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TTC after pregnancy loss- thread 23 🐧🐧

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Boboelephant · 30/06/2018 11:58

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Here's the new thread. This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle- this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Kicking off with a roll call:

Boboelephant
Age: 35
TTC #2
DS 2.5
MMC at 10 weeks in December 2017. Ectopic rupture in November 2016.
Cycle 6 post MC. Trying since September 2016.

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Jessabean · 01/07/2018 07:58

Thanks @Boboelephant for the new thread. Sorry I haven't posted for a while. Been lurking but been working non-stop & not had chance to post for a while!

Jessabean
TTC #1
Natural MC of a 6week pregnancy at 8 weeks - 28th Dec 17
MMC of 10 week pregnancy at 12 weeks with ERPC 26th March 2018.

Just awaiting AF of cycle 3 post last MC (didn't try 1st cycle or this cycle as DH is away). He's back in time for fw for the next cycle though and in enough time for me to try SMEP so hopefully this cycle! 🤞

Congratulations @Lovemysparkle that is such great news! Honeymoon baby ❤️

littleemma1 · 01/07/2018 07:50

@Lovemysparkle HUGE congratulations!!!!!!
I am so excited for the wedding now. I do get a little pang every now and then as my 12w scan was meant to be 2 days after but thankfully the excitement takes over again!!!!!

TinyPaws · 01/07/2018 07:50

@Lovemysparkle Congratulations! Fab news!

@sweetpea0318 I think it's normal for your cycles to be a bit different post miscarriage so hopefully you are just ovulating a bit later than usual.

Littlegoth · 01/07/2018 07:42

@lovemysparkle Congratulations!

Littlegoth · 01/07/2018 07:41

Littlegoth
Age: 36
TTC #1
MC in May at 8 weeks
Cycle 2 post MC

Hoping for some regular cycles as mine suddenly became irregular when we started TTC in June 17. my pregnancy was missed (2negative tests!) and even my doctor put the very long ‘cycle’ down to suspected PCOS. So far cycles have been more in line with my pre ttc cycles so hopefully I don’t have PCOS. I do have a lot of weight to lose so I’m back on the exercise and healthy eating, hope it all helps x

robin78 · 01/07/2018 07:26

@lovemysparkle That is such great news!!! Congratulations and here's wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

robin78 · 01/07/2018 07:21

[Oops, posted this on the old thread by accident...]
Thanks for the thread @bobothelephant! New thread, new name! (previously @ek78)
Age: 39
TTC #1
MC1 (mmc found out at 10 weeks) July 2017
MC2 (mmc found out at 9 weeks) April 2018
Currently at the beginning of the 2ww

Laney79 · 01/07/2018 07:17

Wow @Lovemysparkle what fab news! Huge congrats on the wedding and BFP! Fingers crossed for the stickiest bean! Xxx

Odd thing this morn for me-I'm either CD7 or CD9 (bit odd as AF appeared to show then stopped for 36 hours before coming back proper hence the anomaly!) and have been clear of AF for three days-but just had a wee and suddenly a fair bit of deep red blood on wiping...v odd. Hoping it's just a blip and my body getting rid of something it missed during AF. We're away this weekend so kinda hoping I'm actually cd9 as that would mean good timing for JKS at our posh hotel on Tuesday! Wishful thinking though I suspect!! X

strawberrye · 01/07/2018 07:09

@lovemysparkle that's such lovely news so happy for you, congratulations on many counts!

Boboelephant · 01/07/2018 07:08

Will catch up properly later but just quickly had to say @Lovemysparkle amazing news!!!!!!!! That is brilliant and couldn't have happened to a nicer person. I'm thrilled for you! 👶❤

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sweetpea0318 · 01/07/2018 07:00

@lovemysparkle congratulations! What a lovely start to married life! Xx

I'm currently cd17 & another negative opk this morning. Worried I'm not going to ovulate this month as I've normally had positive by now. Has this happened to anyone else? This is my second cycle since mc.

HidCat · 01/07/2018 06:52

@strawberrye same for me at 9dpo. Going to hold out as long as possible before cracking open the FRER. Scratched the itch with my last ic today so will see how long I can hold out lol. AF due Thursday / Friday.

@Lovemysparkle sounds like you had an amazing time! That's incredible news about the bfp! So happy for you! Congratulations on all fronts! So lush to wake up to positive news this morning!

Lovemysparkle · 01/07/2018 06:40

Hey @boboelephant @zarala & all of you amazing ladies 👋🏼 Firstly I have been keeping an eye on you all so penguins hugs to all that need it 🐧 hi to the newbies so sorry your here but you are in the best hands with this thread!! And congrats to the recent bfp’s❤️
So here goes- our wedding was 2 weeks ago & was soooo amazing it was everything we dreamed of & more just want to do it all again!! Everything went to perfection mine & dh’s 1st dance was amazing & I also had a mother & son dance with my nearly 14 year old was so emosh!! @littleemma just take in every moment it goes so quickly!!
As a lot of you know me & dh were avoiding dtd as af was due a week before wedding so worked out perfect 👌🏼 so we dtd 3 times once as af finished, a quickie in the shower (sorry tmi!) & once day before af was due but..... af never came!!!
My cycles are 99% 26 days so we just thought af was being a bitch & I would come on for the wedding but we got a test & within seconds a bfp just hit us (dh practically fell into the bath!!) so here we both are a week before our wedding day in the bathroom mouths open like goldfish speechless!!! Dh said well how did that happen!! The month of May was the least times we dtd since we met!!!
So trying to cut a long story a bit shorter 2 days before we marry we are seeing the professor & I am put on meds straight away 150mg of aspirin, 800mg of progesterone so 400 in morning 400 at night & 20mg of prednisilone which is steroid. So only me,dh my mum & in laws knew on wedding day & we got through our fantastic day with excitement but obviously worry to! Fast forward 6 days & went on minimoon to palma nova was absolutely beautiful & lots of headspace time (we both still in such shock) also emotional as we got back Friday & planned to go to epu on the Saturday (yesterday) so all week on minimoon we were like is this working or not I was up & down like a yo-yo but as you all know it goes with the territory with recurring mc’s! So on advice from professor we went yesterday & I am relieved to say we have a little bub looking fantastic with a strong heart beat, by dates I should be 7w but she has dated me 7+5 so Edd 11th February 2019. I have been so itching to share with you all & i hope I haven’t upset anyone as that is the last thing I would want to do❤️ So we are keeping happily positive but keeping to ourselves at the moment (ovbviously very anxious) & I would like to stick around if ok with you guys??? I am due to see professor Thursday 12th July again & first antenatal appointment next Sunday, I really hope you don’t mind me sharing with you, but you ladies have kept me going for a year or so with this thread I hope I can do the same for you all❤️❤️❤️

strawberrye · 01/07/2018 06:31

Mixed feelings this morning - had cramps all evening yesterday which I was hoping might be implantation and a temp rise today, but a BFN at 10DPO on an internet cheapie. Hoping it's just too early? But I have an 11 day luteal phase so not much longer now til AF is due. Time will tell!

Still feeling more positive than I usually don't this point, I'm determined that the first crappy half of 2018 is behind me and I will have better luck in the second half. Happy July everyone!

KnitKitty · 30/06/2018 23:00

Thanks for the new thread Boboelephant

Age: 30
TTC #1
MMC and ERPC on 27th March. (Would have been 11 weeks but measured 6 weeks)
CP last cycle
Currently CD1 of cycle 4 since MC.
Trying since Dec 2017.

Welcome to the huddle those of you who are new. Sorry for your losses, but glad you have found us. xxx

So who's going to have the first BFP of this thread????? Let's hope we get lots of them this month!!!

Laney79 · 30/06/2018 22:44

Marking my place

Laney79
Age: 38 (39 in July!)
TTC #1
MMC at 9 weeks (bean measured 5) diagnosed March 2018, miscarried end of April.
Cycle 2.

Baby dust to all z

Funkyemzie · 30/06/2018 22:42

Hi everyone.

Age 37
Ttc #2
DD 10
Cycle 4 since MC at 10 weeks. Had a super short cycle this month and ovulated on cd8 so only dtd 1 time and completely missed it. Currently 12dpo but had a massive drop in temp yesterday and gone right back up again today and all my pre af symptoms have disappeared. Still not holding out much hope.

Big hugs to everyone on this thread. 🐧

charlyn · 30/06/2018 22:28

Hi everyone

Age 31
Ttc #2
Dd 5
Had an ectopic pregnancy 4 weeks ago and lost a tube due to rupture. Currently waiting for af to arrive so we can start trying again.

Hope to see lots of bfps on this thread!

dreaminofholidays · 30/06/2018 21:49

hello everyone.

age 32
ttc #1
mc end of April at 5+3
cycle 1

Currently 10dpo. tested this morning fairly certain it was a BFN but got some FRER today so will test again and see.

x

Coffeist · 30/06/2018 20:26

@YellowDaffodils86 thanks - I thought I was lucky (at my age) to conceive first cycle on both times but didn't quite work out so easily...
Good luck for everyone Flowers

Sickenedbyguilt · 30/06/2018 20:13

Thanks for the replies, I hope not hidcat we want to start tttcing asap. It's just horrible waiting for something that might not happen regarding the bleeding.

YellowDaffodils86 · 30/06/2018 20:12

@Coffeist i like the roll call to see where people are in ttc and what they have experienced, you are not the only one but one i have just read. I just wanted to say 'hugs' two mc so close too, so unfair. Good luck for a healthy sticky bean. Xx
Goes for so many of you.

@Boboelephant @hellotoyellow i bought one from ebay today, it was purple, main reason i bought it lol. Will hopefully arrive Tuesday.

Boboelephant · 30/06/2018 19:59

@littleemma1 woohoo!!! Have the best day!!
@Lovemysparkle how was your wedding??
@PassTheAfterEights are you still around hun? How are you?
@YellowDaffodils86 I use the BabyMad one. It was about £4 from amazon and works great.
@Ells0204 welcome to this lovely group and so sorry for your losses.
@fnej01 welcome and I'm so sorry for your loss. The first few weeks are the trickiest and waiting for the negative can be very tough. We are all here for you and you will get through this!
Fx for all those testing soon!

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sweetpea0318 · 30/06/2018 19:23

Hi all, Checking in!

Age 38
TTC #2 since sept 2017
DD 2.5
Mc @ 6.5 weeks at end of March
Currently in fw of cycle 2 since mc

@sickenedbyguilt so sorry you find yourself here. It is a lovely supportive group though so hope you gain some comfort from it xxx

hellotoyellow · 30/06/2018 18:47

@yellowdaffodils @boboelephant the cheapest bbt thermometer from Amazon works just fine for me!