Over 40 ttc - August baby dust for me!

hello Little Mimosa! Eloisa here.
Yes it was me who recommended Julia Indichova and I'm so glad she inspired you. I think she is an amazing teacher. I've just ordered 'inconceivable' to help me with positive thinking through the first few weeks.
I did some of her visualisations and found her idea of 'meeting your child half way' really inspiring. Don't know how much that contributed to getting a BFP. But I do believe her approach is right - that fertility is in the heart and mind as much as in ovaries.

That's pretty standard now. I only saw the midwife at 8 weeks but I did see a doctor and got referred to epu for a scan at 6 weeks as I was bleeding and had already had an early miscarriage the year before.

Yep that sounds normal cookie. I made it to 10 weeks recently and never saw a doctor. Only midwife at about 8 weeks

Sorry guys, random question here. I just called up the docs and told them I believe I'm pregnant, I've been told I have to fill in a form to see a midwife at 8 weeks. Is is normal to not even speak to a doctor or anyone to confirm it's happening? Seems weird I have to wait a month before anyone knows about it.

Meant to say bled not bless!!!

@karigan198 it took 2/3 months for my hormones to settle after my mmc. I actually mc at the end of the September, bless for 2 weeks after the actual mc (5 weeks in total). Then had a weird 3 day period about 6 weeks later, then 2 35 day Cycles with normal 5 day period (had spotting around the middle of one of these - maybe ovulation...) and then conceived at the end of the January - pregnancy dated that I had had a 28 cycle! I think your body probably just needs more time xx

Im getting positive and negitive and i dont wanna go docs till i can at least see it , i was really faint but darker than what iv been getting tried a different brand negitive or very faint you can barely see

I entirely expected nothing to happen for a bit so wasn’t fussed about AF being AWOL. It’s the 3 days of spotting last week that’s weird.

Hope you get some answers soon!

Megan - I bet you’re really frustrated not knowing one way or another. Keeping everything crossed for you.

Karigan if it’s any slight help I’m still waiting on af even though i had strong ovulation signs 3 weeks ago. I’m also wondering if I had a chemical pregnancy in May and that it’s just knocked everything out of whack. Other than peri as a reason I’ve never had such a long time without a bleed. It’s so frustrating. So I feel your pain. I think our bodies can be complete mysteries to us at time even though we’ve been having periods for decades. Do you do the Yin Yoga? I know she does a couple for inducing a period and regulating things....

Karigan I think it can fluctuate massively. My first fsh was 10 (almost normal), then 6 months later it was 18.4 (nearly post menopause) and 2 months later bfp.
But I think in your case it's more likely either another mystery pregnancy or something post mc related. Have you seen a gp yet? Might be worth checking in with them after what happened last time

@culleyace mine seems to be getting lighter but im going to get more tests now

@megan18 that test was so feint I went and bought some Tesco cheapies and tested again.
The first test was 17th April and the first picture in these pictures was the Tesco test also on the 17th of April.
The second picture was test taken on the 18th of April and the 3rd was the 21st.
I hope this helps I have everything crossed for all of you. Good luck.

@culleyace i got a negitive this morning or so faint ?? But my sample was weak considering i waiting 8 hours cx

I intend to leave it another 6 days. Did a test Sunday and it was negative. Will try again next Sunday. Doubt I’ll see an AF before then.

I googled spotting instead of a period. Found a list of 22 reasons why it might happen. 3 most likely in the circumstances were: 1) pregnant, 2) hormone imbalance, 3) peri menopausal. I think 3 unlikely as when I had bloods done a few months back the results were good with no sign of that yet. Could they really differ that much in a few months?

@Meglinco this is my first test and I thought it was my eyesight but it soon became clear I was pregnant and my daughter was born in December. Good luck.

@Karigan198 can you bare to wait another few days to test again?

Test not test

I don’t really know. Last time it was obvious as I felt so bloated. A couple of things are making me wonder if I should. I’m waking up at night again etc but not enough to think ‘the rest is definitely wrong’ like last time.

Do you feel pregnant karigan? Could it be worth doing a private scan again? Or blood test?

@Karigan198 I don't have any knowledge to give you I'm afraid...i hope you are being gentle on yourself, it takes time to recover both physically and mentally. Maybe test again in 48hrs?

@Lumpy76 I'm sorry to hear about the haemorrhaging, that must have been so scary. I'd done an early mc naturally and that was bad so chose D&C for mmc but then got infection after and haemorrhaged two days later. I spent all last night waking up in a panic/in awe that I'm really pregnant hahahaha I'm knackered.

Goes without saying really that I’ve tested and it’s negative (not that that means much lol)

Can I get a brainstorm from you ladies because I don’t know wtf is going on.

Miscarriage 17.6.18
Still no AF to date.

Would be ignoring it as I know it can take time to get back on track however I had clear ovulation signs w/c 16.7.18 (loads of ewcm) and 3 days of spotting last week. Very light brown blood only.

Never had a scan etc following miscarriage as it was early and a very heavy bleed so seemed complete and dr concurred it probably wasn’t necessary.

I don’t think there is any way that this was anovulatory cycle as the signs were strong (loads of cm, very sore boobs etc). Still got sore boobs. Any ideas?

@meglinco I can see something but I don't think it's enough to be reliable. Some tests are easier to read/more definitive than others.

When was/is your period due?

If your period is late I'd buy a first response or a superdrug drug pink dye test and use it first thing in the morning.

If you can't do that go to your GP/practice nurse/family planning clinic and explain that you've had some confusing tests and ask them to test you.