Too early for a September bus?

@buntingandstarcharts I'm a carer so I'm afraid I have no advice as I work in respiratory. I hope you get your BFP soon, anything's worth a try.
@Wishful30 I'm sorry your going through so much will the nhs not attempt to take over where your private drs left off or would you need to go through the whole process again? Sending love and baby dust x

Day 27 of 27 or 28 day cycle and still bfn yesterday but still awful afternoon nausea same as with my dd and (tmi) but lots of creamy white discharge down below never seen since last pregnancy!

@Wishful30 this sounds so so so stressful. You poor poor thing. The most frustrating thing is not actually being able to identify the issue that's preventing it. It sounds like you've had every test and investigative procedure under the sun 😭 What have the private doctors suggested doing next? I had the blood tests - Came back fine and then an internal scan and I had an enormous cyst inside the left ovary, this had been preventing ovulation every other month. So my 11 months of trying actually equates to only 5! Anyway, an operation later and I'm back trying again. It's emotionally hard work. Did you say how long you'd been trying for? I'm worried because I'm a bit chunky (but happy and fit), and maybe that's preventing pregnancy. But can being overweight stop pregnancy if you have regular periods and normal hormone levels etc? Very interested in this. Thanks for all your knowledge and lots of hugs ❤️❤️❤️

@buntingandstarcharts
Sorry to see you here too. It's a long process sadly.
I've been seeing a fertility specialist privately, so paying as you go means they pretty much do everything as they don't have to worry about spending the NHS money. And things move a lot faster!
IUI is Intra Uterine Insemination.
DH has been check and is all good.
I've had lots of blood tests, dye put into my uterus and tubes with X-rays. Many, many ultrasound scans... in so over the amount of people that have had their head between my legs and internal procedures of some description. It is rediculous, but by the time I do have a baby it's really going to be second nature 🤦🏻‍♀️

I'm taking tablets to help mature the follicles, but the new doctor tells me it makes the lining thinner. So wants me on injections next month. (I have no more money for next month)
I want to know why the previous doctor didn't even blink at the 5.3mm result when this one wants me over 7mm 🤨
Annoyed and fed up now really.
We have had a pretty shit year too, so I don't think that has helped much. And I need to loose weight too, 'that will help immensely' says the doc.
Tho I see all these overweight people (including my own sister with 3kids)
Much bigger than me pregnant and pushing prams 😞
It's such an brain f* and abs so time consuming with all the times and dates.

I've stopped charting. I'm poas because I have to.
After this one I'm going to take a break and re evaluate my options I think

I just ordered the double pack FRER from amazon due to arrive tomorrow 8dpo so ready in time for testing from 9dpo 😬 I just can’t wait any longer. I am prepared for a BFN with testing that early but there is always that little glimmer of hope that I might get a squinter to obsess over!

This month we DTD cd 15,16 & 17. I got my positive OPK CD16. We would have normally started earlier but OH was away with work

@Wishful30 I recognise you from the monthly 'buses' we've both been on (for months!). I'm so sorry you've had I tough, what is IUI? It may sound silly but have you had all the blood tests, and sperm checked? It's so so shitty when you get your hopes up every month and have them dashed again. Also, push for more than one cycle of blood tests aka not just a one off check for ovulation. It will show if both ovaries are working properly. You've probably done all of this. I'm just in this stage now. You need hugs x

Also - that's very interesting about only the slowest 10% not making it. That's pretty low, I feel better about that!

@ImpatientMammy I'm on cycle 11 so I'm getting pretty desperate! To be honest, forcing a plastic plug up there after sex is pretty repulsive (and as far from sexy as you get!) I thought it might be more helpful than legs in the air for half an hour which gets pretty impractical. Are you a nurse (you mentioned night shifts), if so, any tips? Xxx

@sbhf1987 I got a +ve OPK on CD15, O’d on CD16. We dtd CD8, 11, 13, 15, 16, 17

We were aiming for every two days ish until I knew when I was ovulating (had my implant out in July so wasn’t sure when my cycle would kick in properly again)

Ladies can I ask how often you DTD? Only my second month using OPKs. I O’d CD16 last month. Currently CD13 and DTD CD11&12. Planning on just doing it every night this week? Currently on day 3 of my flashing smiley but had 5 last month before my peak so hoping I O a day earlier this month like Fri so we can have a rest next week lol. I’ve read mixed things about every night or every other. My Glow app congratulated me for DTD 2 nights in a row then said to do it every other day? Only our second cycle so no assumed issues with DH sperm? X

@wishful30 sorry it's been so tough for you... sending positive thoughts back your way. Sometimes a good cry can help and we are always here for you to vent!!

Good morning ladies,

Thankyou all so much for the support. This group is always good for that.
DH feels bad and is supportive, but no one truely understands how difficult it can be unless you're actually going through it.

Good luck everyone in the 2ww and testing soon x

@buntingandstarcharts I have heard of it didn't even think of it possibly acting as a spermaside. I've heard that any sperm that doesn't make it before you stand up (which is apparently just the slowest 10%) doesn't stand much chance at all of making it to the egg anyway. On the other hand I learnt all this through google on a night shift so possibly not the most reputable source 😂🙈 x

Hello ladies... good luck to all I was wondering whether anyone has ever heard of using a menstrual cup (like a moon cup or soft cup) to catch the sperm next to the cervix after DTD? I saw that this was 'a thing' on another TTC forum. I know it probably sounds far fetched but I'm willing to try anything! Part of me wonders whether the plastic they're made from might harm the sperm more than help them! What are your thoughts? X

@Wishful30 TTC journey can be so hard and is such a rollercoaster ride of emotions. Fx for you. You are not broken at all. It's hard when it feels like everyone you know and women everywhere you look are pregnant!!

Fx for all of us. No symptoms here this month and definitely no early testing for me, not after doing 6 (yep 6) frers last month and a pack of Tesco ones too where I had evaps on both. I will be testing on 6th which also happens to be my 5 year wedding anniversary. I don't have high hopes for this month, feel a bit glum about it!

@Wishful30 I'm so sorry to hear that, stay strong. You are not broken! You'll get there x

It's going to be a busy week next week!!! Let's hope it's BFPs all round!

I’m due af on the 5 th . Having twinges today on the right hand side of my stomach . I’ve no real clue about the cervix thing but it’s high and very soft .
These could all be me totally tricking myself though especially as I spent the day with 4 week old twins ... I def would not want twin ! As gorgeous as they are very very hard work in the early days .
Veboo and everyone else due about the same I’m also going to try not to test too early but I dunno how I will feel about that next week!
It’s my wedding anniversary a a week on sat so that would be nice ... but unlikely to wait ! X

@em254 absolutely no symptoms here either. I usually get terrible cramps 3 days before AF so I think I'll know by Monday if I am out. Fx for us

@em254 I actually think you are right. I didn't have any symptoms when I've been pregnant before so I have no idea why I'm so obsessed with finding symptoms now lol 😂

Veeboo, Newbie21 I’m currently 5/6DPO too and having absolutely no symptoms. I’m willing them but nadda! I’m starting to think that no symptoms is a symptom 😂😂

Sending you a huge hug @wishful30 we are all here for you. x

@Wishful30 keep the faith. Your gp sounds optimistic. Be kind to yourself this week x

@Newbie21 I am sticking with you..not testing until late which is 6th Sept for me and handily I have a go appointment for the 7th so can discuss with him either way.

Oh @Wishful30 that sounds very stressful and complicated , feel free to vent... I'm sorry you're having such a hard time of it. Are you having IUI because of undiagnosed infertility ? I fell pregnant with DD1 3.5 years after we started trying, we had been told we have "undiagnosed infertility" and were about to start our first cycle of ivf. I had literally given up on trying to conceive naturally, it got me so down and everyone around me seems to get pregnant at the drop of a hat! It's so hard ... you don't have to be strong about it , it's ok to have a good ball. Sending you