Over 40 ttc - August baby dust for me!

So looks like I've had another CP, 2 in 2 months. God this TTC is hard. I have a scan on 28th but I think I know its over already.

@mellon I feel your pain and confusion ghost periods and symptoms are a cruel joke being played by our bodies. welcome to the new posters!

I am full on research mode into IVF, difficult throughout working day and I am now self guilting myself into not moving quicker.

Hi Raffey, you say bleedig has started 2.5 weeks after mc. Do you mean 2.5 weeks after mc started? How long did the bleeding last afterwards? Or do you mean 2.5 weeks after mc finished? If you mean after it finished then that's probably about right, as you may have ovulated once bleeding stopped.

I bled for about 3 or 4 weeks, then ovulated around the time bleeding was light brown and fading off, meaning 1st af came nearly 2 weeks after that, so would have been around 5 or 6 weeks after mc started if I remember rightly. Cycles went back to normal after that.

I use opk's, they are mostly reliable, although I sometimes miss the 'peak', I rely on watching them get darker. I also temped for a while, as you see the confirmation rise after ov has happened, although I found that quite stressful as it didn't always do what I expected! Just ordered an ava bracelet instead.

Morning ladies, I’ve started bleeding today 2.5 weeks on from my miscarriage .. Is this delayed miscarriage bleeding? Surely too early for AF to return?! Gutted because hubby and I are off to Crete for a week on Saturday and were hoping to get busy ttc! Whether this is mc or AF, I am obviously going to be in the wrong place in my cycle . Hey ho, maybe it’s best to wait for AF to return anyway so I can start tracking my cycles again. Would you all recommend OPK? I’ve never used them, I usually have a very regular 28 cycle and ttc days 9-14 has never failed me yet ;D I believe mc can alter your cycles though so I may not be able to rely on that method going forward!
@mellongoose I know exactly how you feel about your body playing mean tricks, I continued to have sore boobs, nausea, heightened sense of smell, fatigue and increased appetite for days after my mc .. You don’t mind the suffering when you’re actually pregnant but it’s just cruel when there’s no baby inside. Big hugs xx

hi Lumpy! Only 4+4. Did the test last weekend. Know what you're feeling! x

Welcome @Russkispy and @Raffeylou... we need a list update xx

Thanks @CookieWaffle . I'm just glad there are other options out there if/when needed it. And congratulations on your BFP! Here you your healthy pregnancy!

Ahh @Russkispy I can understand that. I think if we hadn't had a sniff of anything in 6 months I would be looking for further help too. Sorry to hear about the MC. xx

@CookieWaffle здравствуйте! I've also been using preseed. But haven't been lucky enough to fall pregnant naturally. Hence IUI every time. Having said if we TTC naturally longer than 5 months in 2016, maybe it would have happened?! But I got impatient, didn't want to see another BFN, and went for IUI in the 6th cycle. We started TTC#2 in January this year, I had a polyp removal and endometrial scratching in March , skipped a cycle and in May had our IUI. Sadly it ended in a missed miscarriage.

Glad you joined us @Raffeylou and Здравствуйте @Russkispy

I never tried the grapefruit method but I swear using preseed this month helped me. Or the bloodmoon. If that's a lucky thing.

I'm quietly stressing unnecessary at the moment, had pink and dark brown wiping weirdness all day. Apparently could be normal but I keep expecting AF to appear. I'm still hot and tired but can't shake the feeling of losing this one!

Welcome Russ

@Martydog , can't remember where I read about it but to drink till OV day then switching to eating pineapple and its core from 1dpo-5dpo

I’m not sure if it was on this thread or another someone recommended drinking grapefruit juice as it can increase ewcm (sorry if tmi) well I started it 3 days ago and it’s horrible but needs must. Does anyone know how long into the cycle I should drink it.

@weasledee , thank you inviting me, over 40, to this thread. I'm still on the miscarriage thread.
Me 42
DD 14 months, conceived with IUI when I was 40, (first try and successful)
TTC #2
May 2018 - another IUI, first try and again successful but sadly ended in missed miscarriage. Found no HB at 8 weeks.
Had my first AF since MMC a couple of weeks ago. Starting TTC right away and already talking about the next IUI if nothing happens in the next couple of cycles. And potentially IVF.
IUIs were done back home. And IVF would be as well if it comes to it.
Haven't caught up with the threats just yet, but sorry about BFNs and congratulations to BFPs

Hi ladies! So happy to find this thread . Found myself nodding along as I read all your stories, the highs and lows are quite something aren't they.
I turned 40 in May and am shortly due to start ttc my second child .. again. DS is two, he was conceived first try when I was 37 and I was lucky enough to enjoy a textbook pregnancy. Last month DH and I decided to actively try for a second child. We were aware of the gloomy statistics and anticipated it taking ages so were amazed and delighted when again I conceived first go. Naively I envisaged a problem-free pregnancy like last time and was more excited than cautious, but sadly I miscarried at 5 weeks which really knocked me for six :(
I never wanted to become obsessed with having a second child (hubby and I always said if it happened then fantastic but if not, we were already blessed to have our little boy), however the loss of this baby has hit hard and I feel desperate to conceive again. Partly because I want that wonderful, exciting feeling of being pregnant back, and partly because the miscarriage has brought home the fact that I am running out of time (and good eggs)! It has certainly lent a sense of urgency to the situation and we are keen to try again as soon as possible. However if I am fortunate enough to conceive again, I’m scared that I’ll be too paranoid about another miscarriage to relax and enjoy the pregnancy! That said, I realise that I may have to go through this ordeal a few times before we hit upon the ‘golden egg’ ..
I have today started taking low dose aspirin, primrose oil, omega 3 fish oil, prenatals, folic acid and I'm about to order some royal jelly and Ubiquinol online (I bought Co-enzyme Q10 but read Ubiquinol is a much more powerful version) - physically it may not help a jot but mentally I'll know I did everything I could to help myself!
Would love to share this journey with others in the same boat

Ooh @mellongoose sending big hugs... we've all had moments like that..... rest up and take care of you... @Lumpy76 had a m/c 2.5 yrs ago 2 weeks before my sis had hers and fell out big style with my mum over it... still not the same and I am just about coming to terms with that, with some councilling... she was vicious, still is and thinks the number of kids I have is obscene 😞 wouldn't tell her if I was lucky enough to fall preg again..,
Sending big hugs 💕

Thank you for being so kind. I'm very grateful to have this thread with people who understand the crushing disappointment. I feel like my body has played a nasty joke on me. Today I felt nauseous at the raw chicken on the work top - just like when I am actually pregnant.

DH is happy to keep trying and is full of cuddles and nice words too. I'm sitting on my DD's bed while she sleeps. I feel very lucky for what I have already. Maybe I shouldn't be greedy. However, tomorrow is a new cycle and I can't kick this feeling. You all know it, I'm sure. Like my ovaries are doing my thinking for me

Lots of love and energy to you all.

Thanks cleo, I'll keep using my opk's then and see if I notice anything

I think so weasle! when I had that experience before, I did a lot of research about it and it did seems to be a thing, although it's usually within a few days

@user1483961138 hi! How far along are you...if you don’t mind me asking...I’m 5 +2 and nervous as hell!

Cleo yes usual for me, have always been a day 14 girl....
You know u said it can happen more than once per month, have you seen that on a opk stick? That's interesting!

Ahh Mellon :( you're in no way being silly, I'd have been exactly the same. Please take some time to treat yourself and as the ladies say, onwards and upwards xx

Aw mellon , don't feel silly, I spent the last week of last month hoping that we'd hit lucky and my AF symptoms were really pg ones so you're not alone.
Need to get some action tonight as will be cd13 even though I've no ov symptoms (can't face opk sticks as they seem too complicated & we're only trying for a few months anyway as a last blast).

Mimosa- thanks, I think mine was rumblings thankfully, as yesterday I had a massive blob of ewcm and today I got high on my cbfm and a good (but not quite positive) line on an opk, so things are finally moving. It looks like karrigan was right and ov could be happening exactly a week late, so maybe it was the holiday shaking things up. Relieved!!
How is your cycle going now? Everything returned to normal? How many days was that cycle in the end?
Lumpy - sorry you had such a hard time after your mmc, as if it isn't hard enough already.
Weasle - is it unusual for you to have early ov? Mine crept forward a while back too (aside from this cycle) my average seems to be cd12, although they do say as we get older we spit out eggs more often. I say more opportunities to get it right!
Wimsy - I had an implantation dip with my recent bfp. It went much lower than coverline on 4&5dpo then shot up super high at 6dpo (I know that seems early but that's what happened!) After 6dpo it kept rising, I thought at the time I may have ovulated again as tge dip & rise was so dramatic.
Mellon - sorry af arrived, I'm sure we all understand that disapointment, especially when hopes are so raised. Onwards and upwards to the next cycle.

Don’t feel silly :) we’ve all been there. It’s another chance to try again. Good luck for the next cycle