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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC after pregnancy loss- thread 23 🐧🐧

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Boboelephant · 30/06/2018 11:58

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Here's the new thread. This is a lovely supportive thread for anyone who has suffered the loss of a much wanted baby. Affectionately known as the penguin huddle- this is the place to survive the ups and downs of this crazy journey.

Kicking off with a roll call:

Boboelephant
Age: 35
TTC #2
DS 2.5
MMC at 10 weeks in December 2017. Ectopic rupture in November 2016.
Cycle 6 post MC. Trying since September 2016.

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fnej01 · 03/07/2018 22:20

On tracking apps I've used Glow for ages to track my periods even before ttc. I just use the free version not sure how it compares to others as it was the first one I downloaded but you can log most stuff on it. (I don't temp so not sure about that) x

fnej01 · 03/07/2018 22:14

@YellowDaffodils86 thanks for asking, day was ok, glad to get back to some 'normality'. Hopefully tomorrow continues the same, although I have no doubt there will be difficult days.

Sorry not grasped everyone's names yet but the new puppy is gorgeous - congratulations!

zarala · 03/07/2018 22:06

@yukka I can't find it! can you share the link here ? Thanks x

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Boboelephant · 03/07/2018 21:53

@Lovewinemorethanhusband he's gorgeous. I hope the break is what you need! Enjoy your lovely kids and puppy.
@TinyPaws glad the clinic went well. Hope you get some nice thick lining in the next couple of days. I'm the same as you. I get different symptoms every month- cm, high temps, cramps etc. And every month my hopes get raised- it's frustrating!
@Spooples hope that line gets darker. Digi tests are less sensitive but less guesswork so.... i'd say wait a day or two and test again.
@KnitKitty it's just grapefruit juice up until you ovulate. I paired mine with apple but that was purely for taste.
@Gillead2029 could you call the EPU? Tell them that you are getting positive tests but are bleeding? Hope it's just your body sorting itself out.
@Ells0208, @Limum4 and @PurpleFushia good luck for this week testing!! 🤞🤞
@Pancakes7 hope af comes soon but try not to worry. It can take a few months for some people.
@hellotoyellow I use fertility friend too and am a fan.

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Ells0204 · 03/07/2018 21:40

@hellotoyellow I’m using Fertility Friend, I don’t even temp but it’s been pretty good so far just for logging positive OPKs and stuff. AF has showed up every day that the app has predicted so far so it must be predicting ovulation bang on too!

Ells0204 · 03/07/2018 21:36

Yes @PurpleFushia @Lilimum4 we are cycle triplets! It’s going soooo slowly. Apart from my cramps I really don’t feel anything in particular so can’t help but feel un-optimistic. AF due 1 week today according to FF. Seeing as I basically peed £30 down the toilet last cycle to end up with AF, I plan on testing with ICs until AF due date, and ONLY if she’s late will I get a FRER!

YellowDaffodils86 · 03/07/2018 21:32

@fnej01 how did your first day go today? I remember my first was ok, my second wasnt so good, but then i had the weekend and was ok after that.

hellotoyellow · 03/07/2018 21:29

Hi Pancakes, I ovulated at day 20 post SMM for MMC and then AF came about 13 days later. Next cycle I had an early miscarriage (/CP?) at 5/40 and still waiting for that AF although I started bleeding from the MC on the 14, so three weeks ago. I did have a random day of spotting in the middle. No chance of a BFP as haven't seen DP since the 17th June (currently based abroad).

What apps are people using to track? I use Clue, but i don't like how it deals with pregnancy (seems to have forgotten I ever had a real cycle). Tempted by Natural Cycles but it seems expensive. Any other free ones, or would you hugely recommend a paid for one?

YellowDaffodils86 · 03/07/2018 21:29

@HidCat Congratulations 🎉❤️hope its a sticky healthy bean for you. Xx

Lilimum4 · 03/07/2018 21:26

@Pancakes7 my last mc to AF was 33 dayshun but i be heard that it can take as long as 2 months if you still have hcg in your body. I hope AF comes soon for you x

@PurpleFushia hello cycle buddy nice to know I'm not alone this cycle lol

Yukka · 03/07/2018 21:21

@zarala have set up new thread here....3 recurrent mc's- testing and ttc again

Pancakes7 · 03/07/2018 21:12

How long after mmc did people have their af ? This is my 6th week. Will be 6 weeks since smm on Friday. Bfn. Starting to worry.

PurpleFushia · 03/07/2018 21:08

Ah @Spooples, fingers crossed for you!

Have caved and ordered digitals online, they won't be here until Thursday so going to try to avoid testing until Friday, will be 11dpo then so think that's plenty early enough!

@Ells0204 and @Lilimum4 I thought I had some cycle twins on here, we're all 8dpo! Sorry about bfns but it is early so not out yet. I'm not really feeling any symptoms apart from a little cramping on and off, have always had implantation bleeding before but nothing this time.

Lilimum4 · 03/07/2018 21:00

@Spooples thanks hun, tbh crochet is the only thing that is stopping me turning into a crazy lady.

Lilimum4 · 03/07/2018 20:58

@Ells0204 don't feel stupid I'm 8dpo too and I did an ic too bfn also bit my cramping has stop around 5dpo , so not really all that hopeful this cycle.
I really have no symptoms at all no sore boobs, no pains, no tummy upsets of any kind and my temps are already dropping.

Fx you have a little sticky bean this time xx

Spooples · 03/07/2018 20:52

@Lilimum4 that's so cute! I wish I was that creative!

Ells0204 · 03/07/2018 20:51

8dpo and cramping like mad tonight, but that also is probably something to do with the beef burger with bacon and cheese and fries I just ate...

I’m away on business and took advantage of the hotel restaurant!

Grin

Tested on an IC and BFN idiot idiot idiot

Lilimum4 · 03/07/2018 20:49

Wow didn't realise how many of us were knitters / crocheters. I made a mobile for little bean but I'm a little reluctant to donate it.

TTC after pregnancy loss- thread 23 🐧🐧
Blondcat · 03/07/2018 20:29

@Gillead2029 hope you get some clarification soon.
@spooples hope your line gets darker.
Fx for some sticky beans.

Gillead2029 · 03/07/2018 20:13

@Hidcat! Congratulations!! Crossing fingers for you and your little bean :-)

I'm still in a state of unknown! Last night I had a bit of bleeding so assumed it was my period coming (browny blood sorry tmi!) but it stopped then was very light today so I did another test. It was a bfp and slightly darker than saturdays I think. But now I'm bleeding again! I only miscarried 5 weeks ago. I've no idea what's going on with my body. Am I pregnant again or is this all just the hormones etc from the last pregnancy? :-( state of unknown!

KnitKitty · 03/07/2018 20:02

Eeeek!! So many posts to catch up on!!! Will reply as I read through...

TedLife I'm now CD4 so just one day behind you. :) Jessabean I see we're still roughly on the same schedule. Let's hope we both get our BPFs around the same time too, it would be nice to go through it together. :) Fingers crossed for all three of us cycle triplets!!!

Hi Bobzybaby, welcome. I'm so sorry for your losses. Fingers crossed for you for a sticky and healthy bean in the correct place. xxx

Joining the crochet gang too. I started making some brightly coloured bunting for a baby room when I was pregnant and it's currently in a box waiting for me to be ready to continue it. I knit as well (hence the username). Taught myself loom knitting recently and have been making lots of baby hats. Might donate them.

Pampl3M0usse Keep going and things will get slowly better. Horrible experiences make you stronger. You're doing amazingly! xxx

Funkyemzie that really sucks about the moor fires. :( RE your friend who's had a baby... I'm lost for words. That's just not on at all. I would feel the same as you. hugs!

Haha Laney79 "posh bonk"! Fingers crossed for you this month. xxx

Hidcat I HAD A FEELING FOR YOU! :D so pleased!!! Hope it's a sticky one!!! Best of luck!!!

This has been a lucky thread so far, let's hope it continues!!!

Lovewinemorethanhusband Ooooohh myyy gooooddnessss!!! Gorgeous lickle pup!!!

TinyPaws I'm glad the appointment went well. Good luck for the next steps. xxx

Spooples Good luck. Hope the squinter becomes a line. xxx

So I might start trying the fruit juice stuff as an experiment this month. To those in the know, what do I need to be drinking before FW?

Spooples · 03/07/2018 19:59

Thanks Pancakes :) I went with the old-fashioned ones cause I heard they were more sensitive but maybe that's not true? I'll try to get some digitals after work tomorrow

Pancakes7 · 03/07/2018 19:58

@Spooples Get a digital test so it's clear. It'll read pregnant or not pregnant. No doubting what you see. Fx for you.

Pancakes7 · 03/07/2018 19:56

Meant to add. Trying since Feb 2018.

Pancakes7 · 03/07/2018 19:56

Age 30
Married
Work full time
Ttc for baby number 1
First pregnancy ended in mmc at 10.6 weeks. Had smm 25th May 2018.
In my 6th week since smm. Still no af but bfn. Hoping af arrives soon. Having the I'm broken fear.