Over 40 ttc - August baby dust for me!

AF has arrived. I feel silly because I'd got my hopes up.

From what I can read (I’ve never bothered with temp charting) you may be having an implantation dip in temp. If the temp rises tomorrow I’d be hopeful that this is the case!

hi Little Mimosa, Eloisa here. It's still really early days so have no idea how it will evolve and I do have very anxious moments especially after having a mc recently. Yes, I'm 45. My cycles were regular although periods extremely light (like Faith said was the case for her). I never had my hormone levels tested as apparently they change all the time anyway in our 40s. x

Wondering what you all think of implantation dip? Is it possible? 8dpo temp falls suddenly from a consistent 36.8 or 9 to 36.3! Read different theories on this but anyone had a sudden low dip then get a rise in temp before a bfp? Advice much appreciated.

Sorry for the ladies having a rubbish time.....

Nothing much to update except I think I've had an early ovulation again, I'm Day 9 and it's clearly happening today. (Big temp drop and fairly positive stick) downside is husband only available tonight as been away!!! So probably too late 🙄

@cleozeta feeling for you! I had my mmc just a few months before my 40th birthday. It devastated me. It broke my relationship with my parents for over a year (couldn’t accept my mums comments about it & my Dad backed her). Ruined that Christmas and my 40th birthday completely. I really had to grieve for the loss. I have subsequently had a child since then but I suffered terrible anxiety throughout that pregnancy to the point of being totally convinced it would end in disaster. Looking back I think I maybe should have sought more help for this but when mentioning to midwives and my consultant they brushed it off completely.

Aw Cleo I’m so sorry. You must still be so sad about your miscarriage.
When I eventually ovulated this cycle yes I probably did have general rumblings in my (one) ovary in the run up to it. Almost like it was waking up. Don’t stress yet. It’s still well within normal time frame for ovulation. You’ll love Inconceivable. I’ve also since read her other book Fertile Heart which is more of a guide to getting pregnant (inconceivable is her story) with all the visualizations etc.
Eloisa - thanks for your reply. How’s the pregnancy going? If I remember rightly you’re 45? Can I ask you if your cycles had started to go a little odd at all? Any early peri signs?
Cookie - I remember feeling like you with regards to not seeing anyone until 8 weeks with my pregnancies. Odd feeling.

The ttw sucks especially when it turns in 3 weeks you get hopeful and then bam the bitch arrives... sending baby dust to those of you in limbo.. ⭐️⭐️⭐️

Sorry Cleo and Karigan and others.

Cookie I'm not sure if I feel differently. Obviously I'm heightened to everything so I don't know if my body is playing tricks on me! I guess I'm pretty sluggish, there are twinges across my tummy. Sometimes it feels like AF is coming but then nothing. Boobs are more tender than normal but not hugely.

Echoing my thoughts there Cleo. Limbo sucks

I wish I was in the 2ww!! Instead in the limbo wait, no idea when / if I will ov this cycle.
Always so grateful for the lovely, blissful, hopeful 2ww.

Actually sod that, I should be 24 weeks pregnant now, not hurtling towards menopause

Thanks @TeacupTattoo, i think i've been overly symptom spotting since ovulation..every twinge was reassuring then 7dpo, nothing. I even got the mandatory pre af zit today but still a week to go before af due, so just got to keep hopeful. At least its only a 1ww now. Anyone else on their 1ww? How are you feeling?

I’ve only had symptoms before a test when I’ve got pregnant but not known - when not having periods...I’ve started to feel slightly nauseous so tested. I try to leave it as long as possible to test...it seems with this one I was 4 weeks 4 days when I tested - worked out from ovulation at cd 18 - which I caught on an opk. I’m still feeling ok at 5 w 1 day - gained some water weight as would be normal for me but not really anything else!

@wimsywon I've never had any symptoms before a test...maybe disliking the smell of coffee for my first two but that's it - it's hard to tell if you've feeling grotty with pmt or bfp so please don't give up hope.

Ohh Mellon you are in limbo a bit, do you feel any different?

Hey @wimsywon, still too early to have any symptoms and you may not have any and still get a BFP! I didn't get much CM at all so never tracked it. Only started noticing things from 12dpo and even then I could find reasons why it wasn't pregnancy related.

Hi all. I'm 7dpo today. All symptoms gone, feeling really sad because i was on a roll with high temps, sore boobs, a little creamy cm but suddenly nothing :( af due in 7 days...am i out this cycle? Feeling so upset right now. Anyone else get a sudden stop to all possible symptoms at this stage but still got a bfp? Please advise ladies, i'm feeling hope less :(

STILL no AF If there's nothing by Friday I will test then. But if it's a BFN how long should I just stay in limbo?! I had one cycle which was one week late about 6 months ago so that's why I'm going to wait until Friday.

I'm such s novice!

Ahh @Chatbash72 :( how disjointed can they be... I also think it's crazy that I have to get to the surgery (find some transport) to pick up a paper form and fill it in. For someone who works in IT this feels so backwards to me.

Chemical pregnancy???

Yup sadly @CookieWaffle I had bleeding, scan, miscarriage and then the midwife phone up to make a booking in appointment!!

@Karigan198 I had similar last cycle.. had af as normal then spotting for 3 days a couple of weeks into cycle, can Home ( sorry was away) did test was bfp then following morning was bfn and then af turns up 5 days late ???

They just take your word for it cookie!

Eloisa I have purchased inconceivable too, not started reading it yet, but will do when the children are back at school.

Mimosa - or anyone else who has had a delayed or anovulatory cycle recently, did you get overy pains? I'm having that today cd16 but with blank opk's and no cm. Not sure what that could mean? Are my overies chugging away trying to do something? Or are they dying a slow and painful death? Anyone ever had this?

mellon fingers crossed for
cookie with my youngest, I don't remember seeing anyone til about 8 weeks so sounds pretty normal.

Lots of cramping this morning on cd12 so collared husband when he got in from work while kids watching tv , managed dtd on days 8, 9 & today so far. Hoping to get another couple in this week too.

Thanks guys, I was thinking, does nobody want to check that I'm telling the truth? I'll need to call them again as I have to stop some of my medication. Didn't ask at the time as I was so surprised.

@mellongoose if it's any help I'm 17dpo and my tests are still faint. I was expecting blazing positives by now but as my temp is still high, I'm still hot, crampy, weeing alot and no AF I'm gonna assume all is ok!

Sounds normal @CookieWaffle. I remember feeling really underwhelmed!!!

So I've just done another test and it's still BFN. I'm 4 days late. This has happened occasionally and I'll probably have got AF by this Thursday. If not, then I'm stumped! Do BFPs normally show by now? I guess I'm approx cd32 and 18dpo?

I'd like to be heartened by stories of late BFPs if anyone has any!! I'm probably clutching at straws.