Over 40 ttc - August baby dust for me!

I can also add to the weight gain thing. I'm really slim (naturally) spent most of my adult life trying to gain weight, no luck. Then from last year I've slowly gained over a stone! (The weight is still climbing....) I'm delighted! I now wear leggings!!!!!! This would have been unheard of last summer..... but I also thought this must also be a bad sign as it's so out the blue.... got to be menopause related......

Good luck mellon!
Mimosa I think I'm heading into a long drawn out month like you had recently. Tried to dtd last night but dried up like an old hag. I'd normally be ovulating today but opk's are getting lighter and cbfm is still showing low. I'm starting to suspect it might be the alcohol I drank on holiday, as my cycles had got a lot better after cutting down on drinking before.
Interesting what you say about larger ladies. I've notoliced that most of the pregnant ladies I know that have been older have been generally healthy weights, neither too thin or too fat, but younger women I've seen are often larger. I think when your body has to fight to deal with anything else, or compensate any deficiencies the first thing it drops is fertility.

Monday - yes this is a crazy ride we are on, and it's unfortunately often long and with no outcome!
That was cheerful wasn't it?! You can tell I'm having a shitty cycle

My body hates me - thought I'd got away with a light af after 2 cycles with no copper coil and we could start on day 8 with every other day but no, bright red bleeding since lunchtime so tomorrow is not looking hopeful. I had an op earlier in the year and on the "morning after" round the younger Dr / surgeon said there was quite a large fibroid (quickly outspoken by the older one saying it wasnt that big!) so reckon thats not helping things, one was picked up in a pregnancy scan years ago so it's obviously still there. My gynae history is one of very quick conceptions so this while actually ttc and mind games is new. Huge love and respect to those of you who have had months and months of physical and mental pain, I'm thinking about it so much only at the start of the 2nd full cycle x

Hi Cleo glad you had a good holiday and you got a mental break from thinking about ttc. I’m feeling the same as we’re on a ttc break too for a couple of months. It was just getting too stressful.
The only thing I can say about opks is that I get a fairly strong line most of the month. Not positive but strong. I once read that LH can be higher in older women so it can make using opks tricky. I’d go off body signs if I were you.
That’s interesting what you said about waistlines. That makes sense. On a similar note I’ve recently noticed loads of quite overweight pregnant people. Sorry it this offends anyone, it’s merely an observation and not a criticism, I only mention it because it got me wondering if Mother Nature prefers a bit of meat on a mama. I say this as a skinny girl so I’ve been upping my calories to send a message to by body that times are good to have a baby!

Sorry Cleo. I'm no help! Still waiting for af. I have symptoms which could be either. Won't test until Monday. If it's a bfn I too will enter the world of opks. Good luck!

So, I decided to ditch temping as its way to stressful, but stick with opk's as they are more straight forward and reliable. So of course they are messing me around this cycle and causing stress.
Has anyone had an opk line get lighter after being dark early in the cycle (before usual ov time) with no signs of ewcm? I had a fairly dark line on cd9 so thought ov must be approaching (my usual is cd12 or 13) but now on cd11 opk line is almost non existant! Why oh why can it just not be simple??

@starsandstuff my hubs is one of 6, but a very dysfunctional blended family so we have quite a few.. and a large age gap between big ones and little ones but being an auntie has it ups and downs

Last weeks brewing cold then af finally arriving have done me in the last few days (I admit, days 28 & 29 I did poas because I've forgotten how much af and early preg symptoms are alike!). CD5 now so hoping I perk up enough to start bd tomorrow / Thurs. I know we are probably deluding ourselves that I am still young enough to conceive dc3 but it's fun trying.

Haha stars, yes that could put a potential dampner on plans!

Boosey, sorry you are not feeling too positive. It can get to us so much when it's just not happening, but we have to also look at stories like faith's and step's. It CAN still happen! I'm just going into things with a bit more of a casual approach now I think.
I have also put on loads of weight over the summer, but to be honest, the food (and wine) on holiday was amazing so I don't care.....

Welcome Marty & Teacup. This thread is hugely popular now!
Karigan.. Glad the op went ok and hope you're recovering well. So strange about lack of AF again..
Cleo..interesting about women's waists sort of disappearing in peri-men. I've put on nearly half a stone over the summer and feel v unfit so can't be helping the whole ttc thing. But like you i'm having to come to terms with it not happening now. DS will be an only but he's not bothered one bit! DH would love another but we're hardly in the position to consider it seriously anyway so ttc has always been 'if it happens it happens, if it doesn't then that's how it is'. I presume i've just finished ovulating and had some pretty unbearable cramps and def what looked and felt like fertile mucus but we only dtd twice and when i should have done it, i was in pain and it was too hot. So there's always something stopping me. I'm just too scared i think. I'm 46 and feeling exhausted every day. Anyway sorry for moaning!

Aw @Cleozeta sorry!! I do love being an Auntie but I've no kids, so they get all my maternal side - it's maybe different when you have your own DC? Also bear in mind you sometimes have to babysit for free when you've planned a weekend in your jammies drinking gin

I've just realised that although I have felt sad that my 2 children will probably never have cousins, l had not even considered that I may never be an auntie! Am I missing out?? I think I am! DH is an only child, and my 2 sibblings are unlikely to have children (through choice) so no nephews or neices for me!

That's a lot of babies I only have 2. They're the light of my life although they're the easiest kids in the world so I'm not sure they're a realistic model for parenthood...

@starsandstuff actually nope this is my 2nd on my side but 10th on hubs side

@Chatbash72 congrats on being an Auntie (is that your first? I love being an Auntie ) but that must have been hard

Ooh @starsandstuff.. I hear you.. cuddling my new nephew was lovely but hard..

@KeepingTheFaith9 Congratulations!! I was just lurking in the last thread as I didn't have much to contribute (on now to Cycle 4) so it's lovely to check into this new one and see wonderful news! I'm also really reassured by your mention of your last light AF. My last one was only 2 days - the shortest in my life - and I was thinking "Well that's it then, it's full steam towards menopause" so that's given me some hope.

I was really sure it had happened last month. We were on a lovely holiday in a very secluded villa and DTD a LOT (TMI) and I had a week of cramping before AF was due, which I never have, and then it was a couple of days late...and nothing but BFNs. I felt very deflated even thought I know I have no right when I've only been trying a few months. But it's not helped by a friend announcing she's 4 months gone, and my DP's DD just having her 12 week scan on Friday. She started trying at exactly the same time as us coincidentally and fell pregnant immediately! I'm really happy for her but looking at the scan pics definitely left me feeling a bit wistful...

Evening everyone hope your all ok, I was just wondering has anyone tried red maca root and your opinions - I was researching and thought may balance hormones to hopefully bring af back after angel baby. It's now 15 weeks postpartum just thought may be worth a shot?! Xxxx

Hi all, well after my month of no real opk positive and no temp drop, I've started AF tonight, a whole 5 days early!!! Never happens. Last month 5 days late, now 5 days early!
Urgh, I'm feeling the same about the whole ttc, just don't know how long I can carry on but also I can't imagine not trying either......

Very happy for you @KeepingTheFaith9. Lovely news!

I'm still in the throws of the tww. AF is due on Friday or thereabouts. Although I had terrible pmt at the weekend (worse than usual) so am not holding out much hope!!!! Keeping my fingers crossed 🤞

The whole May/June saga just exhausted me and made me not want to try anymore.

@Karigan198 doing the same as you..

The whole thing was just stressing me out.
And anyway I'm now in fw and really can't bear the thought of dtd in this heat....
Might just take this cycle off altogether

Glad everything went OK with the op @Karigan198,now just have a good rest.

@TeacupTattoo I used FF and Flo but I've stuck with FF as I've found the charts more clear.