TTC after recurrent miscarriage - thread 3

Hi! Any chance of some advice I'm a little bit worried!

I mc just over two weeks ago. Natural mc bleeding all over in about 4 days. Hcg tested at hospital and they were happy it was negative.

Yesterday I got a peak ovulation. We had sex the day before that. Tonight I've had some fresh pink bleeding? Not loads but noticeable. Any advice would be great, thank you xx

Not for another 2 weeks unless I have pain or bleeding before then.

Thank you. I've made an appointment for when I'm 7 + 1 for scan and booking appointment is 9 weeks. Had to just book it as they only do 1 day a week at my surgery. Hopefully all will be ok and I won't need to cancel them.

@hopeful if you can stand to wait you could push it back a week and hopefully see a heartbeat. If you went they'd be able to check location and would probably want you back in anyways........do whatever you think will help you most over the next week or so. Its such a stressful time.
Really hoping the B6 is as lucky for you as it was for me.

Thank you. I contacted them last week and asked about an early scan. They said they don't normally do that for natural conceptions and they would call me back. She called back and booked an appointment for Friday not listening when I was saying my cycle is 35 days and I was 4 weeks when I spoke to her and not the 5 that she thought. I'm now thinking I'll cancel the appointment and contact the consultant at the epu who said she would scan me whenever I want next time round. I think I'm better waiting another week though hubby is away again for work on Tuesday and I really don't want to go without him. What would you recommend?

Beautiful lines there @hopeful. Got everything crossed that you get your rainbow this time!

Have you contacted the RMC? Do you have an appointment to see them?

Those are great lines @Hopefulforourrainbow - really pleased for you xxx

Yeah i think that'll get the message across. I usually just share the awareness picture or like other people's posts. I'm very open about what's happened to us but don't feel i could ever put something like that on Facebook.
Poas again today! I'm such a psycho! Digital still saying 2-3 but line is getting darker. I think I'm 5 weeks tomorrow. Symptoms seem to be coming and going. I've always felt awful the whole time when pregnant before so hoping it's a good sign that I'm having times when I'm feeling fine. How have you guys found symptoms?

I agree - I'm sure people would stop to read and would find it helpful or would echo your thoughts xx

I've demolished a box of pralines today guilt free and had a big bath which was lovely. Tomorrow I'm going to look into the supplements mentioned over the weekend and also acupuncture, there's no harm in exploring it I guess. Thanks again for everyone's kind words, it's been a long week and it's made me feel much less alone xxx

Can I get your opinions ladies?

I'm thinking of posting the following on Facebook as part of babyloss awareness week...what do you think?

Right about now I should be packing my hospital bag, and freaking out about giving birth to our first baby.

Instead, I’m waiting for my body to recover after losing our second little one. And we are heartbroken.

I’ve had two “missed miscarriages” - no signs anything is wrong until you have a scan and they discover the baby is far too small for your dates. I’d never even heard of it until it happened to me. And that is one of the reasons why I’m writing this.

Miscarriage isn’t spoken about. It’s kept for quiet conversations in hushed tones. As a woman you aren’t warned that actually miscarrying can happen in several different ways, and there aren’t always signs. So when it does happen it’s even more of a shock.

By not talking about it, not being open, it adds to the horrendous feeling of guilt and shame that comes when you lose a baby. Because it’s not spoken about you feel like you shouldn’t either. But do you know what, enough. I am going to talk about it, I am going to talk about those teeny tiny precious bundles of cells that we created that bought so much joy even for such a short time. I owe them that. They existed, and they may be the only ones I ever have.

Miscarriage and baby loss is devastating. The amount of people who, when I told them what happened to us, said yes it happened to me too is incredible. I know it’s personal, and bloody hell is it painful but it should be talked about more openly. If statistics are to be believed it happens in one out of four pregnancies. I’m on the fence about that- it’s 2/2 for me and both have been missed-something you apparently have a 1% chance of.

Oh and just a few tips if someone you know and love does experience baby loss. For me I’d say please no platitudes, no it’s just terribly bad luck, no I’m sure it’ll be fine next time, and definitely no well at least you can get pregnant (no use if they die at 6 weeks or I can’t carry them)...just give me a hug and know that there’s nothing you can do or say to make it better, I wish there was.

Good morning ladies. Sorry for him but I'm a bit concerned about the amount of leakage from the cyclogest. Even when I get up in morning there's still loads from night before. As for morning dose, I don't have time to lie down for a wee while after. I'm not keen on putting it up back as I have IBS so worried it causes more problems.

So sorry to hear that @norbert23. Sending lots of love and hugs xxx

I just got the call from the EPAU confirming that my levels have dropped, and that I've definitely miscarried. I'm more upset than I expected- I thought I was completely prepared to hear it but I now I feel like crap. I'm going to go buy a huge dairy milk and put my pjs back on. I've asked my boss if I can stay off til Wednesday and I'm sure she'll be ok with that.
Sending hugs to everyone also going through this and hoping everyone else gets positive news xx

I didn't know we could attach pics! The lines are definitely getting much lighter. I think in another few days it'll be completely negative.

The strip on the left is today-the one on the right was 20/9-day after we found out about MMC number 2.

No hcg blood tests. Nurse said it would take 1-2 weeks to get a negative, and today it's a week. The scan showed everything was gone though so at least I know there's nothing retained. I'll attach the pic so you can see.

Yeah I'm not a huge fan of the cb ones either. Boobs are a bit more tender now. They seem to get bigger and more tender as the day goes on. This is all such a head fuck!
Oh no @Laney79. Had hoped today would be the day for you. I'm not sure I remember testing after mine. My hcg had come right down though. Have you been having blood tests too?

@Laney79, I’m so sorry to hear that. I completely understand your urgency for it to be over and done with. Mother Nature is an absolute bitch at times xxx

@ahopefulforourrainbow I had a huge panic a couple of days ago (Friday I think) I woke up and my boobs weren’t sore at all, was particularly concerned as they’re usually sorest on a morning. I also hadn’t been feeling too sick that day and was having the usual cramps and backache.

That was at 5+6 and symptoms have been back sporadically over the last couple of days, especially the nausea so I wouldn’t worry too much. Great news about the tests though (although I hate CBD with the weeks indicator, last pregnancy, mine didn’t alter for ages even though all was well at that point!)

Good news @Hopefulforourrainbow

Hate saying this but my tests are still positive today. Got cheap one step strips which look like squinters, but also did a B&m bargain brand one and that was clearly positive, and the opk still positive. I guess it's going to take longer than I'd hoped. Been a week since I passed my bow. Last time test went negative within 10 days but then I'd had mifepristone and I guess everything had started to reabsorb as it'd taken so long. I just want it over now.

Tested again this morning. Major panic as boobs weren't sore when I woke up. I know symptoms come and go but thought it was strange they didn't hurt at all. Line is definitely darker and cb digital is now saying 2-3.

Can't decide if I'm going to poas again in the morning to see if the line is getting darker.... might make me more of a psycho!