Over 40 ttc - August baby dust for me!

Mine was day surgery too, if it's anything like mine they like to make sure someone goes home with you and have someone there with you for 24 hours after. Is there a friend you could ask?

They're super careful on the day, a lot of questions get asked over and over again so just tell them everything and I'm sure they'll take every precaution.

I think it’s just the day but I have the slight tricky problem that I’m not supposed to drive after and I haven’t told anyone but my partner and he can’t get the time off.

Is the op at a hospital? Can they send you for a scan there? They wouldn’t operate if there was any risk of harm.

@Karigan198 definitely explain to them. I had a lump removed (luckily was benign) and they tested me even though I had said I wasn't pregnant and wasn't trying. Explain that you're late, perhaps they'll do it by blood first. You could always call up the ward first. When I went for mine there was a number I could call if I had any worries. I hope it all goes ok. Are you just in for the day? xx

Ladies I need advice.

I think I’m getting a repeat of the May June fiasco. Again 3 weeks late with excessive CM and mega sore boobs but testing negative (again). Last time that happened I only confirmed I was pregnant with a scan.

I have to have an operation on Monday. This will include x rays and anaesthetic. I know from experience that medical professionals just look at you funny when you say you think you might be pregnant but testing negative. Obviously I can’t be sure without a scan but I can’t get one before the op. What’s the best thing to do? Normally they rule it out by testing but they don’t seem to work on me.

I can’t cancel the op as they found a mass on a scan and they need to find out if it’s a malignant tumour or not (probably not as low chances)

Amazing Faith! Great news and great to hear from you. Good luck and keep in touch!

Welcome Crivit, Dinah and Ficidy. Here's the new list:

Alibaba: 42, dds 8 & 6, ttc 2 years
Angel: 42, 3 dds, angel boy Ollie
Apple: 42, mmc, tfmr, chemical, mc, ttc#1 three years
AtrocityNeedles: 44, ttc#1
Booseys: 46, ds, ttc 2.5-3 years
Chat: 45, 5dc, 3 mc, 1 cp
Chendy: 40, poss thinking about ttc#3
Claire: 44
Clara: 45, ttc #3
Cleo: 41, dc 5 & 7, mmc May, ttc 15 months
Cookie: 40, ttc#1, 3 months
Critter: 40, ttc#1, doing IVF
Crivit - 44, ttc#1
Dicky: 40, ttc#3
Dinah - 44, dc 2(?), mc March, ttc since May
Eloisa: 45, dc 4, ttc 2 years
Emma: 41, ttc#1, mc in May
Emmalou: 42, dc 17, 10, 6
Faith: 43, dd 3.5, 2 mc, ttc 2 years, BFP!!!
Ficidy - 42, dc 5 & 2 (IVF)
Helbelle: 42, mmc at 40, dd 14 months, BFP!!!
Hmmm: 41, 1dc, ttc 1 month
Hobbes: 41, ds 5, ttc 3.5 years, ectopic, IVF, cp, 2 mcs
Karigan: 40.5, ttc since Jan, 1 mc
Lapsed: 43, ttc #1
Letsdothis: 43, ttc #1
Leezo: 39, ttc #1, 1 mc, 1 cp
LittleMimosa: 42, dc 5 & 7, ttc 18 months
Matts: 48, dc 11 & 6, 4 cps
Mellongoose: 42, dd 3.5, ttc 2 years
Minime: 41, ttc #1 for 23 mths, 1 cp and 1 mc in march
Mondaycando: 44, ds 8 & 7
Nor: 44, ds 3, Patau's loss, ttc #2
Orchid: 41, dc 2.5, ttc >1 year, mc June
PollyIndia: 43, ds, ttc 18 months
Presh: 39, ttc#1, mmc 2017, Graves disease
Shiny: 40, dd 3, tfmr 2017, mc April
Sparrow: 43(?), ds 1.5, doing IVF
Weasle: 42, dc 7 & 5, 2 mcs 2017, cp in March

Oh Faith..This is incredible news! Huge congratulations! I recall your TCM and wondered whether something had happened since. I thought you might have given up ttc.. i'm almost at that point now. The fact you have got thru the first trimester already is what happened with DS! And i presumed i was peri-menopausal too as i had lighter bleeding (didn't need to use tampons too) and was later each month and like you, no other symptoms Apart from a sort of nauseous feeling every morning esp when cleaning my teeth! Which incidentally i get now all the time? ! No implantation cramps and the sore boob thing i get every cycle anyway so i just sailed along completely oblivious until the 3rd month when AF didn't put in any appearance. .then the rest was incredible when we found out! Exactly as you felt too! And how are you feeling now?
Keeping the faith worked beautifully! I think i might do a fertility spell and change my passwords too as i like that idea.
Thanks for sharing and sending you loads of positive vibes xx

@Chatbash72 - I was taking baby aspirin while I was trying to conceive and then throughout my pregnancy to 36 weeks. Under the advice of a consultant so perfectly safe.

@StepAwayFromGoogle when did you start taking the baby aspirin... I have had 2 mc so far this year and was wondering if I needed to add it to my list of vits ( pre natal, omega 3,6,9 and now ubiquinol) I think I took it with my first but not any subsequent kids... big congrats too.... xx

@KeepingTheFaith9 congratulations that is wonderful news... hope the next 6 months is a lot smoother..
we were supposed to be going away today, but hubs didn't check the passports and one of us is out of date.. stress levels out the window.. but can follow you for next week before enforced internet break.. sending baby dust to you all

Congratulations

I’m getting worried I AM pregnant. I tried to avoid this cycle as I have to have an operation which has been fast tracked due to it being kind of an emergency.

Still no AF however and this sure as heck isn’t anovulatory as my boobs have grown and are sore. I’m at the point where I guess I either am or I’m due on soon.

Left it a week to try testing again. Will try again tomorrow.

Many congratulations Faith, wishing you a healthy remainder of your pregnancy.

(...goes away and cracks open the DHEA that I've been procrastinating over for months!)

Orchid - thank you for starting us up again.
@Faith and @Step what lovely news both to keep us all going.

So am on cd29 and feel dreadful - brewing a cold, load of af symptoms all week but nothing and just started a new job so a duvet day is not an option. Roll on the weekend. May you all have much shinier Thursday's than me.

Faith, this is brilliant news, and great advice as well! I'll do a new list for our new thread tonight.

Thank you everyone. I have been waiting patiently to post, and has each week has gone by, more hopeful that I could. After having spent so long trying it feels surreal to be here. Orchid, I took the DHEA as I figured I had nothing to lose and Google seemed to recommend it!! Also, a friend of mine who has had a lot of IVF suggested I give it a go, she told me that lots of clinics recommend it and that her ‘fertility boards’ were awash with it. Tbh I don’t know if it was the DHEA or the TCM or even me being (thanks to the wisdom on this forum) that little bit more clued up about my body each month...

The DHEA May have improved my egg quality - I don’t know, it did make me a tad spotty, but I rode that pesky wave (Orchid I have 1/3 of a tub of the Biovea tablets left if you want them - let me know)

What I do know is that this pregnancy was the total opposite in terms of symptoms (ie there wasn’t any kind of clues, no niggles or implantation type pulling or sore boobs or much at all really, I seriously thought I was just peri-menopause and things had dried up. On that note, my last period lasted for 1.5 days and was so light I didn’t even wear anything for protection... (!) I had always feared my light periods meant rubbish lining, clearly this is a myth which may give encouragement to some of you with increasingly lighter flows.

I always tried to keep positive and knew that all the time there was a period, I had a chance. I also changed all my passwords (phone, laptop, bank etc) to positive phrases like ‘believe’ and ‘InGodWeTrust’ and ‘keepthefaith’ as I believe writing these daily keeps me repeating positive affirmations daily - this helps me a lot.

Well ladies, this is all from me for now. I will keep in touch. Take care, and baby dust to you all. XxxX BELIEVE you can and you are half way there. X.

Faith, that is so helpful and encouraging. I ocassionally look at this 40+ thread. I have just turned 43 with a 13 month old and had a MMC at 10 weeks in March. I am going to use your story to help me believe I can have a sibling for my DC. You must have been almost exactly my age within a month or two when you conceived! So exciting for you to be expecting a baby son!

Just read the thread! Amazing news @KeepingTheFaith9 !! Congratulations, so happy for you. Wonderful news xxx

Here I am, forgot it was August! x

Oh my god faith what amazing news!!! We haven't had a BPF for so long, I'm thrilled for you!!! You must keep us updated!! So many congratulations, a boy, how lovely

FAITH - I have tears of joy for you after reading your post. Amazing and thank you for sharing. Wishing you all the very best xx

That's amazing news @KeepingTheFaith9, thank you for your story xxx

Hi ladies. Just checking in after what seems like an exceedingly long time away. I’ve been here in the background keeping up to date with all your news, welcome to the newcomers Dinah and Ficidy and God bless Denise Lewis.

So my fertility sisters - my reason for not writing has been superstition largely, having had 2 MCs in the past and being aware of the high number of losses before 12 weeks, I just wanted to keep a low profile.

On June 21st, midsummer’s day - I contemplated doing a fertility spell - I’ve done spells in the past and some of them have appeared to work - so I thought I’d give it a go. But before I did, I had to rule out the week of nausea I had been battling. My brother in law had a similar viral thing and I’d put it down to that.

I went to £land like I had a million times before and bought 3 tests. Waited for my DD to get in the bath and then took one, barely bothering to consider the result - as I knew it would be negative - I nearly fell on the floor when it was positive. I did the remaining 2 and they were the same. I was in total shock.

As some of you might remember - following the TCM during Jan-April my period went MIA. When it was late by 18 days there were no alarm bells, just irritation that the TCM (or was it the DHEA) had messed my cycles up.

I calculated I was almost 7 weeks pregnant. I had had NO symptoms - not one little itch, twinge or sign - other than the sickly state of affairs and that wasn’t constant.

The day after I’d taken the test, as if by clockwork - things started to feel strange and a bit more real.

I managed to persuade my GP to get me along to the EPU for a scan. There was a heartbeat. I was almost 8 weeks at that point.

I booked the Panorama (with micro deletions as extra) for 9 weeks - hoping I’d make it that far.

I did - a week later - now just over 10 weeks, the result came back. Low risk on all counts. The gender was revealed - the baby was a boy.

I had another private scan at 11 weeks and today I went for my dating scan and Nuchal. All seems well, baby has everything in the right place for growing.

I am now 12 weeks and I’m high risk because of age and previous placental abruption.

I will live in fear till 20 weeks now, but not much I can do but hope, pray and be positive baby develops normally.

I am still in shock. So much so that so far I have only told DH, my Mum and best mate (and now all of you!!)

My daughter will be 4 tomorrow. This time 4 years ago I was in labour, 29 weeks - at the same unit I went today for my scan. I have prayed so many times for God to let me walk back info that ante-natal dept - today my prayers were answered.

I will be 44 in 3 weeks. I have been trying to get pregnant for over 2 years

My dear fertility sisters - it DOES and can happen.

I just kept believing and that carried me through, along with a faith that tells me things that are meant for you - won’t pass you by.

It is still early days for me, I will never be complacent - and I will probably spend the next 6 months in total fear and irrational thinking - BUT just for today, I am pregnant and I thank God, the Universe and this community of support for keeping me sane and focussed on the end goal.

I’ll keep in touch. Wishing you all continued strength and hope - KEEP THE FAITH.

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