today and it was a blazing positive (same as it was on Monday).

Strangely I feel so much better knowing I'm getting tests done-nothing makes the loss any easier but knowing I'm doing something to try and stop it happening again is so important. Started coenzyme q10 yesterday alongside high dose folic acid and pregnacare pre conception. Also if I'm lucky enough to catch again I'm going to take baby aspirin -fro what I can see it does no harm but might help. Gotta be worth a try x

@norbet xxxx

Thanks Laura xxxx

@norbet you're welcome 🌺 it does seem very unfair, I had to go to the epau aswell to confirm our babies heartbeat had stopped it's horrible and you just don't want to be there. I too feel so lucky we have our 2 year old they certainly get you through the darkest times in your life. I've been tracking ovulation with my clear blue fertility monitor this month hopefully give me some kind of idea what's going on. Don't be fobbed off by your GP like I sort of felt I was, saying to me so what is you're worried about, stand your ground. Getting there, have good days and then some down days. Hope you're looking after yourself too. Xx

Thank you moonpeace that's really helpful. I'm 38 so egg quality could also be my issue but my cycles have suddenly gone from 28 to 21/22 so I wonder if either I ovulate too soon or if my hormones are out of balance. I know dr google isn't the way forward but it's good to know that I can go get some support and answers from my go. I think once I get my period I'll go get an appointment organised. I think I assumed I'd have to have 3 m/c before anyone would look into anything. I really hope you get good news very soon xxx

Thank you so much Laura that's really kind,sending you a big hug too. It all seems so unfair at the minute but then I remember how lucky I am to have my 3 year old.
I know I'm ovulating I just don't seem to be able to make them stick which is what I will ask them or my GP about when I can. I hope you're taking care of yourself xx

@norbet23 I went to my GP and said is there any test I can have to check I'm ovulating and she gave me a blood test for projesterone has to be done so many days in your cycle. I haven't done this yet going to see if we fall pregnant this month if not I'll be getting that test done. Sorry you're going through this it's so shit and unfair, I went through my second missed miscarriage in June. Sending you love and a big hug. Xx

My heart goes out to everyone here, you're all going through so much. I'm going through my second MC in 6 months and feeling pretty crap. I have to go back to the EPAU this afternoon to have it confirmed but I'm not expecting any good news. I'm starting to worry there's something wrong with my cycles and that my progesterone is low but I don't know how to find that out.

Thank you @Anne. Hope you're still doing well.
@moonpeace only thing I did this month was 50mg b6, took seven seas trying for a baby and had lots of sex while on holiday! I called the fertility clinic as I thought they better have this on record. They've ignored the fact I have a long cycle and have booked me in for a scan next Friday saying I must be 5 weeks now and they need to make sure it's not ectopic after last time. I might call and change it nearer the time if all is well by then.

I was referred to the RMC by the EPU after a third loss moonpeace and have had a very positive experience, even though that's included two pregnancies on treatment under them. Who referred you and is there a way you can chase up an appointment?

You make complete sense Laney79, it makes a world of difference feeling like there's someone else out there batting for you (other than us lot! ) and it's really good you're having tests done and have an appointment set up for next month. Hoping for a BFN is so natural and it's all shit and complicated at this point. I remember wanting a BFN and then crying when I got it, and I wasn't sure if I was relieved or sad! Just try and roll with whatever comes up and look after yourself.

Oh @Hopefulforourrainbow I'm over the moon for you!!!!!! Been crossing everything for you

I'm taking aspirin this time. Started on one a day and at some point my consultant put it up to two, so 150mg a day.

Sore boobs and super nose - sounds like good symptoms to me

So so pleased for you! It's a total head fuck so don't put any pressure on yourself about how to feel x

@hopeful sounds like you'll be doing the same as I did this time with the aspirin and progesterone, (tip; back passage a lot less messy). I also had high dose folic acid, GP can prescribe so might be worth looking into? Everything crossed here that it goes well this time

@moonpeace I got referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic then fell whilst waiting for my appointment, they saw me straight away and gave me progesterone and high dose folic acid then arranged my reassurance scans for every 2 weeks. So push them to be seen if you do fall before your appointment with them!

Yes I started taking aspirin yesterday. The consultant I saw suggested taking it while ttc too but I was so far on in my cycle I thought I'd just wait to see what happened. Do you take any vitamins? Have any health problems? Is your cycle regular? I usually use ovulation tests but didn't this month. I find it helps to have a rough idea of when things are happening though some people advise against that too so didn't track at all while on holiday!

I was referred to rmc after my last mc. Had bloods then saw consultant 12 weeks later. My 1st lot of bloods came back positive to lupus anticoagulant antibodies so needed a repeat test. I saw the consultant before having the 2nd lot of bloods back. It was a complete waste of time. He made it clear we were wasting his time too. Said it was probably bad luck and we could try aspirin if we wanted but there was no evidence surrounding that if it is just bad luck. 2nd lot of bloods came back negative. I was asked if I wanted to see him again So I asked if there was anyone else we could see. Saw a different consultant last week who was lovely. Explained all the tests and my results, said we could try aspirin and progesterone next time. He said he felt positive and said there was no reason why we couldn't have a healthy baby. If i were you I wouldn't hold out too much hope for appointment and if your bloods are done and you feel ready to try again just go for it!

Thanks @labmum. It's hard to know what to do for the best. Wish I could just fast forward the next 8 or 9 weeks!
Sorry @Mnet I missed your post. Sorry you've found yourself here and welcome. I really don't know what I'd do without these ladies!

@hopeful I stopped the high dose b6 at BFP and just took pregnacare multivitamin instead which had it in at a lower dose. I don't know if that's right or wrong though. This time I just copied what I did with DS for the B6.
Congratulations, got everything crossed for you. These first few weeks and days are so tough, at least night shift will keep you busy.

@Laney79 I'm so sorry, it's shit. Take care my lovely, watch crap TV, drink wine and eat your body weight in biscuits! Hoping your cycles return to normal soon.